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Keywords: The conspiracy of the routine man
Q: I met a troubled feeling and want to consult, I am a woman, height 155, weight 44, graduate degree, annual salary of about 100,000, second-tier cities; male, height 170, weight 55, college education, self-operated company, income do not know, the same city.
I met him four months ago when he rented my house, and then I talked a lot and felt that many of the views and ideas of the two people were very compatible, and I began to like him.
During the Spring Festival, I had a fever and needed to self-isolate, because of family conflicts I could not go home, he asked me to rent to his house for isolation, he lived alone in my three rooms, so there was still a room.
Two days later I had a fever and was ready to go, and he left me,
I was very touched because he took good care of me during his illness and was not afraid of me infecting him
I thought we could try it, so I stayed.
At first very polite, he sent WeChat to say that he liked me, I was very happy, he said wait until June if I did not have an object to chase me, I agreed, and then I did not hold back and had a relationship with him, he said let me be his girlfriend.
But I vaguely felt that he had something to hide from me, and after questioning, he couldn't stand the inner condemnation and told me that he was reconciled with his ex-girlfriend in December.
But he said that he and his girlfriend had no future at all, and had broken up no less than 10 times in two years together (all of which her girlfriend mentioned), so he felt that he would eventually break up, and he had planned to take care of the two of them in June to find me, but he did not hold back, he felt guilty about me.
During the period, he said to go with me to get a permit and let me think about it for an hour. I agreed, and he seemed to hesitate again, checking that the Civil Affairs Bureau was not at work so he did not go.
Now I'm not in his place anymore and he's now asking me to give him 2 months to fix the problem and come back to me when it's done. I used to think he was an understanding person, didn't expect him to be like this, so angry that he cheated on me and deleted him, he also deleted me, he said he felt that he had a responsibility to take care of her, he would not take the initiative to say break up, to wait for the other party to say. My question is whether he will really handle finding me well, or is it just a short choice.
South-South Reply:
First of all, I especially want to ask this heroine a question: did you give him a rent-free?
If not, then I think it's okay, and you haven't been deceived.
If you give him a rent waiver because of this, then this man's use of the king is not too much to describe, cheating money and cheating, you have to hurry up to leave.
Second, use this story to tell everyone to guard against a kind of person.
There is such a person, they seem to want to help you, but in fact, they just take advantage of the void, or even take advantage of the fire.
For example, this epidemic fever, you have a fever ready to go, he left you, this description is wrong.
You can't say that because of what he called care during illness, you think it's help.
Because after he stayed, he began to send WeChat saying that he liked you. Therefore, this whole process is premeditated.
The whole process is not a care, but a conspiracy in the name of care.
Of course, our heroine may also be overwhelmed by the stimulation and say that she is very happy, this is the story between the two of them.
But I would like to say that a boy treating a girl like this is a routine, and other readers must prevent being tricked.
Third, all readers need to upgrade through this story to a perception called, moving is not love.
Sometimes, we are taken care of and moved when we are particularly uncomfortable, and we become attached to the caregiver.
It's a bit like babies developing attachment to caregivers as well, but to be very clear, it's not love and it's not something worth considering.
Touching is the cheapest, and touching is only a need when we are weak.
In summary, it's good that so many stories you can get out of it.
Finally, I sincerely hope that everyone will be more professional in their own affairs in the future.
You're a landlord, he's here to rent an apartment, and that's your job.
As a result, you rented a house yourself and lost yourself into it.
We do anything professionally, and I hope you will take this as a warning.
Author Nannan, focus on the field of emotions to create and share, with emotions to communicate with you and my soul, but I hope you and I know each other here, like please pay attention to me.