The flowers and flowers are unintentional, only the truth exists in the heart
In a normal mode of getting along between husband and wife, either spouse will always be most tolerant of their original family, and as a partner, they will always feel a little uneasy about such things.
After marriage, the biggest obstacle between husband and wife is often not from the two, but from their respective original families, daughter-in-law and mother-in-law, husband and mother-in-law, there will often be some irreconcilable contradictions between them, thus affecting the relationship between husband and wife.
If in these events, there are other family members of the partner involved, what would have been a small thing will gradually be infinitely magnified.
01 After marriage, getting along with her mother-in-law is not satisfactory
Life always has to have a wedding as you wish, in order to make up for your lack of expectations for love.
But Yin Yin had fantasized about having a grand wedding with her husband before marriage, and then invited all her relatives and friends to come to the scene, but in the end she was defeated by a sentence from her future mother-in-law: Yin Yin, marriage is not a trivial matter, there are many things to prepare, let's start from Jane.
Yin Yin clearly knows in her heart that the mother-in-law family has paid a lot in order to prepare for her and her husband's wedding, including the indispensable wedding items such as the garage, Yin Yin understands that perhaps the savings in the mother-in-law's family are not much, so she said everything about the wedding from Jane.
After comprehensive consideration, Yin Yin finally invited only her close friends as her mother-in-law said.
The wedding that had been planned for a long time was lost in her heart for a long time after the mother-in-law's words.
Of course, this is just a small episode of marriage, the reason why Yin Yin is almost obedient to her mother-in-law before marriage, the main part of it is because she wants to have a good relationship with her mother-in-law, leave a good impression, and do not have to worry about the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law after marriage.
However, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law seem to be born not to deal with each other, in the period of just marriage, the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are temporarily at peace, but with the passage of time, Yin Yin has a certain understanding of the mother-in-law, Yin Yin found that the mother-in-law is really difficult to get along with.
02 The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law has reached an impasse, and there is also the figure of the eldest sister
Yin Yin found that her mother-in-law had to ask about anything, and even if she had discussed things with her husband, her mother-in-law had to make her own suggestions and asked Yin Yin and her husband to come according to her ideas and requirements before she was willing to give up. For this reason, Yin Yin had been angry with her mother-in-law several times, but each time she was dumbfounded by her mother-in-law's sentence "I have crossed more bridges than you have walked, and I am doing this for your own good" and said dumbly.
Yin Yin originally wanted not to be angry with her mother-in-law, but after all, she lived in a courtyard with her mother-in-law, looked down and did not look up, and the friction was always continuous. Of course, as Yin Yin, she knows that there is no contradiction in the world where there is a mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, but there is one point that Makes Yin Yin really unacceptable, that is, when she and her mother-in-law are in trouble, the eldest sister will call herself, although it is comforting on the surface, but outside the words, Yin Yin always feels that the eldest sister complains about herself and should not be angry with the elders.
Once it was fine, but after a long time, the relationship between Yin Yin and the eldest sister also cracked.
In Yin Yin's words: The mother-in-law and the eldest sister are just working together to pinch themselves and make themselves obedient to them.
Naturally, the husband is also aware of this, but one side is the wife, the other side is the sister and the mother, he is sandwiched in the middle, and he is powerless.
03 Borrowed husband for birthday, mother-in-law and great aunt to eat and drink
Although the relationship between Yin Yin and her mother-in-law has not been so harmonious, the relationship between her and her husband is still relatively stable, and it is also to thank her husband for her hard work for the family for so many years, and near her husband's birthday, Yin Yin decided to treat her husband well.
Yin Yin had planned to spend a good day in the sweet two-person world on her husband's birthday, but she did not expect that on her birthday, her mother-in-law and eldest sister would come alone, on the grounds that it was to celebrate her husband's birthday.
Yin Yin saw that her mother-in-law and eldest sister did not bring anything, and although she was unhappy in her heart, she also beckoned them to go into the house to rest.
After entering the house, Yin Yin said to her mother-in-law: Mom, you didn't come to say hello in advance.
The eldest sister answered the phone: It just so happened that my brother had a birthday, and my mother and I came over.
The three of them kept talking in the house until their husbands returned. After the husband returned, he saw that the whole family was there, so he beckoned Yin Yin to prepare a meal, Yin Yin was just ready to enter the kitchen, but saw that the big sister and the mother-in-law were still sitting on the sofa unmoved, did not say the meaning of coming to the kitchen to take the handle, in an instant she understood the intention of the big sister and the mother-in-law.
Although the mother-in-law and the eldest sister ostensibly wanted to celebrate their husband's birthday, they did not bring anything, not even a cake, but sat on the sofa as soon as they entered the house, waiting for food and drink.
In-in got angry and walked straight out of the kitchen: I forgot, I didn't prepare a meal today.
The husband obviously noticed the change in Yin Yin's mood on the side, and hurried out to play the round, today we went to the restaurant to eat, I came to entertain.
This storm can be regarded as calming down.
But after this incident, the relationship between Yin Yin and her mother-in-law became more difficult to reconcile, and her husband could only sigh helplessly at the side.
Conclusion: Contradictions between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law are very common things, slowly handled, there will always be a day to resolve, if there are other family members involved, mother-in-law contradictions will be difficult to reconcile.