The discord between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is not a strange thing.
A woman has many identity labels in her life: wife, mother, daughter, daughter-in-law. Among these identities, the most difficult is the daughter-in-law, who will always be dissatisfied.
After all, there is a person and himself robbing the son, how can the mother-in-law be happy? Even if the mother-in-law says that she loves her daughter-in-law and treats her daughter-in-law as a family, it is still difficult to achieve in practice.
The strong mother-in-law complained that the daughter-in-law was ungrateful
Xiao Chen's mother-in-law was the principal of a key middle school before retirement, whether it is teaching ability or management ability, it is obvious to all in the industry, and her personality is also unusually bold and neat.
Even so, the mother-in-law did not delay in raising her son, who worked in a Fortune 500 company after graduating from college, with an annual salary of at least 500,000 yuan.
Moreover, the son basically did not let the mother-in-law worry about it, even the marriage was carried out step by step, Xiao Chen was his college classmate, and the two people talked about love for a total of 5 years before talking about marriage.
At first, the mother-in-law's impression of Xiao Chen was not bad, and the little girl with pattern and vision behaved very appropriately, especially Xiao Chen's personality, which was the same as that of her mother-in-law.
After getting married, the mother-in-law accidentally came into contact with a kind of financial product, but the money in her hand was saved in the dead date, so she wanted to borrow some from her son, but the daughter-in-law rejected herself very resolutely, and simply did not save herself a little face.
The mother-in-law has been strong all her life, never lost face, and this first time she asked her family for help and met Waterloo, which made her always grumpy.
Since that time, every time the mother-in-law sees her son, she will count down, saying that the daughter-in-law and her son have a nostril out of the air, which is simply ungrateful. At first, the son didn't say anything, just listened silently.
But the last time he couldn't bear it, his son said to her very seriously: You said I can, you didn't give birth to her, you didn't raise her, you didn't have kindness to her, you weren't qualified to say her!
Alpaca mom has something to say:
Seeing this, I think most women will feel very happy, in this war between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, the husband considers the problem from the perspective of the daughter-in-law, and does not ignore love because of family affection, which is really touching.
However, in real life, how many people can be as sensible as Xiao Chen's husband? Isn't the most common practice of indiscriminately attacking one's pillow person?
The relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is tense, and there is a direct relationship with her husband
Husbands are always indifferent to their relatives
In the mother-in-law contradiction, most of the initiators are mother-in-law, either they have nothing to do, or they have some unreasonable demands. Deliberately hurting the feelings and psychology of the daughter-in-law.
In the face of such a situation, the daughter-in-law will first choose to tolerate, after all, the tradition of respecting the old and loving the young cannot be forgotten, and it will be more burdensome to look at the face of the mother-in-law when she is old.
But it is this kind of forbearance that will make the mother-in-law more intense, the husband feels that he is the wrong party, but the mother and son join forces to attack themselves, and when this time is explained, it is inevitable that it will be considered sophistry.
After all, men don't have the time or patience to understand the causes and consequences of things. They will analyze and imagine themselves based on the results, and make their own conclusions.
The husband did not do a good job of mediation
The role of the husband should have been the middle hub, between the mother and the wife. When encountering problems, try not to let two people have a head-on confrontation, after all, the angle of two people considering the problem is biased.
Never feel that it is easy to cultivate feelings between women and women, you can find common topics, once you have such ideas, it will only make your family conflict.
After all, both women are ghostly and competing for the care of their husbands, and the mother-in-law wants to control everything as before, but the daughter-in-law always wants to live her life without interference. This is the biggest contradiction.
Coupled with the fact that two people do not have any blood relationship at all, and there is no emotional basis, it is not a simple thing to let two people cultivate feelings in a short period of time. Seeing people's hearts for a long time also has requirements for time!
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How did you get along with your mother-in-law? When you two have a conflict, how does your husband solve it? Feel free to share your thoughts with us!