On the fifth day of the New Year, PTSD was committed again.
I am most afraid that the air at the dinner table will suddenly be quiet, and I am most afraid of the seven aunts and eight aunts asking about getting married and having a baby.
You say there is no object, relatives are like looking for early, take out the mobile phone to send you the WeChat of the object of your blind date;
You say you don't want to go on a blind date, and your relatives suddenly look you up and down with strange eyes, and immediately start a serious ideological education class (let's say, is the goulash, roasted ribs, sweet and sour fish on the table not fragrant?). ）：
"So-and-so's second child is about to go to kindergarten, you look at you, there is not even an object";
"All this age, what else to pick";
"Marriage, the right thing to do." With children, happiness naturally has "...
After eating a meal, I held back the sentence in my heart, "It's not that I don't knot, I want to find someone I like to tie the knot" is not interesting to say.
Such a marriage promotion scene, I believe that many "marriageable age" old irons are also experiencing.
In the face of the "suitable" and "ready" marriage philosophy of the previous generation, we talk about liking and loving, which seems particularly naïve and childish and vulnerable, especially after stepping on the thirty-year-old line.
#成熟后依然相信爱情, shame? #
The recently broadcast love roundup "Semi-Familiar Lovers", the guest is a group of 30+ singles.
Four men and four women live under the same roof, work during the day, and pair up for dates after work, like a mature version of "Heartbeat Signals".
The form is not new, but it makes many people snort:
Big Sweet also snorts CP online
It seems to be similar to other love roundups, but when you watch the show slogan, you will appear high and low-
Run together to a spiritual door-to-door pair
Emotionally evenly matched love adventures
Yes, let a group of people who are always advertised as having insufficient balances of youth capital go on an adventure.
At the age of the most annoying traditional routine, fiercely counter the routine.
Love after the age of thirty is highly rational and purposeful by social acquiescence.
Looking around, whether it is a marriage agency in life or a variety show on the screen, the family status, education, work, appearance, age, etc. of both men and women are clearly marked according to this standard, so as to improve the efficiency of matching.
Instead, the show slows down and waits for the soul-matching love to blossom.
Doesn't sound realistic? Also, the two hearts of each other are sorry for each other, which is already a low-probability event in the sea of people, let alone a small circle layer of variety shows?
Let's not guess how many elements of the script are interpreted, just talk about what it looks like. Opening this show, I first saw the difference between 20+ and 30+ loves.
In the first few rounds of dating, almost no pair of CPs can be completely locked.
Wang Nengneng, director of advertising planning, first dated Yang Mengjing, a female photographer who was full of gas.
They belong to the state of being attracted to the five facial features and getting along closer to the buddies.
After discovering the inappropriateness, Wang Nengneng quickly took the initiative to cut off the possibility of developing a lover with the other party.
Later, his heart was the food blogger Lola, and when he learned that the other party was a single mother, he did not immediately express his position. Instead, it was quiet for a few seconds before the thoughts were spoken:
My family and my friends, and myself
I don't care about this thing at all
A bit of scum at first glance? Not really.
30+ love is less hot, less impulsive; more dignified temptation, and more consideration of the overall situation.
But isn't it pure? Not necessarily.
There are still 20+ hearts and passions:
The heartthrob accepts his date invitation and looks like a little hamster jumping around;
After the four eyes faced each other, they felt the electric shock of the eyes, and the whole person was as still as if he had been pointed.
Those throbbing and pleasure that only love can bring, there are still tentacles that are keenly receiving them.
As long as you still believe in love, 20+ and 30+ love, in fact, there is no difference.
Bye.
Compared with the blindness of the hot head, the trade-off after careful investigation -
It is the seriousness and respect for feelings.
(P.S. inquire back to inquire, if it is those who come with real estate deeds, bank balances, or purely to find fertility machines, this kind of pure interest relationship without love foundation, encountered a hurry to run)
The pair with the strongest sugar in the show is the "big brother and sister-in-law" CP.
The reason why this male guest is called "big brother" is literally the meaning, he is the oldest in the show.
39 years old, has been in love 7 times, and has not yet stepped into marriage.
No matter how successful he is, put into real life, the cliff is also the object of attention of the "love and love" WeChat group and the neighborhood committee aunt.
The reason why he was single is also very real, poking at the voice of many "marriageable age" old irons:
If I'm going to find the right person
In fact, I listed the conditions I wanted, and I could find them
I don't think it's that hard
But do you like this guy? not necessarily
You see, right?
It is not difficult to say that it is difficult to find a partner, and it is not difficult to say that it is not difficult.
Between pragmatic marriage and idealistic love, he chose the latter. And the point where many viewers scream and die is in this show - he waits for the same frequency resonance person.
- Do you think it will be hard to love someone now?
- No, I'm only three minutes old
According to the setting of soul matching, the first contact between men and women begins with online chat, and the first impression is given to the three views instead of appearance.
The other guests in this round did not move, but they came to a two-way mutual election.
Big Brother Inner OS: Oops, it's a heart-pounding feeling
The subsequent development is even more envious of others.
He likes a free and independent soul, just so, she is;
She thinks men who focus on a certain field are attractive, and it just so happens that he has been sure of the industry since he was a child.
On the first date, the two coincidentally used the same phone case; on the way back, the music shared in the headphones happened to be "How Deep Is Your Love" that both parties liked.
People who are not a little old may not have heard this song.
They looked at each other after they found each other's tastes similar... Sweet, indeed sweet, kswl.
The ultra-low probability soulmate that only appears in romance novels!
It is rare to appear in a reality show, so that it is obvious that it is just a normal picture of life such as walking after a meal, which can also make the bullet screen dizzy:
Enjoy "Married Life," Kswl
The life of the old husband and wife has been understood by you
The encounter between the two of them reminds me of a passage written by Mizuki Ding in "Fear and Love in Our Hearts":
Love can only wait. What you can find is actually marriage.
The difference between this show is that it does not stay at the level of satisfying the audience's sugar psychology, but takes a step forward and puts forward a positive view of marriage and love that belongs to adults.
Love will grow, but it will not be lost by the passage of time.
Although in real life, the soil that can still wait for love to grow is becoming more and more scarce.
This love show makes people have to rethink a question: what is the most important thing to shoot a marriage show?
Is it to find the other half for the guest?
In my opinion, the most basic role of marriage and love programs should be to send a positive signal to society:
A signal that "we can still believe in love."
Last year, Station B made a post-90s blind date program "90 Marriage Agency". The guests participating in the program are all young and promising young people.
With the broadcast of the program, a series of topics related to young people's views on marriage and love have appeared on the hot search, triggering heated discussions on the Internet. The nature of the show is not so much a blind date as it is a window of social observation.
Some male guests still regard women's excellence as an offense;
Once a woman is stronger than a man, a man will appear weak
Some people also list the six criteria for dating, with realistic considerations such as family background and achievement possibilities, but there is no love.
It seems that if you are not looking for a girlfriend, you are buying some financial products.
You will find that with the progress of society, the choice of marriage and love seems to return to the hands of young people. But their ideas are still unconsciously bound by traditional "discipline.".
In the first issue of "Night in the Corner", Dao Chang, Liu Qing, and Zhou Lian discussed this phenomenon.
Just today, you don't say marriage is about blind dates
Love is actually in some kind of blind date mode
A little incredible? A set of data
Last year, the scale of the mainland Internet dating market reached 7.2 billion yuan, an increase of 11.6% year-on-year. Among them, users under the age of 30 account for more than 60%, and users under the age of 25 account for up to 27.6%. (Source: Bida Consulting, "2021 China Internet Dating Market Research Report")
What does it say?
As the Taoist said, today's young people are disgusted by the blind date arranged by their parents, but at the same time, they are arranging blind dates for themselves through a new type of dating method.
The fixed circle of life and the difficulty of meeting new people are certainly a very important influencing factor, but it may also mean that a strange phenomenon is quietly happening
In the Internet, unreal romance is sublimated; but in real life, true love is constantly being disenchanted.
The current marriage seems to have returned to its former state.
More and more young people believe that in marriage, love can give way to the responsibilities of parenting, pension, filial piety to parents, and so on.
Marriages that parents disagree with are unhappy
Don't you really believe in love?
It may not be representative, but Uncle Meat really perceives the changes when he goes home for the New Year this time.
Friends who have refuted their family's marriage with "it is not untied, it is to find someone they like to marry" are entering marriage with people who do not love each other one by one.
I inquired curiously about their reasons for changing their trade-offs, and the answer was: this age, it's time to end.
Ask "What about love?" What I saw was a helpless smiling face: I can't wait.
In the countryside, the older unmarried person is marginalized by the small society in which he lives;
Even in cities, anyone who reaches the so-called "marriageable age" and is unmarried is indiscriminately defined as "that person is somewhat problematic."
Our society is not friendly to single people.
It's like the situation of a female guest in "Half-Acquaintance Lover". Did not meet the desired opposite sex, and did not want to settle, in the pairing date when the single left, was mocked by the audience "too much", "personality is not good".
In the face of the pressure of various realities, people who hold ideals for love can only go to endangerment.
Young people still yearn for it, maybe they just don't dare to believe it.
At the beginning of "Half-Acquaintance Lover", I agree with it:
Thirty only
You can still live seriously and laugh wildly
Love is pure, meet the right person
Because it is not about years, love is always love
Back to the question above:
What is the most important thing about making a wedding show?
In other words.
Do the people who snort CP in the marriage show really despair about love?
No.
Most people just despair about finding love.
A love show can find love for the guests in the show, which is naturally good. But if you can find the courage to believe in love for the vast audience outside the show, it is even better.
There are so many love complexes at the moment, in addition to the output of saccharin, why not try to output -
Some more feasible ways to find love;
The hope that a true love does exist;
A correct belief in love against an incorrect hypnosis;
A courage to believe and pursue love at any age...
We do hate being urged to marry, and we should rebel.
But love itself is innocent, and we should be bold enough to love, shouldn't we?
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