In his later years, Zhao Benshan should not have imagined that he would appear in the public eye in this way.
Yesterday, Zhao Benshan's daughter Qiu Qiu revealed in the live broadcast room that she broke up with her fiancé she knew and dissolved the marriage contract.
She cried and said that she regretted not listening to her parents' advice and breaking off this relationship earlier.
At the same time, she also posted her fiancé's daily expense records, saying that he spent more than 20 million yuan on her.
For Qiu Qiu's fiancé, the gossip media has long rumored that Zhao Benshan can't look at him.
Seeing this, many netizens will take it for granted that Zhao Benshan's family is too rich to look up to the poor son-in-law.
Of course, the speculation of netizens is not unreasonable, but Zhao Benshan's opposition to this matter is more because QiuQiu's fiancé knows to play games and buy luxury goods every day, and there is no masculinity and righteousness that young people should have.
But before because the ball was crying and shouting that he had to marry, it was going to rain, the baby was going to marry, the old father had to get it, Zhao Benshan had to compromise, and now this ending is probably not necessarily a bad thing for Zhao Benshan.
Fate is like this, we often guess the beginning, but we can't guess the result.
Like Qiu Qiu, the marriage of Zhao Benshan's eldest daughter Zhao Yufang was once opposed by Zhao Benshan.
However, unlike Qiu Qiu, Zhao Yufang, who grew up in a difficult environment, has her own choice criteria for her lover and has her own insistence on marriage, and now this Zhao Yufang's marriage is still very happy.
01
The younger brother is deaf and mute, hard to take care of, and has a difficult childhood
In 1979, Zhao Yufang was born in a poor family in Liaoning, his father Zhao Benshan was a poor little actor at the time, and his mother was a hard-working and simple rural woman.
Other people's childhoods are happy, and Zhao Yufang's childhood is bitter.
At the age of 3, Zhao Yufang's younger brother Zhao Tie Egg was born, and Zhao Tie Egg was born deaf and mute, accompanied by congenital heart disease, emphysema, and hypochondriasis.
The doctor believed that most of the children could not be fed, and he suggested that Zhao Benshan and his wife give up and leave it to the hospital for treatment.
The child is a piece of flesh that falls from the mother's body, as a mother how can she give up.
Ge Shuzhen cried and said that no matter how much sin she suffered, she would also raise her son.
Zhao Benshan also couldn't bear it, and the couple took their son back home.
In order to save money to treat her son's illness, Ge Shuzhen worked in the field day and night, while Zhao Benshan traveled around selling art to make money.
Zhao Yufang, who was only 4 years old at the time, stayed at home to take care of her brother and cook for the family.
At that time, my brother's illness was alternately taken in traditional Chinese medicine and Western medicine, and when it was time to take medicine, because he was deaf and dumb, Zhao Tie Egg could not understand his sister's meaning.
Zhao Yufang had no choice but to use her hand to break her brother's mouth open and try to feed the pills.
Many times Zhao Tie Egg would resist fiercely, and even sometimes kick his sister's stomach with his feet and bite his sister's stomach with his teeth, causing Zhao Yufang's tears to fall straight out of the pain.
After feeding the pills and coaxing her brother to sleep, Zhao Yufang couldn't take a break, so she turned to the stove and watched over to boil Chinese medicine for her brother, and from time to time she went to see if her brother was awake.
Because she has to take care of her brother, Zhao Yufang's range of activities is the house, and sometimes she sees children as old as her running happily outside, and from time to time there is laughter, and Zhao Yufang's eyes are full of envy.
She also had the idea of playing crazy again, but looking at her sleeping brother, she still resisted.
By chance, Zhao Benshan performed the skit "Breaking the Three Strings", and he did not expect the audience to be greatly loved, and he became famous in one fell swoop.
Zhao Benshan's fame is getting bigger and bigger, and he is getting busier and busier.
Busy has become an excuse for his father Zhao Benshan not to go home, an expectation in the heart of his wife Ge Shuzhen, and a missing father's love in Zhao Yufang's eyes.
In 1990, the 33-year-old Zhao Benshan took to the stage of the Spring Festival Gala and has since become a household name.
Seeing that her father was on TV and became a celebrity, Zhao Yufang was very proud.
Her father had not returned home for two years, and she hoped that his father would be able to tell her about his experience in Beijing when he returned home, and she also wanted to ask his father if he had seen the flag raising in Beijing's Tiananmen Square, and how long was the Great Wall?
Unfortunately, imagination is always beautiful, reality is always cruel.
On a dull winter day, the long-awaited father finally returned, and Zhao Yufang was happy and broken.
But the father's face was very serious, and he went straight to the bedroom, where his mother was doing housework, and they whispered in the room, as if accompanied by a small quarrel.
After a while, the mother went into the kitchen with red eyes to cook.
Zhao Yufang did not understand that her father came back, why her mother cried instead, she asked her mother why, Ge Shuzhen did not speak.
That night, Zhao Yufang was confused and heard her mother sobbing quietly.
At that time, Zhao Yufang was only 12 years old, and she still remembers that picture.
02
Parents divorced, brother died, double whammy
The next day, after Zhao Yufang came home from school, she saw her uncle who had not been seen for a long time, and it turned out that her uncle had come to persuade her mother to agree to divorce her father.
Zhao Yufang suddenly realized that her mother cried so sad yesterday because her father wanted to divorce, and her mother did not agree, and today her father let her uncle persuade her.
The uncle was a sober person, and he understood that with zhao Benshan's current fame, his sister would not be happy with him again, but it would be a kind of harm to each other, and it was better to take advantage of the fact that his sister was young and good to get together and disperse.
Sure enough, my mother agreed with my uncle's statement, and soon went through divorce procedures with my father Zhao Benshan.
Zhao Benshan gave ge Shuzhen the custody of the child, the house, the car, and the deposit.
But the material can only compensate for the physical harm, and the psychological damage can not be calculated in terms of material,
Both Zhao Yufang and Ge Shuzhen were suffering greatly psychologically.
Ge Shuzhen was strong in front of people, but often secretly wiped her tears when she was alone, and then she began to work while taking care of her deaf and mute son.
Seeing her mother like this, Zhao Yufang, who has been dependent on her mother since she was a child, is very distressed,
She thought that she must be well-behaved and sensible, so that her mother would worry less and have more peace of mind.
In 1992, the 35-year-old Zhao Benshan remarried, his wife was called Ma Lijuan, and the little Zhao Benshan was 8 years old, not only looking young and beautiful, but also very talented, and was a teacher at the Liaoning Opera Academy.
When Zhao Benshan and Ma Lijuan got married, 13-year-old Zhao Yufang said to her father: I wish my father and Aunt Ma a white head and grow old, and add a cute little brother to me.
For her father's remarriage, the young Zhao Yufang did not complain, but blessed, and it was painful to understand things.
Zhao Benshan's remarriage was reported by major media, and this matter also spread to Zhao Yufang's school, and some classmates cast sympathetic glances at her, more to make fun of her, saying that his father married a beautiful stepmother and did not want her to be a mother.
In short, all kinds of ugly words came to the face.
This cast a shadow over Zhao Yufang's psychology, and she became solitary and taciturn.
Divorce marks the dissolution and failure of marriage, and the children of divorced families feel more or less the product of a failed marriage.
They were already sensitive and fragile, and now the wounds were torn open in the sun, accepting the judgment of everyone.
It is also normal for Zhao Yufang to be depressed.
Ge Shuzhen is aware of her daughter's change, and she knows that the divorce has brought great pain and hurt to her daughter.
In order not to increase her daughter's psychological burden, she buried the pain in her heart and showed her optimism to her daughter.
She also took the initiative to talk to her daughter and told her daughter that even if she and Zhao Benshan were separated, Zhao Benshan would always be her father and would not be less loving to her.
In order to ease her daughter's heart knot, Ge Shuzhen let her daughter go to Zhao Benshan for the New Year every year, and she would also make the sauce beef that Zhao Benshan liked to eat in advance and let Zhao Yufang take it.
After sending her daughter to Zhao Benshan, Ge Shuzhen went home alone.
In the winter of 1994, Zhao Tiefang suddenly died of a heart attack, Zhao Yufang and Zhao Tie egg have been dependent on him since childhood, and now that her brother is gone, Zhao Yufang is crying like a tearful person.
And Ge Shuzhen, who had no son, was the same, and she cried bitterly.
Under the double blow of failing marriage and son's death, Ge Shuzhen fell ill.
She was locked in her room all day, not eating or drinking, and even had the idea of going with her son.
The beloved person is always a small child, and the unloved person always matures early.
Seeing her mother like this, Zhao Yufang could only pretend to be strong, and when she came home from school, she comforted her mother while cooking.
He also advised Ge Shuzhen: Mom, I am 15 years old, I can take care of myself, you go out to find something to do, don't be bored at home.
Under the persuasion of Zhao Yufang, Ge Shuzhen wholesaled some needlework and daily necessities and began to set up stalls on the street.
After school, Zhao Yufang would go to the stall to help her mother, and the mother and daughter would go home after the stall.
03
Admitted to college, met love, father and daughter reconciled
The mother's hardships, daughter Zhao Yufang looked in the eyes, she was angry and strong, and wanted to repay her mother well.
In 1999, Zhao Yufang was admitted to the English Department of Dalian Foreign Chinese College, and she was afraid that her mother would be lonely at home alone, so she let her mother go to Dalian with her.
They rented a small house near the school, usually Ge Shuzhen worked in a small restaurant, and when Zhao Yufang came over on weekends, she would cook for her daughter.
People around her had advised Ge Shuzhen to find someone to live with again, but after a marriage, now her mind was only on her daughter Zhao Yufang, and she didn't want anything else.
When others saw that Ge Shuzhen's oil and salt did not enter, they in turn advised Zhao Yufang: You go and tell your mother, don't work, your father Zhao Benshan is so rich, give it to your mother evenly, she will eat and drink for a lifetime.
Zhao Yufang understands her mother,
Although she is a rural woman with no education, she has a backbone and will not rely on others to live.
Therefore, Zhao Yufang did not tell her mother these words, but supported her mother to be self-reliant and self-reliant.
In 2003, after graduating from university, 24-year-old Zhao Yufang was admitted to the dalian local public security bureau and got a job within the system.
Affected by her parents' divorce, Zhao Yufang became unconvinced of marriage until she was 27 years old and did not even talk about love.
Ge Shuzhen is very anxious, her own marriage is not happy, but she hopes that her daughter is happy, she has no culture, and she can't say anything big, she can only nag bitterly:
It is not okay for women not to get married, you get married early and have a baby, and your mother can help you bring up the baby.
If it's too late, I'll be old and I won't be able to move.
On the other side, Zhao Benshan was also worried about his daughter's marriage problems, and also entrusted people to find a partner for his daughter, but unfortunately was rejected by Zhao Yufang.
Sure enough, the happiness of the child is always the concern of the parents' hearts, even if the parents are separated, they will not change.
Under the urging of her parents, Zhao Yufang finally waited for her love.
In 2007, under the introduction of friends, she met Wang Yang, and soon the two confirmed their relationship.
Wang Yang, 4 years younger than Zhao Yufang, worked as a quality inspector at the Tieling Trading Company after transferring from the army, with a monthly salary of only 2,000 yuan.
Wang Yang's parents are farmers, and Zhao Benshan feels that the gap between the two is too big, and resolutely opposes his daughter Zhao Yufang's association with him.
Zhao Yufang, who grew up in the countryside, has a simple personality and is very close to Wang Yang, and she said to her father Zhao Benshan: If you oppose my love affair with Wang Yang, I will beat a bare stick for a lifetime.
In the end, Zhao Benshan could only compromise.
On October 6, 2008, Zhao Yufang and Wang Yang held a wedding in Tieling, and her father Zhao Benshan organized the entire wedding for her and married her beautifully.
The night before the marriage, Zhao Benshan deliberately asked Zhao Yufang for a conversation:
Dad is sorry for you, did not give you a complete home, let you bear a lot at a young age.
Dad hopes that after you get married, you can be happy and blessed!
Looking at his father's gray hair and the wrinkles on his forehead, tears swirled in Zhao Yufang's eyes.
In the eyes of outsiders, her father's fame and fortune are both beautiful and beautiful, but she knows that it is not easy for her father for so many years, to perform everywhere, but also to bear pressure from all directions, and often insomnia before the Spring Festival Gala performance.
That night, the knot that had followed Zhao Yufang for many years was finally unraveled, and she cried out "Daddy" with deep affection, and then the two fathers and daughters hugged their heads and cried.
Probably the most precious thing in the world is reconciliation and blessing across the years!
In 2011, Zhao Yufang gave birth to a son Wang Han, perhaps more mature as a mother, she can look at her parents' marriage with a rational eye, no longer resent her father, she knows that some things really can't be forced, such as feelings.
But she still hurt her mother, so many years of mother alone to bear all kinds of things, as a daughter, all she can do now is to take good care of her mother, filial piety to her, no longer let her suffer a little grievance.
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The son is handsome, the family is happy, and happiness is regained
Every New Year's Festival, Zhao Yufang will bring fruits and red wine to visit her father Zhao Benshan, although Zhao Benshan does not lack anything, but the etiquette is light and affectionate, and the daughter has this heart more than anything.
Ma Lijuan did not oppose their father-daughter relationship, but always supported it.
When Zhao Yufang was studying, she often called Zhao Yufang for Zhao Benshan's living expenses, and at Zhao Yufang's wedding, she also appeared on the scene in time to send blessings.
Having such a good stepmother is also Zhao Yufang's luck.
In order to take care of his daughter, Zhao Benshan arranged a position for Wang Yang in the Benshan Media Group, and later in order to work with her husband, Zhao Yufang also entered the Benshan Media.
Zhao Yufang's son Wang Han is lively and cute, quite talented in acting, and is very popular with Zhao Benshan.
In 2020, when Zhao Benshan cast the TV series "Liu Laogen 3", he asked Wang Han to play his grandson in the play.
9-year-old Wang Han is not afraid of the stage, can quickly enter the role and remember the lines, the shooting process is very smooth.
After the scene was filmed, Zhao Yufang and her mother went to the crew to pick up their son.
In order to avoid embarrassment, Ge Shuzhen did not meet with Zhao Benshan and let Zhao Yufang go alone to pick up her son.
Zhao Benshan saw Ge Shuzhen from a distance and said to his daughter in a serious tone:
Your mother is not easy, you are kind to her, and tell your father if there are any difficulties in life. After listening to this sentence, Zhao Yufang's eyes turned red
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It is undeniable that although Zhao Benshan divorced his ex-wife, his love for his daughter Zhao Yufang was not less.
Both materially and spiritually, he gave his daughter the greatest support.
He knows that the divorce of his parents has an impact on the child's body and mind, and he also tries to make up for it and minimize the damage.
Zhao Yufang was unfortunate, born in a poor rural area, and had to take care of her sick brother at a young age.
Later, her parents divorced, her father remarried, and her family was torn apart, so she was isolated by her classmates.
Then her brother died, and her mother was devastated, and she took on the responsibility of comforting her mother.
But she was also lucky, although her parents were separated, but the love for her did not diminish at all, the stepmother was also friendly and kind to her, and later met her true destiny and had a well-behaved and lovely child.
There is no road in life, every step counts.
Yesterday's hardships are only to pave the way for today's happiness, how difficult Zhao Yufang was once, how happy she is now.
I wish this strong, optimistic, sensible girl eternal happiness.
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