01
On the second day of Song Mei's retirement, she followed a group of old sisters to travel around the mountains and rivers and enjoy the great rivers and mountains of the motherland.
In the past, I was busy with work, and I couldn't save any vacation all year round, so I was reluctant to spend money on travel. Retired, Song Mei can be regarded as seizing the opportunity to see the mountains and rivers of the motherland.
In the first year of retirement, my daughter was not pregnant. When her daughter became pregnant, Song Mei didn't say anything about taking care of her daughter, and her son-in-law's parents moved in first, saying that they wanted to take care of their pregnant daughter-in-law.
The mother-in-law is so enthusiastic, and Song Mei can't grab it anymore, so she has to say that her mother-in-law will take care of it, so I will give some money to subsidize one or two from time to time.
02
In this way, Song Mei gave her daughter 3,000 yuan a month, so that her daughter would not be frugal. The daughter is not a person who can bear hardships and stand hard work and save money. Parents gave money, and they had a salary, so they naturally let go of their hands and feet to eat and drink.
Before I had children, my daughter and son-in-law ate and drank like this, and there was no problem at all. After all, if one person is full, the whole family is not hungry.
But after having a child, the daughter and son-in-law are a little stretched to eat and drink like this without moderation. As soon as her daughter's economy was tight, she called her mother.
Song Mei herself didn't take care of her daughter's confinement and grandchildren, but she was reluctant to let their mother and son suffer, so she raised the subsidy to her daughter from 3,000 to 5,000.
03
Song Mei has a monthly pension of about 4,500, originally gave her daughter 3,000 per month, and left 1,500 for her own living expenses, so that her wife's salary can be saved.
As a result, as soon as the grandson was born, the daughter also quit her job, and the pressure on the son-in-law's shoulders suddenly increased, and he was a little unbearable, urging his daughter to go to work all day long.
But the daughter has been looking for a long time, either because she dislikes the low salary, or because others dislike her for having just given birth to a child.
The daughter is lying down, but the child will grow up day by day, and the expenses will become bigger and bigger. The son-in-law is not very capable, with the help of his parents-in-law, and his wife's salary subsidy is one or two, and his life is also nourishing.
04
But now that my daughter doesn't go to work, my pension has also been emptied by them, and naturally there is no way to have no bottom-line subsidies, and all the financial pressure is given to my son-in-law.
Later, the daughter found a job, but the son-in-law's company went bankrupt and collapsed. The son-in-law has been depressed for a long time and has never found a suitable job. The salary is low, and the son-in-law does not want to go. There is no future, and the son-in-law does not want to go.
After the son-in-law had been at home for three months, the daughter proposed to send the two in-laws back to their hometown and let the son-in-law take care of the children and reduce the burden.
After all, the two in-laws are here, and they have to give an additional 3,000 yuan per month for hardship. If you don't give it or give it late, your mother-in-law will make trouble with my daughter.
The son-in-law was unwilling, saying that he was a big man, how could he stay at home with children? If you want to bring it, your mother-in-law will bring it.
05
My son-in-law was reluctant to send his parents away, and he refused to find a job to support himself first, and my daughter's new job had not yet gained a firm foothold, and finally all the financial pressure was given to my husband and me.
Not only is my retirement salary not enough for my daughter's family, but even my wife's salary has been lost by my daughter. My wife and I were both complaining, but we had nothing to do.
This situation lasted for more than a year, and the son-in-law still did not find a job. And he also lay down completely, sleeping during the day, playing games and playing mobile phones at night, day and night reversed.
Seeing that my son-in-law was about to be abolished, I hated that iron could not be made of steel, and I felt that I could not get used to them like this, so I proposed that I would only give 4,000 yuan a month in the future, and let them take care of the rest of the expenses.
06
When the son-in-law heard this, he was angry and said that you are not without money, how can you suddenly withdraw the subsidy? If you feel pressured, your mother-in-law is only 53 years old, you can go to work as a nanny, and you can earn 4,000 yuan a month.
I thought I had heard it wrong, my son-in-law was only in his early 30s, and he didn't go to work to earn money to support his wife and children, but he calculated to let my mother-in-law be a nanny for others and earn more money to support them.
I angrily scolded him, you are the one who eats soft rice, and you are the one who should go to work, and I can't pay a penny for your family's expenses in the future, and I can't pay back the house if I can't pay off the mortgage, and you rent a house by yourself.
In the past two years, I have been an adoptive daughter's grandson, an adoptive son-in-law, and his parents, which is really enough. Whose mother-in-law is as unlucky as me? Even if you raise a daughter and son-in-law, you have to support your in-laws.
I had a showdown with my daughter, either she divorced, I raised her children, or I didn't have a penny in the future, and they were self-reliant.
Looking at my daughter, who was hesitant and couldn't let go of my son-in-law, I left disappointed again. The daughter is a love brain, who harms herself and pits us as parents.