"In this life, I always feel indebted to her, sorry for her, she is kind to me." After living for most of his life, Zhao Benshan's most worried about him was his original wife, Ge Shuzhen. ”
What kind of person was Ge Shuzhen, and what did she have to do with Zhao Benshan?
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Zhao Benshan was born in Lianhua Township, Kaiyuan County, Liaoning Province, after the death of his mother, his father was absent from home for many years, and since he was a child, Zhao Benshan was a person with a lively mind and a clever way to see things.
When his father was absent from home for many years, he followed his second uncle. The second uncle was a blind and versatile man, and he passed on all his experience to Zhao Benshan. Zhao Benshan is this piece of material, the brain is bright, and he will learn it as soon as he learns it. You can also play on your own.
This is also the artistic enlightenment of Zhao Benshan, since then he has mastered the skills of pulling erhu and blowing the whistle, of course, the best is the two-person rotation.
At the age of 17, he joined the village's literary and art propaganda team and officially began the road of acting.
In 1979, Zhao Benshan was 22 years old, and this age was an older youth in the countryside.
However, Zhao Benshan's family was poor and white, and he could not do farm work himself, and in the village at that time, he was considered a "second-rate son". The girls in the village were reluctant to follow him. The elder neighbor asked someone to go to the nearby village to help him introduce a girl.
This girl is Ge Shuzhen.
Shuzhen's parents died since childhood, he lived with his brother, and when he got older, he had to tell her about her in-laws. That's how the two met.
As soon as he looked at the face, Zhao Benshan found that this girl looked flat, had thin eyebrows and fine eyes, stood there, rubbed the corners of her clothes, asked a question and a reply, twisted and pinched, not the kind of lord with a happy mouth.
This is also different from the wife that Zhao Benshan thought of. The single sticks in the village envied him and felt that he had found a daughter-in-law and made a family.
The intellectual youth who went to the countryside asked him, have you decided to accept such a woman? No emotion?
Relatives advised him, "This girl is honest and capable, and isn't it to find a woman who runs the family?" ”
Zhao Benshan felt that Ge Shuzhen was very good to her.
This year, Ge Shuzhen was 19 years old. For a young girl, starting a new life after starting a family, she finally found her own life. However, when he came to Zhao Benshan's house, she couldn't help but feel a chill in her heart.
The yard was overgrown with weeds, the windows were leaking, the roof was leaking rain, and there was no furniture in the house. A board on the stone is a table. There is no way to live at all.
Without saying a word, she rolled up her sleeves and straightened out the yard, repaired the house, and lit the fire to cook.
When she brought a bowl of hot food to Zhao Benshan's eyes, Zhao Benshan's heart was hot, and she almost didn't shed tears.
This is home!
Zhao Benshan has been an orphan since he was a child, no one loves, stumbles, grows up easily, no one cooks, it is all the rubbing rice of the East family and the West family.
At this moment, he was very moved, and it was the unfamiliar girl in front of him who gave him a home. In this way, there was no banquet, no wedding, and Zhao Benshan and Ge Shuzhen were married.
After marriage, life is also very poor, Ge Shuzhen at home to cultivate a piece of land, grow vegetables, raise poultry, so that there is no worry about food. When you work in the fields, you can also earn back food. Zhao Benshan followed the village's literary and art team, performing everywhere, and he could also earn some money.
In this way, the home is more and more like a home, and sometimes, Zhao Benshan comes back late, and Ge Shuzhen always waits for him to eat together.
Looking at the starry sky and smelling the flowers planted by Ge Shuzhen in the courtyard, Zhao Benshan was particularly satisfied. He told Ge Shuzhen that he still had to work harder, and he had to go out of this township and perform in the big city to make Ge Shuzhen live better.
Ge Shuzhen went from strange to familiar with Zhao Benshan, and she was glad that she had found a self-motivated and cultured husband.
The days with Zhao Benshan, Zhao Benshan gags, humor and funny, often make her laugh, sweet days pass quickly. This year, Ge Shuzhen became pregnant.
After pregnancy, Ge Shuzhen still rarely rests, and sometimes her appetite is not good, and she will also cook for Zhao Benshan. Since then, Ge Shuzhen has made a good dish, Zhao Benshan is willing to drink a cup every day when she comes home, and the villagers who perform together all praise her for marrying a good daughter-in-law.
Zhao Benshan followed the propaganda team to perform outside, and would also bring back some supplements for his wife, and sometimes buy new clothes for his daughter-in-law. The relationship between the two people is getting better and better, and it is becoming more and more solid.
At the end of 1979, Zhao Benshan's first child was born and named Zhao Yufang. Xiao Yufang looks like her father, delicate and cute, Zhao Benshan looks more and more likes, every day when she comes back from work, she always holds her head high and runs around in the yard.
Sometimes, the performance place is close, and Zhao Benshan will bring his daughter-in-law and daughter to the scene to cheer himself up.
Ge Shuzhen was very satisfied, she thought that the previous hard days had passed, and her good days had come. She would thank God countless times in her heart.
And Zhao Benshan's career is getting better and better. He used all the skills he had learned from his second uncle before, and the two of them turned witty and humorous, making everyone laugh. Villagers from neighboring villages often come from afar to enjoy themselves.
And the real hit was a performance in 1982, when Liaoning Province held the first rural small drama performance, there was a director named Li Zhongtang, invited him to act in his own choreographed sketch "Three Strings", which was an opportunity for Zhao Benshan, which also meant that Zhao Benshan had the opportunity to embark on a bigger and better stage.
Get this opportunity, Zhao Benshan put all his energy here, he often repeatedly pondered the action expression, performed to Ge Shuzhen, listened to Ge Shuzhen's evaluation, although Ge Shuzhen did not understand, but will continue to encourage, she knows, Zhao Benshan line.
Usually, I will also settle the children well and not disturb Zhao Benshan. The performance was late, and she would make him a late-night snack. In this way, Zhao Benshan had no worries, let go of his hands and feet, and ran to his career.
"Breaking the Three Strings" made Zhao Benshan a household name in Tieling City overnight, his performance level was highly praised by industry experts, and the Tieling Theater Troupe provided him with a platform for further development, and many directors and drama classes looked for him.
In the career getting better and better, but there is an accident at home.
In 1982, his second child was born, and when the whole family was immersed in joy, they found that something was wrong with the child, and after examination, it was found that the child was not only deaf and mute, but also had emphysema and congenital heart disease.
The news undoubtedly cast a shadow over the family. Deafness is already unfortunate, congenital heart disease, but also means that there is a possibility of leaving at any time.
At the beginning, Zhao Benshan asked people to inquire about the big hospital in Liaoning, how much money it would spend, but also to treat the children, slowly, the reality was cruelly placed in front of them, and it could not be cured at all.
In the face of the poor child, Ge Shuzhen was very remorseful, depressed all day, and Zhao Benshan was also very sad in his heart, but to make money to treat the child, he could only work harder.
Ge Shuzhen has two children to take care of, busy and tired, so that she can not take care of Zhao Benshan more and more, and Zhao Benshan often performs outside, the number of times to go home is countless, the home slowly becomes like a hotel, the atmosphere is dull, the feelings of the two are getting more and more stiff, and there is nothing to say together.
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In 1987, Zhao Benshan partnered with Pan Changjiang to star in the sketch "Blind Man Watching the Lights", which became famous for a time.
Once, on the way to the Daqing performance, Zhao Benshan was in a car accident, broke his ribs, and was sent to the hospital for emergency treatment. Because she had to take care of the children at home, Ge Shuzhen did not go to the hospital. When Zhao Benshan was seriously injured in bed, a friend called Ma Lijuan, who had performed with Zhao Benshan, to take care of him.
Ma Lijuan is a young teacher at Liaoning Opera School, dignified and intellectual, generous and lively, and has her own opinions on artistic performance. It is simply the image of Zhao Benshan's dream lover. When performing in the troupe, Zhao Benshan noticed her.
During the hospitalization, as soon as she had time, Ma Lijuan and Zhao Benshan discussed theatrical art, Zhao Benshan's art was groped out from folk practice and had a very practical mass base, Ma Lijuan was graduated from college, had a full theoretical foundation, and the exchanges between the two had a feeling of seeing each other and hating each other.
However, Zhao Benshan still remembered his children and wife, so after being divided into three rooms and one hall in Tieling, he took the children and his wife all over.
Ge Shuzhen slowly walked out of the sad mood, she said to Zhao Benshan, live a life, we still have to look forward, we will take care of these two children, it is worthy of them, if you still want children, we will regenerate.
Later, in 1982, when the state planned family planning, they did not have children again. This may also be a hurdle in Zhao Benshan's heart.
Zhao Benshan's fame is getting bigger and bigger, and more and more women are in contact with him, and she has also listened to some of the gossip, but she doesn't want to think about what she hasn't seen, although Ge Shuzhen is not steadfast in her heart.
In 1988, Zhao Benshan's "Double Duck" almost entered the CCTV Spring Festival Gala, and his works appeared on CCTV on National Day that year. In 1990, Zhao Benshan entered the CCTV Spring Festival Gala with "Blind Date" and won the first prize of the program in one fell swoop, and since then, the north and south of the river have become a household name.
At that time, advertisements, dramas, and activity invitations flew like snowflakes in the northeast, and Zhao Benshan's income rose at a hundred times faster, and various pursuits and compliments made Zhao Benshan a little fluttery.
Later, Zhao Benshan explained that at that time, "we were all walking on the road of young people, suddenly from poor to rich, suddenly this kind of pressure and light, to give you the self that was refracted, some were not calm, little by little the road was long, you may know that when I was young, some places were immature."
Zhao Benshan is already a celebrity, surrounded by celebrities and magnates, and he and Marina have been in love for a long time.
He didn't want to go back to the home that represented backwardness and his past, he wanted to start a new life. And Ge Shuzhen has not changed, still the rural woman. Living together didn't shorten the distance between the two.
During this period, Zhao Benshan wanted to file for divorce many times, but Ge Shuzhen married him from the age of 19, accompanied him through hardships, and was diligent and diligent, and when he said that he wanted to divorce at the age of 30, he felt that he could not say it. But the two did go farther and farther.
In 1991, he filed for divorce. It was a bit stuffy that day, although it was May.
He said, "Shuzhen, thanks to your care over the years, you have paid a lot, I know, but I really don't have a common language with you, otherwise, let's separate!" ”
These words were like the cold hail of spring smashing on the tender wheat seedlings of spring, Ge Shuzhen was sad for a while, did not speak, she had long realized that there was this day, and she had long been whispering. I didn't expect it so soon, she was only 31 years old.
"The child is still young, I am busy with work, I can't take care of them, the child is following you."
Too cruel! This sad story still has to be written by himself, and the husband who used to dig out his heart and lungs and share the bitterness and bitterness actually threw up his hands and walked.
Considering that they do not have a job, the child also needs living expenses and treatment expenses. Ge Shuzhen said, "I also want to live with my children", Zhao Benshan thought, and he could earn money later. He left the three-bedroom house, the semi-new car and the two hundred thousand yuan saved as living expenses, education expenses, and medical expenses to this family, and completely settled it.
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After the divorce, in the face of this broken home, a 9-year-old deaf-mute child with congenital heart disease, and a 12-year-old child who can't support the family, Ge Shuzhen no matter how much she collapses, she still has to pick up her mood and try to live.
Although there are more than 200,000 yuan, but there are still many opportunities to use money later, Ge Shuzhen is not willing to spend money, and plans to go to work and subsidize the family.
A rural woman who wants to find a job in the city can only do manual work, because she has to take care of the children, she can not do full-time work, she can only find time to do odd jobs.
After hitting a wall many times, she finally found a job as a dishwasher at a hot pot restaurant. Coming out of the house, she can make money through her own ability, and that sense of value makes her feel bitter and happy.
She never mentioned her relationship with Zhao Benshan.
Usually taking care of children, but also take time to work, sometimes she is really tired.
Once, she came back late from work, her brother was hungry and screaming, her sister was cooking noodles sensibly, and at that moment, Ge Shuzhen was very sad, how much she needed a man's help!
Zhao Benshan's days of not being at home have cultivated her strong heart, and the powerless moments in life can no longer defeat her, pack up her emotions, and bring hope to the children.
In 1992, the news of Zhao Benshan and Marina's marriage went away, and when he was working at the hot pot restaurant, the customers in the store discussed, "Zhao Benshan is married twice, the bride is a teacher of the Xiqu Academy, and the two are really compatible." ”
Just a year after the divorce, the ex-husband got married, ge Shuzhen's heart was like a knife, eager to drop the dishes in her hand and rush out to cry. "It's all over, live your life," she said to herself, swallowing bitter water.
Sometimes life will give you a series of critical blows when you just stand up, making you fall down again.
In 1994, his son left him because of a sudden congenital heart attack, and the rescue was ineffective. She couldn't take the blow and passed out. Zhao Benshan also gave his son a ride. Along the way, neither spoke.
Losing her son, Ge Shuzhen cherished the days with her daughter even more. When her daughter was admitted to college, she accompanied her to Dalian. She wholesaled small goods, set up stalls on the street, was chased by the city management, dropped things on the road, and did not dare to go back to get them.
Later, she found a job as a salesman, when someone said to help Ge Shuzhen introduce an object, she refused, maybe she was too deeply hurt by Zhao Benshan, maybe she didn't want to go back to the marriage walled city to suffer.
In 2003, his daughter Zhao Yufang graduated from university, and Zhao Benshan asked Zhao Yufang to help in his company. Zhao Yufang also wants her mother to pass, so that she doesn't have to work so hard.
She said, "Let Dad find you a position in the company, and you can go too." Ge Shuzhen touched her daughter's head and said lovingly, "You have also grown up, you left your father since you were a child, and now you have the ability, go to your father's side to help." ”
Ge Shuzhen raised the child and handed it over to her father, she had no worries, she also wanted to live her own life, this year, she set up a restaurant to start a business, do catering.
She first figured out that the reason why the original store was not running well was because the store was short of two pounds, so she increased the amount of dishes, cooked herself, and ate and lived in the restaurant every day.
Slowly, her shop business got better and better, with a lot of income every day, worth millions. She finally felt her sense of worth, and she felt that she could stand in front of Zhao Benshan without any sense of inferiority.
This day soon arrived, daughter Zhao Yufang got married, at the wedding scene, Ge Shuzhen stood next to her daughter, not humble, she did not need to borrow the protection of Zhao Benshan, but also able to have her own piece of the sky, have her own circle.
Until that moment, she forgave Zhao Benshan, if there was no Zhao Benshan's departure, she might still be the housewife who had no self and surrendered to the family, and today she does not have to rely on anyone, and she can live happily.
Ge Shuzhen is very strong, but also very independent.
Even in the most difficult times, he never took the initiative to extend a hand to Zhao Benshan for help. In her own words: Zhao Benshan is Zhao Benshan, I am me, I can't smash his signboard, and I can't smash ge Shuzhen's signboard either.
Zhao Benshan has been in the mall for many years, his wealth has increased, and the various pressures and contradictions he faces are also huge. In 2009, after a performance, he suddenly suffered a cerebral hemorrhage, and after 7 days of emergency rescue, he finally recovered a life.
When Ge Shuzhen saw him, he did not have the strength to speak because of the operation, his hair was gray, and his body was full of tubes.
Think of the spirited young guy at that time, turned into an old man with a flower armor, is to make a lot of money, but since then on a huge burden, with the distress of public figures, but also lost the simple happiness of ordinary people, her tears in the eye circles swirling, "this age, don't fight too hard, give it to the children, work hard for more than half a lifetime, enjoy it."
Later, Zhao Benshan said in an interview that "when you encounter a difficult obstacle, you are still your wife, the most worthy of dependence", later, he looked back on most of his life, he said, "What I owe the most is Ge Shuzhen, she did not try to make me a little thing, I failed her, sometimes I have to be kind, I have done some wrong things." ”
Zhao Benshan has not seen anyone for most of his life, but a woman with a backbone, an independent woman, has won his deep respect and repentance for half a lifetime, and this woman is precisely because of her self-reliance and self-esteem, after a few years, she also let herself live the life she wants, and it is getting better and better, she is Ge Shuzhen, that ordinary rural woman.