Don't enter into marriage with all kinds of expectations, this person when you are in love, don't expect your ability to change when you know him, don't expect the advantages of knowing him not to expect him to always have.
- Thinking in marriage
First, when a woman gives birth, does she really need her husband to be around?
Fang Yinuo, a high school teacher, was lecturing to the students when suddenly, the amniotic fluid broke. She told the child steadily, you study first, I will go and have a child first.
After the husband Xiao Lu put down his work and rushed to the hospital, the child did not move.
It is said that in the case that the wife is about to give birth, the husband must be by his side. However, Xiao Lu received a phone call that seemed to be a matter of work.
Fang Yinuo looked at him in a hurry and said, "You go first, I'm fine." Isn't there still a mom here? In fact, she is also pretending to be strong, and she still expects her husband to stay with her.
As soon as Xiao Lu heard his wife say this, he left.
Fang Yinuo looked at him and walked away without looking back, and said to himself: It is really gone!
The mother complained about her daughter and why she let him go home. Yinuo said, close to the close, will come back in a moment.
In fact, she also has some uneasiness in her heart, but she can't show it in front of her mother, and can only pretend to be indifferent.
Some women in life will also be as particularly sensible as Fang Yinuo, even if they want their husbands to accompany themselves, they will also hide their true thoughts. But I also hope that my husband can take the initiative to stay with him.
However, men usually have thick lines, and if women do not give him clear instructions, he cannot guess your true thoughts, so women can sometimes be slightly "ignorant" and clearly tell their husbands their true needs.
It is said that Xiao Lu returned home, busy for a little while, drank beer, watched the ball game, and unconsciously fell asleep.
He didn't even think about going to the hospital to accompany his wife, so he threw her to his mother-in-law alone.
However, Fang Yinuo suddenly suffered from pain, sweating profusely in pain, and saw that he was about to enter the delivery room. The mother-in-law hurriedly called Xiao Lu, and it took him half a day to wake up by the mobile phone and rush to the hospital.
Halfway through, the mother-in-law called her son and repeatedly told you that you must ask the doctor for a promise of placenta.
Fang Yinuo, who was about to give birth, was very scared, and her mother comforted her and the nurse pushed her into the delivery room.
At this time, Xiao Lu rushed to ask his mother-in-law, what about Xiao Lu? The mother-in-law said angrily, how did you come, people have entered!
Xiao Lu, as a husband, is not very concerned about such a big thing as having a child, indicating that he is not ready to become a father at all. When his wife needed him, he watched the ball game at home. But I don't think about how scared and helpless my wife is alone and how much she needs him.
This kind of man only wants to be comfortable, afraid of being affected, does not know how to take care of his wife, and does not know what is the real heartache. In fact, when his wife is about to give birth, even if he can't help much, even if he is with him, it is an invisible support for his wife. However, Xiao Lu, who was a new father, did not realize this, and he thought that having a child was not a big deal.
In fact, when Fang Yinuo was not yet born, the couple joked, and Fang Yinuo said: "After giving birth, it will be your business." Xiao Lu also smiled and said, "It will be your business later." At this time, Xiao Lu exposed his true thoughts, and it was his wife's business to manage the children in the future.
In reality, there are not many such men, they do not feel the helplessness of their wives, and they are even more indifferent to the matter of having children.
Second, the helplessness of postpartum mothers
1, the husband is playing missing again
Xiao Lu did not take his wife's child very seriously, and he did not want to understand the psychological feelings of women during this period. After the nurse asked him to see the registered placenta, did you want to take it back and deal with it yourself?
Xiao Lu replied yes, and asked the nurse, is my wife okay? The nurse told him that the mother and daughter were safe.
After signing, he secretly went to deliver the placenta to his mother.
When Fang Yinuo was pushed out of the delivery room, there was no one outside. The nurse called out to the family for half a day, but no one responded.
Fang Yinuo closed her eyes weakly, and at that moment she was helpless.
The nurses in the elevator whispered, "Her husband is not there, I will send her to the ward." ”
"This husband is also too unreliable!" The wife had just given birth to her husband and disappeared. ”
"I saw that he took the placenta, and I guess he sent the placenta."
Fang Yinuo, who was lying on the hospital bed, wanted to cry bitterly.
When a woman gives birth to a child, she needs her husband's care the most, and when she comes out of the delivery room, the woman is very weak, if the husband and relatives are around to greet, a word of comfort will make her feel warm.
However, fang Yinuo only saw the cold ceiling of the hospital corridor, and there was not a single relative around.
2, after a woman gives birth, the difference between mother-in-law and mother
There was no one in the delivery room, and everyone gathered around when they returned to the ward.
The nurse brought the child, the mother-in-law hurriedly took over and held it carefully, and the friends who came to visit also looked at the beautiful baby.
Fang Yinuo, who was lying on the bed, was very weak, and spoke very quietly, and she weakly reached for the water on the table, but she did not have any strength.
But everyone watched around the child, no one noticed, at this time, the mother who had just returned from buying milk powder saw it and rushed to feed her daughter water.
At this time, it can be seen that the difference between the mother-in-law and the mother after the woman gives birth to a baby, the mother-in-law only has children in her eyes, but Fang Yinuo's mother is also distressed about her own children.
It's not easy for a woman who is a new mother, and probably only the mother is the one who cares most about whether you hurt or not.
There is one person in this world who will always be partial to you, and that is Mom.
The mother-in-law's concern is in the mouth, and the mother's concern is in the heart.
3, after a woman gives birth to a baby, the body is difficult to say
After Fang Yinuo gave birth to a child, he was incontinent after childbirth, and Xiao Lu smelled the odor and asked, What does this ward smell? Fang Yinuo awkwardly let everyone out and wanted to get it themselves.
After coming out, Xiao Lu asked with a confused face what was wrong. The father-in-law quietly told him that Norrella was on his stomach.
Xiao Lu went in without saying a word.
Fang Yinuo, who wants to be strong, said that she would not let her husband get it, she was very embarrassed and difficult to say.
However, Xiao Lu was still determined to sort out his wife and said domineeringly: "Am I your husband?" What are you afraid of? ”
At this time, the unspeakable secret, even intimate people will not understand. Everyone doesn't want to be seen in a daze, even the closest.
Some people say that it is a woman's self-esteem, and the more husbands, the more they don't want to see it.
Fortunately, Xiao Lu did not give up, or helped his wife finish tidy up, and helped her change her clothes.
What is a couple? It is when you are helpless, when you need each other, and the other person can reach out to take care of you is a husband and wife.
After giving birth, the new mother has to face too many changes, physical changes, the role change from a girl to a mother, and the sense of loss that the family pays attention to the child, in short, this requires the new mother to adapt little by little.
I also hope that in the process of parenting, the husband can become a good teammate of the wife, can really listen to and understand the voice of the wife, and give her more consideration and care, so that the new mother can get through this difficult period.