There is a saying that goes like this:
"Even the most loving couple will have 100 thoughts of divorce and 50 urges to strangle each other in their lives."
Getting along as a husband and wife is not as simple as imagined.
How many couples, before marriage, have a special affection, happiness, a sense of ceremony, and pursue romance; but after marriage, they are tortured by the chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea in life.
But it is not so difficult for husband and wife to get along.
Some couples, even if their living conditions are not so good for the time being, can still manage the relationship between husband and wife; after many years of marriage, the love is still the same.
In fact, how to manage a good marriage is a science.
The more understanding and tolerance the wife has, and the more the husband pays and takes responsibility, the marriage will not be bad.
So, how to judge a man's love for you after marriage, is it the same as always?
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After marriage, men love your performance
First: Look at his attitude towards you when you're pregnant
Couples generally experience several "turning points" after marriage.
The first turning point is after the woman becomes pregnant.
From the beginning of pregnancy, to the birth of the child, and then to the time of taking the child at home, it is the most important stage to test the relationship between husband and wife.
There are too many couples, because the wife is pregnant and after giving birth, the husband's attitude towards her is not good enough, resulting in the breakdown of the couple's relationship.
So, what does a man do when he loves you?
Tell you a story about me.
I have a boyfriend friend whose wife just had a baby this year.
From the time he learned that his wife was pregnant, he had never let her cook a meal, and the housework had basically not involved her.
Every night, prepare for his wife the meals to eat at noon the next day; the clothes at home, the housework, all kinds of hygiene, he is all-inclusive.
After his wife gave birth, he treated her better.
In addition to giving his wife a massage every day to relieve her emotional anxiety, he also takes care of the children at night.
This friend works on his own and has more free time; but despite this, he still has a very tight schedule for each day.
Some women are pregnant and give birth, easy to be emotional, become irritable, anxious.
But under the care of friends, his wife not only did not have any negative emotions, but was happy every day.
I think this is probably the best love a man has for his wife after marriage.
Engagement, responsibility, responsibility, care and thoughtfulness.
When all these advantages are concentrated in a man, what woman does not love?
Second: Look at his attitude towards you in front of outsiders
Do you know?
Men need praise and want to be adored, and women want to be praised just as much.
Men who truly love you, they will be in front of outsiders, without stinginess in praising and praising their wives.
There is a boy in my circle, who is simply a "wife-showr".
Every time he had a party for dinner, he would exaggerate his wife.
The words that often hang on the lips are:
"Although I am very hard and tired of making money to support my family, I feel that my wife is more tired than me; if it were not for her silent efforts to help me solve my worries, I would not have persevered." 」
A good husband and wife relationship must be "mutual understanding and mutual understanding".
It is enough that he knows your goodness, that you understand his efforts, and that both people are able to think of each other.
The man who truly loves you, even if he is married for many years, he will not say that he will change.
Love is mutual, he is good to you, you will love him too; the more you love him, the more men will love you.
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Husband and wife get along, how to keep "love" fresh?
First: Establish effective communication
The marriage of the philosopher Socrates has an interesting story.
Socrates said, "If you marry a good wife, then you will be happy; if you marry a bad wife, you will become a philosopher." ”
When the wife heard this, she threw Socrates out of the house.
What is an efficient way to communicate?
For example:
After getting married, you talk about chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, but the other party talks about work, ideals, and love.
It's like "playing the piano to a cow, and the chicken talking to a duck."
He doesn't understand your mind, he's not in the same frequency as you.
How can the relationship between husband and wife be good for a long time?
Therefore, if couples want to maintain the freshness of love, they must establish efficient communication.
Try to find a job topic and get each other involved in the family.
Either talk about work together, or talk about life together, or talk about feelings together.
It doesn't matter what to talk about, what matters is that in the process of communication, feel each other's hearts in a line.
Second: We should not be afraid of contradictions, but we must resolve them in a timely manner
Let's put it this way:
Husbands and wives get along for a lifetime, it is impossible not to have a contradiction once, it is impossible not to quarrel once.
Therefore, it is not terrible to have contradictions, because this is the only way for couples to get along emotionally.
But after the contradictions and quarrels, how to solve the problem is the most important.
Keep a few principles in mind:
Do not let the contradiction overnight, the day's things are resolved on the same day;
Don't escalate the contradiction to a personal attack;
It is important to discuss things as they are, not to turn over old accounts, and to solve the current problems.
If you can follow these principles, the relationship between husband and wife is often not bad.
Today's Topic:
How is your relationship with your lover?
What do you want to say about marriage?
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