Text: Ten miles
"I'm in such good condition, why can't I find an object?"
The other day, a female friend asked me this question.
A friend said to himself: "I am 30 years old this year, graduated from a bachelor's degree, 162cm tall, my figure is OK, my looks are OK, the company front desk, no car and no house." My requirements are not high, the man is more than 180cm tall, the appearance is medium to high, under 35 years old, graduate degree or above, the job is required to be stable, there is a car and a house, the annual salary is more than 500,000, why do I look for so long, I can't find it? ”
In reality, there are not a few people who are as troubled as this friend.
Why do you know that the conditions are good, but you can't find the object?
According to the data, China's single population is as high as 240 million, of which 80% of single people have certain emotional barriers.
It is also because of these reasons that they have the end of being single.
If you can't find the object, you may have these problems.
You think the conditions are good, but you just think it's your own.
In reality, many single people have been unable to find a partner because they have formulated mate selection criteria that are not suitable for themselves.
They don't recognize themselves, they always look up to themselves and look down on others.
Hence the situation: "The people I love, the famous flowers have the Lord, and the people who love me, are miserable." ”
What kind of conditions you are, maybe others know.
As there is a saying: "When someone introduces you to a blind date, it is actually your own good or bad."
Most people can rest assured that a person whose conditions are far inferior to yours will never have the courage to pursue you.
Those who come back and actively pursue you are often people who have similar conditions to you.
For the matter of choosing a mate, it must be formulated from its own conditions.
When your strength is not worthy of your ambition, it is doomed to be a void.
Even if you barely get it, you can't keep this good thing.
We all want to pursue a more perfect partner, but that kind of partner is unrealistic and can only exist in our imagination forever.
The prince and the princess, everyone likes, but we are people of two worlds with them.
Truly happy love and marriage must be the right door, and two people who do not match cannot really come together.
There is no pair method, there is no object.
It is often said: "It has long been predestined in the underworld, and there are thousands of miles to meet." ”
So many people began to wait for buddhism and thought that they would eventually get the love they wanted.
But in fact, is fate really already predestined?
The answer must be no.
Two suitable people, the probability of meeting is already small, if you are still blindly stupid and wait for love, then it is doomed to be empty.
It's like Xue Zhaofeng said:
"If there are two people in the world who are the only ones in each other's life, they will not meet in this life, there are 7 billion people in the world like 7 billion green beans, there are two red beans, they are the only ones in each other's life, do you think they will meet?" 」
Love is not waiting for or asking for, but is won by one's own initiative.
Even those who have good conditions must learn to take the initiative.
The more people with good conditions, the more difficult it is to get off the list, because everyone may think that you have such good conditions and have already taken off the list.
As a result, everyone stayed away.
But in fact, you just missed it.
If you really yearn for love, you may wish to take the initiative, otherwise you may only wait for a lonely.
Can we wait until the most suitable person?
Most likely, it is impossible to wait.
Over time, this probability will slowly become smaller.
Everyone yearns for love and wants to taste sweet love. But when it comes to really close, there will always be people who will inevitably have stage fright.
The reason why many people dare not take the initiative is that they are afraid that they will fail and then lose face.
So they said with all kinds of mouths: "In fact, a person is also very good, and it will be a lot less trouble." ”
It can be like people drinking water, cold and warm self-knowledge.
Whether they are doing well or not, only they know.
For love, if you really want to have it, don't be hard-mouthed anymore, and be brave enough to pursue it.
Compared to love, failure and face problems are not enough at all.
Even if you fail in love, no one will come back to laugh at you, and you will not lose face, because everyone who goes after love deserves to be respected.
If you don't try, then you never get a chance. And after trying, there is still a possibility of success.
What if someone else likes you too? What if the other person is right for you?
All of this, if you don't try, everything is unknown.
Most of us miss the right person, in fact, the main reason is that we lack the courage to pursue love, so we regret it for life.
Sometimes, what we lack is not the right person, but the courage to take the initiative.
If you don't take the initiative, then no matter how suitable you meet someone, the other party is just a passerby.
As with that story:
"He was in his early thirties, a professional writer, and longed for marriage.
She was twenty-eighty-nine, loved literature, and aspired to find a writer husband.
He is 183cm tall and has a perfect figure, and wants to find a 160cm object.
She is 161cm tall and wants to find someone over 180cm.
He loves Japanese culture the most and wants to see Mt. Fuji.
She majored in Japanese at the university and is the most proficient in Japanese.
He fit all her aesthetics.
She was his perfect match.
That day, they met, at a grocery store.
They glanced at each other and then passed by.
Then, it's gone then. ”
You see, for feelings, if you don't take the initiative, then you may only miss it when you meet something that suits you.
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