What kind of man is most important for women?
Some people will say that for women, finding a man who is both handsome and golden is the most important. It is also said that for women, finding someone who loves themselves is the most important. Some people say that for women, finding someone they love is the most important.
So what kind of man is most important for women? If life gives us the right to choose the other half, but there are only three options: rich, good-looking, interesting, which one would you choose?
In fact, there is a sentence that has given us the answer, that is, "the good-looking skin bag is the same, and the interesting soul is one of the best." "Because money can be earned on its own, beauty can't last long, but an interesting, cultured person can always exist."
As someone once said: "For a woman, no matter how handsome and golden a man is, he is no better than a cultured and connotative man." "Because true upbringing is something that emanates from the bones, he can't get it by academic qualifications, by disguise, by money."
A person's upbringing, more often reflected in the details of life, is not in the outside, external things, as long as we work hard enough, can be changed. But upbringing is imprinted on the bones.
Parenting is actually the embodiment of character. In other words, for women, especially after entering marriage, it should be more important to see the character of the other party, rather than the economic strength of the other party.
Because of a person with bad character, you can't expect him to be good to you, because such a person will not understand and respect others, he will only be self-centered. Definitely an "egoist".
It's like the old saying goes: "Men are afraid of getting into the wrong line, and women are afraid of marrying the wrong man." "The damage a bad marriage does to a woman never diminish.
I remember an author who said, "You will understand that the most important decision in life is not where to settle down, nor where to make a living." It's about choosing what kind of person to be your lifelong partner. Because this person wants to spend the rest of your life holding hands with you, and walking the long road of the future together. ”
In fact, in our lives, we have seen too many such examples, because the other party's appearance or money, in fact, is not happy.
Therefore, for women, what kind of person to find is really important for future life. Therefore, when we are looking for the other half of our lives, we hope that we can put character cultivation in the first place. And it will not be how handsome or rich the other party is.
It is true that material things and beauty can satisfy our momentary vanity, but these will not last long after all. Of course, we also hope that you can meet the kind of goldy, handsome, educated and loving you.
But life is not a novel after all, and not everyone can meet the "domineering president fell in love with me". Therefore, when choosing the other half of life, parenting is always a problem we need to think about.
Because a cultured man is a person who knows how to respect others and can maintain his own rationality no matter what the situation. They will use their own introspection to protect each other.
There is such a sentence in "Huainanzi": "Great enough to accommodate the masses, virtue is enough to cherish the distance", which means that a broad mind can accommodate everyone, and a person with high moral integrity can make Ran more nostalgic.
To do this is not to have a broad mind and a wealth of knowledge, but it is more necessary for a person to have enough education.
It is true that everyone treats people differently, but a cultured person will never embarrass others when he treats others.
The same truly educated person can know how to respect each other. In life, it will also be for your sake. They are also very measured in life.
In the hearts of such men, women are often given enough respect and protection. Just like Shen Fu in "The Six Records of Fusheng", he can be counted as a cultured man, and we can see from his love for Yunniang, especially in that era.
It is not easy to do what Shen Fu did. Even now, not everyone can understand, because Shen Fu can support and respect Yunniang. It can be seen from the fact that he took Yunniang out on a sightseeing tour and did not abandon her later. After all, the upbringing was hidden in the details of his relationship with him.
So, choosing what kind of person to choose, for women, is very important. Therefore, no matter what reason you fall in love with the other person, you want to be able to take the other person's character cultivation into account.
Because, for a woman, it's really important to find a cultured man.
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