When I was young, I felt that the marriage of a prince and a princess would be happy because they had the most beautiful love.
When I became an adult, I searched for it and tried to pursue perfect love, but I found that even two people who loved each other again, after marriage, would inevitably be a chicken feather.
Therefore, many people say that marriage kills love, and marriage is the graveyard of love. If you want to have a long-lasting love, the best way is not to get married.
But in fact, is this really the case? Why did the love between the prince and the princess continue to be written when "they lived happily ever after"? I am afraid that the author has already gained insight into the truth of marriage.
The triviality of chai rice oil and salt tells us that no one's marriage can be separated from human fireworks, love can be a castle built in the air, but marriage must be down-to-earth.
Those who are full of naïve fantasies about love are just young boys and girls who do not understand the world.
For adults, the meaning of marriage is no longer as simple as love. Sentient beings cannot drink enough water, and even sweet love is inseparable from the fireworks of the world.
Marriage without exception, must be based on material, spirit is important, but without the support of money, it is difficult to move forward.
And in marriage, the most important thing is not love, but responsibility and responsibility.
The evaluation of the quality of a marriage is not to see how deeply two people have loved, but to see whether each other can support a family. In the long years, having children, supporting each other, and spending their lives together.
This is the true meaning of marriage. If you only pursue simple love, it will be difficult for anyone to go on as desired.
Shen Fu, a literary scholar of the Qing Dynasty, was a talented man. When he was young, he fell in love with Chen Yun at first sight, and finally got his wish to get a beautiful return.
Shen Fu was born in the Zhong Ding family and did not have to worry about his livelihood. After the new marriage, he and Chen Yun went to study separately, and when they did not see each other for a day, Mr. Li saw that he was homesick and allowed the holiday.
Since then, Shen Fu has indulged in the gentle countryside, and Chen Yun and his wife have been in love, and they have been in love between the mountains and rivers, and they are not happy.
However, if a man cannot support a family, how can he ensure that his wife and children will have no worries for a lifetime? Shen Fu is a gentleman, looks uninhibited, and in the end, he is not exempt from vulgarity.
The family was in the middle of the road, and he and his wife Chen Yun were not good at handling interpersonal relations, and when they were driven out of the house by their parents, they had no valuables, so they had to send their daughters to other people's homes as child brides, and sent their children to the shop as apprentices.
His wife Chen Yun fell ill, and Shen Fu could not take out the money for medical treatment, so he had to pawn jewelry and clothing, and eventually died in a foreign country. His daughter lived a life worse than death in her in-laws' house, and her son died before he was a child.
The love between Shen Fu and Chen Yun has touched many people, and the husband and wife Qin Ser and Ming are envied by many literati, but it is difficult to seriously analyze their marriage.
As the pillar of the family, Shen Fu did not have the ability to make a living. And Chen Yun, as a wife and mother, does not know how to plan for the family.
People have no far-reaching worries, there must be near-term worries, husband and wife when the economy is rich, only care about love, but do not know how to make a suitable plan for the development of a family.
Having children but not being able to take responsibility for their lives, and losing the false name of parenthood. And love each other again, after all, middle-aged yin and yang are separated.
Their stories make people sigh, and more problems are actually on the couple. No matter how beautiful love is, life is very realistic, marriage is far from only love, too many needs are based on responsibilities and obligations.
If Shen Fu could let go of his children's love, Chen Yun could think of danger in peace, and perhaps he would not have a miserable ending.
In fact, if you think about it, love is really not so important in marriage.
The older generation, most of them are matchmakers, and even if they only meet on the day of their wedding, it is impossible to have a good emotional basis.
But most people's marriages, noisy and noisy can also live a lifetime. Because they understand that life is life, marriage is no longer simply for themselves, and it is the responsibility to support a family.
It is the responsibility of marriage to have children, to give children stable happiness, and to let the family move forward in an orderly and stable manner.
Nowadays, most people get married because of love, but some couples who once loved very deeply and strongly have exhausted their love in getting along, and finally come to the end of both sides.
Excessive pursuit of the role of love in marriage ignores many of the more practical problems in marriage, so it can only fall apart.
Is love important or not?
Of course, it is important, and the feelings do not know what to do, but the love is deep. With this good premise, marriage can be successful.
However, modern people overemphasize the importance of love, pay too much attention to their own emotional gains and losses, and forget the essence of life.
Yi Shu once said that marriage has nothing to do with love, people always think that after love matures, they will naturally get married, but they do not know that marriage is just a way of life, everyone can get married, it is very simple. Love is another matter entirely.
Marriage with love is like icing on the cake, but there is no love marriage, some are two people working hard together, such a marriage will not be very bad, as long as you calm your mind and understand the focus of life, everyone can have simple happiness.
Rather than pursuing love too much in marriage and understanding the direction of life, this feeling will make your happiness last longer.
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