After buying vegetables in the morning and going upstairs, I saw a woman at the door in the distance, knocking on the door non-stop, and from time to time I put my ear on the door, I walked quickly, it was my mother, in addition to surprise more is frightened, she has never been out of the province alone, but crossed thousands of miles to my door.
Looking at my mother, whose sideburns were a little white, carrying a large bag and a small bag, whose back was somewhat deformed, and whose face was pale, my tears fell down without a fight.
When my mother saw me coming over, she said a little complainingly: Stinky, you finally came back, I thought I knocked on the wrong door? ”
We mother and daughter have not seen each other for 5 years, see each other, we hug each other tightly, both of us cry into tears, here not only are there thoughts of each other.
After crying, I took my mother into the door, and before she could sit down, she put the bag down, opened it one by one, and took out the same things she had brought from her hometown, bacon, pig's blood balls, wax fish, rice dumplings, salt-baked duck, glutinous rice balls.
Mom said while taking it: "These are the dishes you like to eat, I will prepare them every year, I look forward to your return every year, but for 5 years, I did not expect you to come back, and then I can't finish eating, I can only give them to others, this year I prepared a lot for you, you can't come back, I had to send it to you." ”
Although my mother said something with complaints, she expressed a lot of love. I was originally from Hunan, married to Shaanxi, and have not returned to my mother's house for 5 years, not that I don't want to go home, but there is too much helplessness.
In the winter of 18 years, I was pregnant for almost three months and miscarried, heavy bleeding, almost lost my life in the operating room, gave birth to the second treasure in 19 years, just in the new year, the Spring Festival of 20 years, the Wuhan epidemic, the Spring Festival of 21 years, the Xi'an epidemic, planned several times, did not start a family, usually my mother worked in the field, there was no time, so it led to us not seeing each other for 5 years.
This is the disadvantage of long-distance marriage, when I told my mother that the boyfriend I was looking for was out of town, my mother did not object, only said: "I am a daughter of yours, I definitely hope that you can stay around, but since you have chosen a boyfriend from abroad, I will not block, as long as you are happy, now the traffic is convenient, you can come back at any time." ”
When I was in college, my mother said that my marriage was decided by myself, and as long as the man could be sincere with me, he would not stop me, because she believed that only a marriage that was sincerely blessed by my parents would be truly happy.
My mother took everything out, I gave her a bowl of noodles to fill her hunger, and when everything was settled, I asked her with a questioning tone: "Mom, you go out alone, and you don't greet me in advance, you are not afraid to lose you?" You told me in advance, I'll book you a ticket so I can pick you up? But my mother's answer was unexpected.
Mom said: "Although my mother has not been far away, but she will not lose herself, I will now buy tickets on my mobile phone, I will also use my mobile phone to check the route, and then I will not go anywhere, I will find someone to ask, how can I lose it?" Also I want to make a surprise attack and see how you're doing. ”
I understood everything she meant, although every time I called her, I was doing well, my in-laws treated me like a daughter, and my husband was good to me, and he never quarreled. But as a mother, she was still not at ease, she was afraid that I would lie to her, she guessed that the reason why I did not go home was because I had a bad life, so I could not go back, so I must quietly come to see for myself.
This is the so-called "mother's worry", no matter when, all she thinks about is whether her child is doing well!
When I chose to marry far away, I didn't think about putting my mother down. At that time, I thought of two solutions, one was to buy a house at my mother's house, let my mother live, and every New Year's Holiday, I would go back to accompany her; the other was to let my mother come to my in-laws' house and live with me.
But my mother said, don't want me to buy a house, don't want to follow me to live in my in-laws' house, she is now in a tough body, can eat and be capable, she will work outside, and when she is old, she can't move, she wants to go back to her rural hometown, grow vegetables, grow grain, raise some chickens, ducks, geese and pigs.
Mom said that she had a request, go home with her for a few days a year, I think this request is very simple, but the plan can never catch up with the change, a few years ago I can still go home every year to accompany my mother, these 5 years have not gone back once, in addition to self-blame, guilt, there is a lot of helplessness.
Although the life after the marriage is not bad, but no regrets are fake, after all, far away from my mother, I can't do "you grow up with me, I accompany you to grow old", I can only look at my mother who is getting old day by day through the cold screen.
As a distantly married girl, do you return to your mother's house every year? Do you regret marrying far away? #远嫁的你后悔了吗 #
