Author | Inspector (1908 words, about 4 minutes to read)
In the past era of material scarcity, their children wore clothes eliminated by other older children, which was like a common meal like drinking water, and some elderly people often said, "Children who eat a hundred meals and wear a hundred clothes are healthier." ”
Of course, such a concept is regarded as a feudal superstition in modern times, and we have no practical scientific theories to prove this, but only a kind of family expectation of children.
Children in the process of development, growth is very rapid, especially in their most rapid development period, if some parents buy more clothes of the same size for their children, then they wear a few times on the small, in vain caused by waste, it is better to give to other children.
This is why, at present, there is still a phenomenon of wearing the rest of the children's clothes.
"Send your big-name children's clothes, why throw them all away!" Bao Ma angrily questioned her girlfriend, but she was speechless
Pingping recently "happy a thousand gold", girls originally love beauty, with a daughter, she is even more crazy to buy clothes and skirts, to her daughter to take beautiful photos and hair dynamics. When she usually sorted out her clothes, she was worried about how to deal with the clothes of her children when she was a child, and suddenly she had a clever move, washed and disinfected all these clothes, and gave them to her girlfriend.
"These are all famous brands, just your daughter can wear it, my mother-in-law once said, wearing other people's children's clothes will also increase the family's blessings, these clothes are precious, just you can save money, do not have to buy." 」 After Pingping gave the clothes to her girlfriend, she thought that her girlfriend would be very happy, but she did not expect that the next day, when Pingping continued to send her clothes, she found that the last time the clothes were thrown in the garbage bin downstairs of the girlfriend's house.
"Send your big-name children's clothes, why throw it away!" Pingping angrily questioned her girlfriend, but her girlfriend said, "Your child wears new clothes, so why should my children wear your baby's old clothes?" Some of your clothes are dirty! Whose child is not a baby? Before you do things, can you take into account the feelings of others? ”
Pingping was stunned by her girlfriend's words, originally she had good intentions, but the two sides had different ideas, but there was a contradiction.
From the point of view of gift-giving, this is a blessing, but for some friends, it is an invisible contempt, and receiving gifts at that time may be a straightforward rejection that is not good. But accepting other people's clothes is a kind of damage to the face of the family, and presumably no family will want to be treated as a parent who cannot afford to buy clothes by others. Sending blessings is indeed well-intentioned, but it does not take care of the self-esteem of the other family, and it is also a kind of negligence.
▼Even if you really want to send clothes, pay attention to these aspects
★ Worn shoes cannot be easily given away
Shoes bought in the home are also consumables, but:
● The degree of wear of shoes is closely related to a person's walking habits and posture.
A person has different walking habits, it will make the shoes have different degrees of wear, from a physiological point of view, if they give the shoes they wear to other children, due to the wear of the soles, it will affect the soles of their feet, and different deformations will occur, which is completely unfavorable for their growth and development.
★ Clothes with decorations cannot be sent indiscriminately
Some clothes in the design, will keep up with the trend of the times, so there will be certain decorations, these decorations for adults may be fashion elements, but for children, it may be a factor that produces certain safety hazards.
Because children will have a strong curiosity, if the clothes have some strange things, they will be curious to touch with their hands and even taste them in their mouths.
Therefore, even if you want to give second-hand clothes to others, you must carefully consider whether the clothes contain excess decorations and whether there are safety hazards.
★ Children's intimate clothes must not be given away
Each person's skin may react differently to different items, and the same thing may make one person allergic but not to another.
Intimate clothing often has its own dander or some allergens, such as juice or saliva, etc., washing may not be completely thorough, that is, if we give intimate clothing to other children, it is likely to cause them to have a certain allergic reaction.
Then in this way, sending clothes over will cause them a certain amount of harm, good intentions to do bad things, I believe this is not what we want to see.
▲ It is good intentions to send clothes, but be sure to pay attention to the thoughts of the host family
Although it is out of kindness to give things to others, and this is also a kind of care and help for them, when we give them, we must also pay attention to a certain way and carefully select what we can give, and communicate in advance to see if the other party needs help in this regard.
Clothes are not expensive items in nature, but if they are not handled well, they may hurt the dignity of the host's family, and many parents will still care about things that involve their precious children. Therefore, this point must be paid special attention to, in case a small matter leads to a gap between friends, it will not be worth the loss.
Even if the host does not mind the child wearing other people's clothes, then we can not ignore it, or send some clean and neat clothes.
Because what we want to send is not only our own heart, but more importantly, our intention to this heart and the friendship with friends, which is more important than a few clothes.
Spicy Mom Quotes:
Children wear other people's second-hand clothes, for some mothers to save money, will be very grateful for each other's help, but for some mothers, may not look at second-hand things and from the heart of resistance.
Everyone's family is different, so the perspective of the problem and the point of importance are different, when we send clothes, one is to consider their own wording, the other is to communicate with each other, the good intentions are used in the right place, in order to avoid estrangement and unnecessary harm between friends.
Parents, would you be willing to accept second-hand clothing from other children?
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