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Zhang Ailing said: For people after middle age, ten years and eight years seem to refer to things between Gu.
In middle age, all the good will be fleeting, and time is too important for you and me. If you want to have a good life for the rest of your life, you must know how to cherish the present.
However, there are many helplessness in life, and middle-aged couples may not be so happy to get along. If we do not understand each other's tolerance and understanding, it will be difficult to live a full life.
And most people will think that when a woman reaches the age of forty, she has no advantage, and even if she feels wronged, she can only be wronged in marriage. Otherwise, after divorce, becoming a second-married woman is even more worthless, and living alone in her later years will definitely be very miserable.
This is just creating uneasiness and anxiety for women, which is not necessarily the case.
Middle-aged couples divorced, old men and women who are more likely to be desolate? The answer is for us to recognize reality.
Ms. Chen: After divorcing my ex-husband, my life has a new beginning
After marriage, there are too many women who are used to paying for the family, no matter how wronged they are in their hearts, as long as the family can live well, they can continue to be patient, and I am no exception.
Women who are not determined enough in their hearts will become more and more uneasy after middle age, even if many of their husbands' behaviors have touched the bottom line and do not know how to protect themselves.
I often hear people say: after 40 years old women, don't toss blindly, divorced and want to find another man with good conditions is not easy.
Under this invisible pressure, I can only continue to condone my husband's excessive behavior. But even though I have unconditionally given in, my husband still wants to divorce me for other women.
At that time, I felt very sad and afraid, and I didn't know how to live in the future.
But then I also figured out that instead of guarding a man who didn't love me, I should learn to look a little wider. The road of life in the future is still so long, and all the things that do not have the courage to face are to be experienced.
When I divorced my ex-husband, my son was only 10 years old, and in order to give him a stable life, I had to force myself to become stronger. Although it was painful at first, after surviving smoothly, I seemed to see the dawn of life and was waving at me.
I don't need to put up with my partner's infidelity now, nor do I have to serve his family like a free nanny.
My friend and I started a company, and every day is very busy, and the income is stable. In the past, I was particularly afraid that after the divorce, I would be talked about by others, and I would also worry about not being able to find a man with good conditions in the future, but these worries were only superfluous.
When I was forty-five, I remarried, and my current husband was very good to me, and now we have been married for 10 years together. I believe in my own ability and charm, as long as you manage your current life well, all the good will come to you.
Middle-aged couples divorce, old women may not have a miserable life, at least I am very satisfied with my life status now.
Mr. Lin: Feelings outside of marriage are very hypocritical, I regret hurting my ex-wife, and I regret divorce even more
I was not in good condition before, and grew up in the countryside.
I knew I had no one to rely on and that I had to live a good life on my own. I am not afraid of hard work, no matter how difficult to communicate with the customer, I will find a way to make him interested in the company's business.
Later, I also met a girl I liked because of this. If it wasn't for her help, there was a good chance I wouldn't be able to get through the trial period. Although I was touched by her, at that time I had no money on me and did not dare to fall in love.
However, the girls did not dislike my conditions and often asked me to dinner.
Later, we were naturally together. After two years of love, I also got married smoothly, and with the help of my wife, my career development became more and more stable.
I used to really love my wife, but as we spent together, my feelings changed. Especially after I became rich, there were many temptations around me, and I still did not restrain my feelings and did something to hurt my wife.
At that time, I really felt that I had met the perfect love, and life was so long, I wanted to be loyal to myself. Later, I filed for divorce with my wife, and no matter how much she begged me, I didn't have a soft heart.
I thought that after the divorce, my life would be free, but in the end I realized that I was too naïve.
There is no true love at all in extramarital feelings, and the other party is just for material things. When my company was having difficulties and losing everyone, there was no one around who was as single-minded as my ex-wife.
I regret my previous choice, and hurt my ex-wife so ruthlessly, and now that I am old, living such a bad life is the retribution I deserve.
Middle-aged couples divorced, old men and women who are more likely to be desolate? In fact, there is only one answer: the real miserable, often the wrong party, if you do not know how to take responsibility for your own life, and do not have the ability to pay for their own life, then whether divorced or not, it is difficult to live happily.
This makes us recognize the reality, and I hope that you and I can both know how to cherish the happiness in front of us.
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