What is love? Is it the golden arrow shot by Cupid, or the red rope tied by the old man of the moon; is it the affection of a thousand years, or the agreement to join hands with the white head?
Love always meets unexpectedly, regardless of time and place, and there is no age boundary, everyone has the opportunity to meet love, sooner or later.
In previous years, words such as leftover men and women were often heard, but in recent years it seems to be saying less and less. Everyone has their own choices, and society is becoming more inclusive, you can choose to fall in love and get married, or you can choose to live single. There's not so much right and wrong, and there's not so much right and wrong.
Sometimes being single is an option, and sometimes it's a helplessness.
When a woman reaches middle age, if she is still single, she may have two situations: one is to meet countless people but still have not encountered the right fate, and the other is to run away from the marriage after being scarred.
If you meet a middle-aged woman who wants to pursue, then if you want her to open her heart, you must pay more hard and hard work.
Conquer a middle-aged woman: learn three steps and you win.
Step 1: Become her friend
Middle-aged women are more cautious about love and the trial period will be longer, so you have to become her friend first before it is possible to plan for the next step.
Friends in the adult world who do not have time and the past as a basis must be people who are equal in ability and cognition.
Whether it's financial strength or the way you think, you have to be on the same level with her in order to have an equal and enjoyable conversation with her.
My cousin divorced when she was 35 years old, and the most important factor in choosing to divorce her ex-brother-in-law was that the cognition of the two people was completely different from one level.
My cousin is a person who is very demanding of herself and has always insisted on constantly learning to improve herself, but her former brother-in-law is a person who is satisfied with the status quo. They gradually found that their cognitive differences were getting bigger and bigger, and gradually there was no common language, and finally they had no choice but to separate.
After the divorce, her cousin was preoccupied with work, and every time her family mentioned remarriage, she waved her hand and refused, not wanting to spend energy on feelings at all, until the current brother-in-law appeared.
Now the brother-in-law and cousin are colleagues, because the two people have become acquainted with each other on a project. The current brother-in-law admires his cousin's ability and personality, and has moved his mind to pursue.
But he saw that his cousin was not ready to start a new relationship, so he got along with her as a friend. Occasionally, she will make an appointment to eat or watch a movie together, give her some tips at work, and help her in life.
The more opportunities the two have to get along, the more they understand each other, and slowly, the cousin's heart has also undergone some changes, and the two have naturally come together.
This is how they unconsciously, step by step, from friends to marriage.
For a middle-aged woman, what she wants to have is a slow relationship.
I look forward to someone who is willing to spend his heart and mind with her to start as a friend, willing to give her time and opportunity to recognize her own heart. Let her know that even if she wants to start, the initiative will always be in her own hands.
In this way, if you want to conquer a middle-aged woman, the first step is to become her friend.
Step 2: Become someone with similar interests to her
Single middle-aged women are bound to have more time and energy to devote to cultivating themselves.
As a result of living alone for a long time, they will understand the importance of health better. Only by insisting on exercise can we ensure that we have sufficient physical strength to cope with work and life. Therefore, they may have the habit of running in the morning or the arrangement of fitness. This is not only a hobby, but also an attitude to life.
You need to have the ability and awareness to accept and approve of this idea. In their view, a person with health consciousness who has a long-term vision is a person worth entrusting for a lifetime. After all, no one wants their lover to be crushed by illness in the middle of life and leave him alone.
In addition to exercising, they also attach great importance to their personal artistic accomplishment, watching art exhibitions, listening to music, reading books, watching movies, and each activity that can be completed alone is their favorite, and it can also become a topic to share with others.
Only if you have the same vision and pattern can you have a deep dialogue and communication with her.
Friend Xiaona is 37 years old this year, has not found a suitable boyfriend, we friends are very anxious, dug up the resources around us, but surprised to find that there is no one who can match her.
She is an artist with a wide range of hobbies. She often travels alone and has created many excellent photographs and travel articles. She often shuttled between temples, spreading Buddhist culture with her own actions. She loves calligraphy and collecting, and can often see her calligraphy works and collections. She loves crafts and often gives her friends homemade earrings and necklaces.
We thought she was lonely, but she was wonderful.
A middle-aged woman like her, if she can't meet a like-minded person, may choose to stay single.
Therefore, the second step in conquering a middle-aged woman is to become someone with similar interests to her.
Step Three: Be someone she wants to trust
When you go from the role of an ordinary friend to the person who can talk to her about music, movies, ideals, and the future, you have unconsciously entered her private territory. She will show you more of her inner world and will look forward to receiving recognition and understanding from you.
Many women are afraid of marriage and just don't want to face complicated family relationships. They are insecure in their hearts and full of worries and fears about their future married life, so they are often afraid to start a relationship.
They can't face the series of changes that follow after marriage, in fact, all of which did not come suddenly, but because there was no consensus from the beginning.
She believes that two people need independent living space after marriage, and you want to live with your parents;
She thinks it doesn't matter if you have children or not, what matters is each other's feelings, while you feel that the family without children is incomplete;
She thinks that both people need to have their own private space, and you feel that once together, you have to be completely transparent;
She thinks that many relationships don't have to be deliberately maintained, just go with the flow, and you have a lot of relationships waiting for her to face with you.
If there are so many differences between you, then you will face one endless line of thunder after another, an endless fight.
So if you want to reassure her, you must approve and support all her ideas from the heart, and only true acceptance can give her enough security.
You have to help her reassure her that two people are happier together than one person, and two people are happier together than one person.
Only by feeling true happiness will she take a firm step forward.
Remember, the third step in conquering a middle-aged woman: to be someone she is willing to trust.
How to grasp the heart of a middle-aged woman, learn three steps, she will take the initiative to fall in love with you.
Be her friend and give her a chance to get to know you more.
Be a like-minded person with her and make her feel your understanding and understanding.
Be someone she's willing to trust and let her know that two people are happier than one.
Love is sometimes blind and impulsive, and when you meet a loved one, you can't help but want to get one step closer, middle-aged women are different from younger girls, they need more time, more understanding, and more security.
If you can stick to your sincerity, you will surely get the best results!
May everyone have the ability to love others and the opportunity to be loved.
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