People who have read "Six Memories of Floating Life" must have a deep memory of Yunniang in the book.
Lin Yutang once translated the book into English and promoted it to the world, and wrote in the preface to the translation:
"Yun, I think, is the cutest woman in Chinese literature."
People at first glance are touched by Yunniang's cleverness and romance, and they regret her tragic fate.
However, as he grew older, he found that yunniang's fate was not only the harm of feudal etiquette.
It was in her daily words and deeds that she buried the unfortunate foreshadowing little by little.
She went from being carefree in food and clothing to being rejected and expelled by her in-laws, and she ended up with poor food and clothing.
In the end, a pair of children were unable to support themselves, and they were plagued by illness in poverty and illness, and died in poverty and illness.
Yunniang's fate of opening high and walking low is the result of her own step-by-step choice.
Man's ease without far-sightedness is a short-sighted pleasure
The marriage between Yunniang and Shen Fu is the kind of lover who eventually becomes a family member, and in the first half of their lives they are a pair of immortal couples who do not eat fireworks in the world.
A pair of newlywed Yan'er, spending the summer in the place where the curtains are draped, an old tree under the eaves, thick shade covering the window, away from the crowd, beautiful like a painting.
Yunniang embroidered female red, Shen Fu read and read, talked about ancient and modern, tasted flowers and plants, and enjoyed the happiness of the world.
The descriptions in the book are desirable:
"Enter the garden in the morning, plant vegetables and fruits, herbs, irrigate flowers, and herbs." Return to the room and close your eyes. ”
"Make a few close friends, go to the wild stream, or play the piano and chess, or bend the waters; or say something good karma, or talk about the rise and fall of the present and the ancient; look at the flowers and branches, and listen to the birds and make a spring."
It is really "a person who has repeated feelings, the world is hot and cold, the leisure years are good, and the time is spent in a dashing manner."
While enjoying themselves, they forget one of the most important things, that is, planning for the future livelihood.
All the beauty is funded by the ancestral industry, and the father's hard work to make money and pay the bill, in exchange for the quiet good years.
They never seem to have the slightest intention for future economic resources, nor have they ever made a rational plan for their future lives.
The wind and snow moon are beautiful, but there is affection for drinking water, and it really can't fill your stomach.
Don't think about planning the way out of the future, just look at the beauty in front of you, sooner or later there will be no way out.
When they were expelled from the house by their father, they found that they did not even have the basic ability to survive.
All those who have reached the point of exhaustion have come to the point of being confused with their own feet, and they have not used their brains properly, and what kind of situation will each step lead to.
Life does not deceive people with long-term vision, nor can it deceive people who think clearly and think far.
If you feel that life has deceived anyone, it is only because some people have been deceiving themselves.
In the dilemma of family chores, it is not clear right or wrong
Yunniang is clever and clever in Shen Fu's pen, but she did a very confused thing, which led to the complete breakdown of the relationship with her mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, and also laid the groundwork for her to be expelled by the big family.
One day, Yunniang received a letter from Shen Fu, which said:
Father-in-law sits in the Hanjiang Pavilion in Yangzhou, Jiangsu Province, and is inevitably lonely in a foreign country, and wants to find a woman familiar with the sound of the countryside from his hometown to serve and live, Shen Fu asked Yunniang to find a concubine for her father.
If Yunniang thinks about what kind of mood the mother-in-law of the same woman is in, she can completely ignore it.
However, the clever and clever Yunniang is completely the opposite, hiding from her mother-in-law's enthusiasm to operate.
She secretly took a woman surnamed Yao and took her to play at home, and her mother-in-law saw Yunniang and prevaricated that she just came to play at home.
Later, the woman surnamed Yao became the concubine of her father-in-law, and the mother-in-law suddenly realized that a wave of hatred suddenly appeared, and a rift between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law could never be repaired.
Afterwards, the father-in-law did not feel grateful for what Yunniang did, but he became more and more disgusted with her, and it is not difficult to guess that this is not unrelated to the mother-in-law's long-term pillow wind.
In the family, it is best not to rush to take a stand on the matter of public saying that the public is reasonable and the wife is reasonable, because "it is difficult for the clean officials to judge the family affairs", let alone be a member of it.
In the face of such a thing, it is best not to rush the team, and not to take sides.
Because sooner or later this kind of thing will be revealed, if the deceived party learns the truth, it will hate you for a lifetime.
And the person who has received your help may not remember the good in your life.
In the dilemma, mixing yourself up is the real confusion.
The way to distinguish between right and wrong is to protect yourself, and you know in your heart that you may as well pretend to be confused.
When encountering a dilemma, it is better to be slow than urgent, and it is better not to do it than to stir yourself into the game.
Tired is not flattering, not to say, but also to attract resentment, what a pain to come.
Waste money on people who don't deserve it
In "The Six Memories of Fusheng", Shen Fu and Yunniang had a dialogue:
Shen Fu asked: Qing He is far away from the gentleman and close to the villain?
Yunniang replied: I laugh at the gentleman who loves the little man's ear.
The ancients said that words are the voice of the heart, and this word is most appropriate to use on Yunniang.
She didn't just say that, she did it.
For a while, Yunniang was bent on taking a concubine for Shen Fu.
Shen Fu objected, saying that he was nothing more than a poor scholar who could not afford to raise a concubine. Not to mention that the couple has a particularly good relationship and does not need other women.
Yunniang did not consider their financial situation at all, and only thought in her heart: cloth food, cola for life.
She was too idealistic to think that Shen Fu had a wife and a concubine around him, as long as the cloth was warm, the food was full, and the fireworks could become gods.
But she didn't think: "Life is bumpy, what is the matter?" They are often self-inflicted. ”
Yunniang found a woman named Huan Yuan, who is really a woman full of charm in piano, chess, calligraphy and painting, both beautiful and talented, and is exactly her ideal character.
But when Yunniang spent almost all her belongings on her, Yuan Yuan turned her face to marry a more powerful man.
Talented and beautiful but without morality, Yunniang lost her personal wealth twice, fell seriously ill, and since then has fallen ill, laying the foundation for her early death in the future.
The reason why Shen Fu and Yunniang were expelled by their in-laws is also related to money.
Shen Fu's younger brother Qitang borrowed money from the neighbor's family and asked Yunniang to act as a guarantor for him, and Yunniang agreed without thinking.
But after Qitang delayed in repaying the money, the neighbor came to the door to collect the debt, the father-in-law questioned the reason, Yunniang answered truthfully, and Qitang denied it.
Yunniang was indisputable, and was accused by her father-in-law of slandering her uncle and disobeying her mother-in-law, and in anger, she expelled the husband and wife from the door, and from then on they went to the road of exile.
The sentence: "Although I sigh at his talent and thoughts, I am afraid that his blessings are not deep." "It seems to have become a portrayal of Yunniang's life."
All the money spent recklessly will be secretly marked with regret.
By the time of the great enlightenment, although the remorse is mixed, it is irreparable.
Everyone knows how hard it is to make money, so take care of every penny you have and make it worthwhile.
Spending money on people who don't deserve it is the biggest waste.
Don't do what you can't afford with your financial resources, that's the biggest pit in life.
Once you fall into it, you will be permanently plunged into the quagmire of sinking, and you will not be able to break free from the predicament for life.
Throughout Yunniang's life, it is so lamentable that a smart and dexterous woman ended in poverty and illness.
The road of life is long and tortuous, and every step points to the end of life.
There are only a few steps at the key point, and we must grasp it well.
No matter how quiet the life in front of you is, you must plan for your future livelihood.
There is a saying in the Analects: "Man has no far-reaching worries, but will have near-term worries." ”
Don't covet momentary pleasure and forget to improve your ability to fight the wind and rain, and when the storm comes, you can fight back the disaster.
The relationship with the family is simple, but it is actually the most difficult relationship to get along with.
Once the rift is irreparable, the family disputes continue, each other is torn down, and the family enters into decay sooner or later.
Only by thinking from the perspective of empathy, taking goodness as the basis, understanding each other, enhancing harmony, and winning tranquility can we be happy.
People live a lifetime, and every day is inseparable from money.
There is a proverb that says: delicious food is inseparable from salt, and money is inseparable from the world.
Every penny is hard-won, and every penny spent has to weigh its value.
Spending it on people who deserve it and using it on the right things is the real love of money, otherwise, it is a great waste.
No one's life is a smooth road, but remember, the good ones are all downslopes.
As long as you work hard, life will definitely be good.
May wise and wise people take every step of life well and reap happiness and fulfillment.
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