Pingping has been very upset lately, she has reached the age of marriage, but she is still in a dispute with her parents. This is all because Pingping's boyfriend is a Hunan native, and Pingping is a Fujianese. So Pingping's parents don't let Pingping marry her boyfriend because they hate marrying away.
The reasons they gave seemed to be very sufficient: they were worried that Pingpingyuan would be bullied and had no place to cry after marrying, and that Pingping would not be able to come back to visit her parents often after she married. A whole bunch of reasons were said to be dumb.
Pingping feels that her love should not stop at these remarks of her parents, but she does not know what to do.
Why is it that long-distance marriage is often not favored? In fact, the risks that girls who marry far away are bound to exist. From Fujian to Hunan, this is equivalent to the circle of friends operated from childhood will be out of your tracks, before you were in a bad mood can shout out a large number of people to accompany you to relieve your worries, after the long marriage can not be. In the husband's home, the two regions have cultural differences, and how to manage the marriage has become a difficult thing.
If the marriage is not running well and you have been wronged in your husband's home, you can only cry secretly by yourself, and you dare not let your parents who are thousands of miles away know. These risks in the long-distance marriage are the most worrying parents who raise their daughters with hard work, and it is difficult to raise a daughter, not to ask her to give us a pension, but also to ask her to live a smooth life.
In most people's opinions, a marriage that can take care of each other is an acceptable marriage. For distant marriage, parents' worries can be allowed, but the question is that as the protagonist, do you dare to be brave for love once?
Whether it is regional culture, spatial distance, or the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, these are all problems that girls who have married far away should face. It is also the test that these girls must go through if they want to get love. I believe that every relationship that has been forcibly interrupted by parents because of a long marriage will eventually leave a scar on the heart, and it may take a long time to heal it. It's just that if you give up your precious feelings because of some conventional marriage costs, I don't think it's worth it for people who have the courage to go to love.
Marrying far away is a game of the brave, how to adapt to the differences in regional cultures without courage, and the distance between space and above. Marrying thousands of miles is a test of one's own ability and independent personality. Can you respect the culture of your husband's family, can you manage the marriage relationship with your husband's family, and try not to let yourself taste all your grievances after marrying far away. If you can, you take out your ability to convince your parents. I have grown up and am strong enough in life that I am no longer the little one I used to be.
In fact, should you marry far away? This is never a one-size-fits-all problem. For the coward, marrying away must be a torturous journey of the mind. For the brave, marrying far away is just a choice to go to love in their brave life.
But after marrying, there are three experiences to help you withstand the blow more. The first is to find a relatively good job, to stand up straight, to be able to support themselves. Economic independence does not weaken its own position. If the other party is a ma bao man without an independent personality, then there is no point in marrying far away.
Because they didn't agree and said, "That's what my mother said, it must be like this." "You won't be able to figure out whether you're in love with Ma Bao Nan or getting married to Ma Bao Nan's mother."
You must cultivate your own business ability, after marrying far away, you are a member of that family, the relationship in the family is not good, and the last headache is still yourself, which is also one of the biggest risks of long marriage.
Should a person be brave once in this life? I don't expect everyone to be brave long-distancers, and those who dare not marry far away can also find the love they think is appropriate. But distant marriagers dare to rush out of the worldly framework to pursue what they want, even if they take great risks. But if you see them so kind and brave, you must not lose. I hope that if you want to marry far away, you can find your warmth after you go.
(The materials in the article are all based on real cases)