In this world, only cough and love cannot be hidden.
Source: Gu Qinglin (ID: Gu-QingLin)
The deepest love in the world is heartache.
As the internet says:
"Gentleness can be disguised, romance can be made, beauty can be modified, and only heartache is the most primitive love."
How much a person loves you, how much he hurts you.
So --
Why spend time and energy testing whether the other person really loves himself.
Just see if he will hurt you with practical actions to hurt you and love you, it will be clear.
The person who hurts you knows how to think differently
Read a sentence:
"I wanted an apple, but you gave me a box of pears."
Loving someone is simple.
But it is difficult to love someone in the way that the other person likes.
So often it's --
I have obviously given you a lot, but you do not appreciate it;
I often put up with you a lot, but you don't know it.
To put it bluntly, it is not careful, and it will not be considered for ta from the perspective of the other party.
Such love is not real love at all.
The person who really hurts you and loves you will definitely put you in his heart, and when he does everything, he can't help but think of you, and he will care about and take care of your feelings.
As this saying goes:
"Everyone is an egoist, and only in the presence of those who love can they become altruists."
Like will be arrogant, true love must be understood and considered.
Understand what you understand, consider what you think, to reassure you, to make you feel comfortable, to reassure you.
Therefore, if a person, although he does not say "I love you" in his mouth, but always stands in your point of view and thinks about you on weekdays, there is no doubt that he must be someone who truly loves you.
The person who hurts you, let you be yourself
"Don't tiptoe to love someone."
The words of the emotional teacher Tu Lei can be described as heartfelt and sober.
The biggest obsession in the relationship is that it is obviously inappropriate, but it still longs to stay by the other party's side.
Even if you seek perfection, even if you endure more grievances and heartache...
But one thing is often overlooked -
Feelings, it is not that the harder you work, the longer they will last.
If a relationship always makes you feel like walking on thin ice and trembling, then this relationship must not be an ideal relationship.
Truly good love will make people feel like a spring breeze and a relaxed heart.
And the right person, you don't need to deliberately please, and you don't need to work hard to maintain, two people together, you can be yourself, so always comfortable.
This kind of love is true love.
As the writer Yi Shu put it:
"Whoever feels hard is demanding." True love is pleasurable, and if you feel pain, something must be wrong, and you need to end it in time and start all over again. ”
Therefore, too hard a relationship is better than a break; too laborious to get along, it is better to leave.
After all, life is not long, should not be wasted, only with those who are not tired of getting along, the rest of life can be warm and wonderful.
The person who hurts you will have a preference for you
What is preference?
There is a saying on the Internet:
"People who want to send you home, people who want to accompany you to dinner, people who want to eat with you, people who love to eat, people who want to contact you, have time day and night."
Preference is special, is the only, that is, no one else can do it, only you can.
And this kind of love is the deepest expression of loving a person.
Just like Qiao Feng in "Tianlong Babu".
Ah Zi asked him, "What's so good about Arjun, why can't you only see her, but you can't see me?" ”
Qiao Feng said:
"You're good in everything, better than hers in everything, you have only one flaw, you're not her." Arjun is Arjun, the nations of the four seas, thousands of generations, there is only one Arjun. ”
May one be favored and generous in this life.
If a person really loves you and hurts you, he will give you such a favor.
Single-minded protection, unscrupulous pampering, blatant companionship.
Give you the confidence to do whatever you want, and also give you a sense of security every day to come.
Only this kind of love is worthy of human fireworks, and the mountains and rivers are far away.
If you really care about a person, you will stand in the perspective of TA and think about TA;
Really care about a person, always find a way to make the ta feel relaxed, no burden to be themselves;
If you really love someone, you will leave all your preferences and spoils to him.
As Sanmao said:
"Patience, resilience, understanding, tolerance, inclusion, are synonymous with love."
Therefore, no matter how good a person says, but it cannot give you understanding, tolerance and preference, it is not love.
At this time, don't settle down, go to the person who really puts you in your heart, in order to live up to this life.
Click [Like] + [Watching], may you be lucky enough to meet true love and join hands with true love.
Also make sharing a habit, may good night!
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Author: Gu Qinglin (ID: Gu-QingLin). Don't always come to Japan for a long time, the world looks back between people walking tea cold, every night at 9:30, I am here waiting for you! Please contact wayy3908 for reproduction. Jiang, who has a story, published it with authorization, please contact the original author for reprinting.