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Ms. Luo, 53, was originally a nanny for her 58-year-old employer, Uncle Bao, and later, When Uncle Bao proposed that she wanted to live with her, she agreed after consideration.
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I am Ms. Luo, I used to be a nanny, and now I am working with my previous employer, I don't work as a nanny anymore, and I feel very lucky.
When I was a nanny in the past, I was wronged, I met demanding employers, and I also met good employers, but I never had the heart to work with people.
However, I gladly agreed to the partnership proposed with the employer Uncle Bao, for no other reason than him, and Uncle Bao gave me a completely different feeling from other employers.
He made me feel that I was respected by him, that I was a human being, not a working machine.
Many employers believe that if I pay you to work, you must follow my requirements and cannot oppose the suggestion, otherwise you will not fulfill your responsibilities.
There are also many employers who hate that the nanny can not work non-stop 24 hours a day, can not have time to stop, otherwise it is lazy.
There are also employers who look down on nannies, and when nannies are working, they keep staring at them, and they also direct what to do here and where to clean up.
In their hearts, it is the uncle who pays the money, it is God. This kind of employer feels particularly bad, the work is done, and the person is particularly tired.
Although everyone is working for people, all for life, sometimes it is inevitable to suffer some grievances, but if you are wronged for a long time, it is not necessary, although money is important, it is far less important than the body, isn't it?
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During the time when I was working as a nanny for Uncle Bao, I was very comfortable, and the time after I finished the work was basically arranged by myself.
The time of work is also through my reasonable planning, and the employer Uncle Bao approved of the time, when working, encounter I do not do well, or Uncle Bao has other needs, we are all discussed, as long as it is reasonable, there is no problem.
There is no time to work, I don't have to be picky by Uncle Bao, or he has nothing to do for me to do.
Uncle Bao is a good employer, and when the work is done, or I am tired and sit there resting, he never feels wrong. On the contrary, I will often be reminded that I can rest when I am done with work, and don't be too tired.
Uncle Bao often hangs on his lips: we are old, our bodies can't catch up with the young, and we have to pay more attention to rest, combining work and leisure. I don't have that much to ask for, you're done with what you're supposed to do, and you can do whatever you want the rest of the time.
Every time I hear Uncle Bao say this, I am very touched, he is an employer who knows how to think differently, not worldly and humane.
So later, when Uncle Bao proposed that he wanted to partner with me, I agreed after considering it. I'm willing to believe that people who can be considerate and respectful of others at work agree to understand this when they live together.
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Of course, there are some things to consider in the partnership, not blindly, and it is more appropriate to say in the front.
For Uncle Bao's partner proposal, I also put forward my own requirements.
The first requirement is that he is responsible for the living expenses as he was when I was a nanny. What to eat he could give his opinion, we discussed.
In life, he must also know how to help each other, such as cooking together, buying vegetables together, and taking care of life.
The second requirement: I hope he can respect me as much as he did, even if I live with him, the two of us are equal. To be attentive to each other, the partnership is to accompany each other and take care of each other, so we cannot lose the original intention of the partnership.
You are good to me, I will be good to you, this is the common sense of people, no one has to do anything. We are all old, don't fantasize about love, we are all realistic, think clearly about what we want, say it in advance, only in this way can we know whether it is suitable or not.
If you have any ideas, just say it directly, let's discuss it together, and strive to achieve the same.
The third requirement: as another partner of the partner, I need to have pocket money, not as much as the nanny's salary, but 3000 I think is not high, I hope he can agree.
For the 3-point request I put forward, Uncle Bao did not refuse, he said that he understood my ideas, it was more reasonable, and he was willing to accept it.
Uncle Bao said: Living a life is two people working together to make a good job of running their own lives, and only in this way is it meaningful to partner. Partnering to live a life is a mutual companionship and care, at this time the sincerity is very important, if there is no sincerity, it is better to be the same as the original employer and nanny, one to pay for a job.
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To tell the truth, Uncle Bao is a good man, but also a good man, he has the responsibility as a man, but also willing to give women a stable living environment, there are not so many machismo ideas, respect for women, so these days with him, I feel quite happy.
I didn't expect to meet such an employer before, he was a good man, a man who could get by.
I am also older, although I still work as a nanny, but I am also a woman, and deep down I hope that there is someone to rely on, someone to accompany me.
Uncle Bao's behavior made me feel that he was a suitable person, so I agreed to his partner proposal.
After partnering with him, my life was quite happy, he was willing to help me share the housework, and he was willing to spend time with me, which was good for me.
In life, although we also encounter disagreements, we will all talk out our ideas, and two people will discuss together which idea is more realistic and whether the two ideas can be integrated.
We respect each other, we both know how to feel sorry for each other, and we are willing to make appropriate concessions in order to get along better, so we are very happy, and I hope that we can continue to be happy in the future.
The future is still very long, but as long as we are willing to compromise with each other, know how to think differently, and stick to our original intentions, I believe that the days can continue to be happy.
Write at the end
Can a partner live happily? In fact, many people say that the partner is to have a free nanny, but who is not a fool, since the choice of partner, there must be a place to make their hearts move.
People who have been sticking to it have gained happiness, forgetting the original intention, or not understanding their own needs, it is inevitable that the partner will not be happy.
If a person is not clear about his own needs and rushes to make a choice, in the future life, he finds that it is inappropriate, wants the other party to change, but has not considered his own change, the day will naturally be unhappy, and finally, the breakup is inevitable.
Author Nannan, focus on the field of emotions to create and share, with emotions to communicate with you and my soul, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.