Small story big philosophy
Although the story is small, it will take you to experience endless knowledge and wisdom!
Author: WuMing
The interaction between the opposite sex must be well grasped. Excessive is a disaster, excessive is a change!
Whether it is your red-faced confidant or your blue-faced confidant, you must grasp the measured interaction, not everything can be said, once you do not pay attention to the boundary, it will cause adverse effects.
How many couples are estranged because of improper handling of heterosexual relationships?
01, no matter how good the relationship between the opposite sex, don't be picky about your partner.
In this world, there are perfect people, people have shortcomings, and people have deficiencies.
The matter between husband and wife is originally a matter of two people, if you confide in the secret between two people and a third party, it is disrespectful to your partner.
The correct solution is to communicate well with your partner, but if you can't communicate, slowly correct it, or simply tolerate it. And telling the opposite sex around you about your partner's shortcomings is tantamount to digging your own grave.
Your complaints and weaknesses are equivalent to planting hidden dangers in the marriage. If one day your partner knows, he will disappoint you, but will hurt your face and cause a gap between you.
Don't say that your partner's is not, not only can you not say, when others say, you must also do maintenance, help him defend.
Husband and wife are one, and only cherishing each other can last longer.
02, no matter how good the relationship between the opposite sex, do not know how to reject each other.
Interacting with people, in fact, the most disgusting thing is not people who take the initiative to chat with the opposite sex, but those who are embarrassed to refuse, but accept the ambiguity of others.
Between the opposite sex, if you can clearly draw a line with people, no matter how many ideas others have, they cannot conquer your strong fortress.
Afraid to be afraid, others give you gifts, you are embarrassed to refuse, or simply do not want to refuse, so you accept; others ask you to go out, you are not willing to say no, people are soft and hard, so you agree.
Many problems arise between the opposite sex, starting with not knowing how to refuse.
Rejecting the opposite sex, in fact, is not difficult, sometimes you do not open your mouth, not that you will not, but you are not willing. I don't want to have an ambiguous emotion, I don't want to have a fresh relationship.
03, no matter how good the relationship between the opposite sex, do not seek help frequently.
Emotional debt is the most difficult to repay, especially between the opposite sex.
It is common for men and women to interact with each other and help each other, but if they frequently show weakness and rely too much on each other, it is excessive.
Excessive dependence on the opposite sex, the generation of mental needs, as soon as there is any wind and grass to seek help or comfort from the other party, for a long time, it is impossible not to affect the families of both parties.
Friends of the opposite sex, not lovers, cannot be your safe haven; friends of the opposite sex, not family, cannot be your comfort nest.
The shoulders of friends of the opposite sex, if you say to lean on, sooner or later there will be problems.
Unlimited interaction will lead to contradictions between family and marriage, not to mention, and will also make people feel that you are too frivolous, not solemn enough, and hinder your character and reputation.
Alien friends, be sure to keep your distance. You can enjoy it, but you can't remember it; you can chat, but you can't constrain it.
Get along with the opposite sex, don't be too close, produce ambiguity; don't rely on the past, and generate feelings.
Too close to the opposite sex relationship, when broken continuously, but also by its chaos, should not let go, will be hurt by him!
If you want a long-term friendship, you can only keep the distance you deserve and make the relationship open enough.