Home is the emotional home of children, and where there are parents, there will be love and warmth.
Therefore, for the wandering wanderers, the happiest thing is to rush home from afar during the New Year's Festival, reunite with their parents and relatives, eat a reunion dinner in a lively way, and feel the solid happiness.
However, when you are single, you don't have to think about anything when you go home for the New Year, and when you get married, going home for the New Year has become a multiple choice problem.
Especially with the intensification of population mobility, many couples do not have their hometowns in the same city. Whether to go to the in-laws' house or the mother's house during the New Year, this question once became the fuse that some couples must make trouble in the New Year.
Some people think that after a woman gets married, she is a family member of her in-laws, and it is natural to follow the man back to her in-laws' house. However, for some one-child families, it means that their parents have to look forward to it Chinese New Year's Eve.
How can we balance the choice of New Year between husband and wife? The solution is really not easy.
After all, for both families, the reunion of relatives is the hope of all, as parents, who does not want to look forward to their children around the knees and share the joy of the world?
But whose children aren't babies? Why should families who have only given birth to one daughter have failed in their wishes?
If the in-laws can never understand the mood of the mother-in-law's family, it will eventually lead to many contradictions with the daughter-in-law.
However, the neighbor Aunt Wang revealed her heart: "Daughter-in-law, you don't have to worry about where to go in the New Year, just follow your heart." In fact, I don't like the New Year so much. ”
Aunt Wang's only son got married last year, and her daughter-in-law is an outsider and an only child. Approaching the New Year, she saw that her daughter-in-law was always talking and realized whether she was worried about where to celebrate the New Year.
Aunt Wang said that she actually did not care where her daughter-in-law went for the New Year, and she did not like the New Year, which was mainly due to the impact of her own experience over the years.
Aunt Wang's in-laws are a large family, and there are 7 brothers and sisters in the husband, but except for the eldest sister and their two families living locally, the rest of the brothers and sisters are in other places.
Every New Year, the brothers and sisters will return with their families, and although the family has suddenly become lively, it is also the hardest time of the year for Aunt Wang.
The eldest sister always made all kinds of excuses to say that she was not in good health, and the mother-in-law had never been in the kitchen since Aunt Wang entered the door. The Chinese New Year's Eve meals of a large family of more than twenty people are often prepared by Aunt Wang alone.
Although my husband sometimes came to help, he was often called away by his sisters in the middle of the way — after all, they hadn't seen each other for a long time.
Aunt Wang cooks alone, taking into account the tastes of the whole family, tired to the point of backache, and being picked up by everyone after the meal is served. And such a day, she passed for twenty years.
Her mother's home is actually in the city, but whenever she Chinese New Year's Eve her desire to return to her mother's house to accompany her parents has never been realized.
Since she got married, she has dedicated her Chinese New Year's Eve to her in-laws. Because every time she proposed to celebrate the New Year in her mother's house, her mother-in-law would say, "Our family does not have this custom, and you do not want to live in peace." ”
Although her husband understood her, he did not have much weight in speaking in front of his parents, only privately advising Aunt Wang to take care of the overall situation and wait until the second day of the New Year to accompany her back to her mother's house.
In this way, until her parents passed away separately, Aunt Wang did not even accompany her parents once in the big Chinese New Year's Eve.
Whenever she thinks of these past events, Aunt Wang can't help but be sad, she really can't like the New Year.
After the death of her mother-in-law a few years ago, although the eldest sister of the family advocated that she should come back for the New Year to reunite in the future, she refused to disclose these trivial matters, and Aunt Wang resolutely refused to interfere in the affairs of their brothers and sisters.
Her husband saw that she had been wronged for so many years, and understood that she was uncomfortable in her heart, so she no longer squeaked, so the annual New Year ceremony of the brothers and sisters ended here, and Aunt Wang finally breathed a sigh of relief.
Because I have experienced it myself, I understand that kind of helplessness. In addition, the daughter-in-law usually comes back with her son to accompany them during the festival, so Aunt Wang feels that where they want to go for the New Year, they should respect their opinions.
Instead of just satisfying their own reunion wishes, but making their daughter-in-law and her parents feel uncomfortable, it is better to look away for themselves.
In addition, her son and daughter-in-law are not at home for the New Year, and she and her wife can also take the opportunity to take a good rest and contact with relatives and friends.
Is it the New Year at the in-laws' house, or the return to the mother's house for the New Year? In fact, it is really not so difficult to choose.
Whose children are born to their parents, and what parent does not want their children to get together?
If the in-laws can understand the wishes of the daughter-in-law and fulfill the heart of the mother-in-law's family to miss their daughters, then presumably the mother-in-law's family will not let the in-laws fall short every year, monopolize the daughter-in-law and son-in-law, and not let them return to the in-laws' family.
People's hearts are all flesh, and both sides should give more understanding and care, and give each other more support and comfort, believing that when children are not embarrassed.
When these contradictions no longer become the fuse of the New Year between husband and wife, how can they create a gap between husband and wife and mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
There is nothing in the world that does not make sense, the rules are not set in stone, only when everyone is happy, the New Year can become a real thing that makes people feel happy.
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