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There is a hot search video on Weibo, with the headline: "The difference between marrying a daughter and marrying a daughter-in-law is so big." ”
The video content is a wedding. The girl's parents are trying to suppress their impulse to cry and try to force a smile.
And the boy's parents, full of joy, all the good mood is written on the face. The expressions of the two pairs of parents formed a world of difference.
In the person's own Weibo, she said: "Because my husband and I live in another city, marrying out is also considered to be an inter-provincial, so My father may have more reluctance, right?" ”
1. I, no longer all of them
In "Time Concert", Zhang Jie chose a song by Lin Zhixuan's "Getting Married" as a gift for himself and his twin daughters.
Before singing, Zhang Jie read a long letter written to himself. This is the story he wrote to his future self as a father.
"0-3 years old, you are the whole of their lives; 4-12 years old, you are their night; 13-18 years old, you are their weekend; 19-23 years old, you are their winter and summer vacation; after 23 years old, you may just be their Spring Festival." 」
When reading this letter, perhaps Zhang Jie also began to think back and fantasize about his and the children's future? From the way they fell to the ground, to the way they would fly high in the future.
In fact, for every girl's parents, there will be such an expectation in their hearts. But, scared again, that expectation really came true one day.
The name of that dream, called the daughter to get married. On that day, the girl she had raised with hard work would be the most beautiful princess in the world, and she would be heading for another stage of her life.
As her parents, all she can leave you with is a shadow and a final hug. After that, she was going to be a man's wife, a daughter-in-law of a family, a mother of a child.
That sense of loss, maybe only those who have experienced it themselves understand? Especially those girls who are married far away, the next time they come home, they don't know when it will be.
2. Why do you have red eyes?
I once watched a video of a father driving, and his wife asked him: "Husband, have you ever thought that in a few years, our girls will grow up and get married?" “
The man's expression was visibly stunned, and then after a long silence, he said, "I hope that day will come later." After all, I would be very reluctant to do so. “
Because the girl grew up in her father's arms, he accompanied his child to learn his teeth, watched her stumble and take the first step in life, watched her carry her school bag and waved and smiled with him.
I also used to think that time passed very slowly, enough for us to chat. However, unconsciously, the children have slowly grown up, and their steps have begun to become faltering.
For fathers who love their daughters, their daughters are their hopes, the world-class treasures they want to protect for the rest of their lives. No one deserves it.
However, the daughter will always grow up. She will have her own life, have her own friends, and will gradually be estranged from her parents because of her ideas, which will happen sooner or later.
So, perhaps, it would be better to slow down. At the very least, she could stay with her parents for a little longer, because only in these times was she a carefree little girl.
3. Daughter, you always have to learn to change your identity
In our lifetime, we will eventually meet a person who will watch the spring and autumn with him, and live an ordinary and not ordinary life with him.
As a parent, what you hope most is not that your children can get married, but your own children, and someone can walk with him in the second half of your life.
Girls may quarrel with their parents at home, but their parents will not take revenge. However, after getting married, you can't argue with your in-laws.
Marriage is not only two people who love each other together, but also faces the short skin of many parents, so be cautious.
People whose parents don't let you marry, don't marry. Someone whose parents don't let you marry, don't marry. Life, not only love, but also a lot of trivialities.
We don't want to grow up, we want to live by their parents' side for the rest of our lives, always under their umbrella, and be a child.
However, we will eventually grow up and get out of that umbrella, and this time, it will be your turn to be their umbrella and protect them well.
If you really want to get married one day, you hope that the other party is an object that satisfies your parents, is your firm choice, and will firmly choose your person.
4. Marriage is important
I know that there is a post, which has a saying that is very correct: "People who are not married now do not think that marriage is not important, but that they feel that it is very yin and very important." “
If you're getting married one day, hopefully you've met someone who really moves you. Instead of marrying for the sake of getting married.
You can proudly lead him to your parents and say, "I am him in this life, and he is the second half of my life." “
When the time comes, I hope that your parents' faces will also raise the same smiles as you.
Above all, good night and good dreams.