Yi Shu once wrote in "The First Half of My Life": Why people want to get married, it is not because life is not easy, they need to find someone to help each other.
Because life is not easy, we need to find someone to help each other. It's just that on the road of searching, we are blinded by love. By the time I woke up, it was too late.
As Zhang Ailing said: "I thought that love can fill the regrets of life, but what creates more regrets is love." "You think the other person is your own good man, but you don't know that the other party is just a wolf in sheep's clothing."
01, the only child meets the foolish filial man
Emotional writer Lu Qi once said: "When you marry, you are not married to a certain person, but to marry all the social relations of this person." So what kind of family you marry, what kind of marriage will you have. ”
At first, YanNi did not understand this sentence. Or even if she knew, she wouldn't want to stop the loss in time when happiness was within reach. As a result, the marriage buried hidden dangers from the beginning.
Yanni is an only child, her parents work well, her family is good, and she has no worries about food and clothing, and she has never worried about money before she fell in love. But since falling in love, she has gradually understood the difficulties of life.
Husband Qiu Yang is a phoenix man who has been admitted from the countryside to the university in the city, tenacious, hard-working, and has good academic performance. The two fell in love in college and later went to work in the same city.
When she got married, her parents tried to persuade her, but Yanni thought that her parents were snobbish and materialistic, and Qiu Yang was a potential stock, how could she be intimidated by a momentary downfall? Yanni's stubbornness eventually forced her parents to agree to the marriage, and she also bought them a marriage house from her own pocket.
Yan Ni thought that she and Qiu Yang would be able to live a happy life from now on, after all, her parents had a house, a car and a pension, and there was no need for her to worry. But after only a year of marriage, Yanni found that all this was nothing more than her own self-deception.
Because Qiu Yang was all his family's hope, after Qiu Yang began to earn money, he sent back 3,000 yuan a month. Even if Qiu Yang married Yan Ni later, he did not relent.
With the subsidy of her parents, Yanni's life is also very good. It wasn't until she later resigned and went home to give birth to a child, that life slowly became difficult. As the child grew older and the cost became larger and larger, Yan Ni was embarrassed to reach out to her parents for money at all times, and could only ask Qiu Yang for money.
But Qiu Yang's salary is not high, the monthly salary is ten thousand, sent back to the in-laws three thousand, the car loan is three thousand, the remaining four thousand yuan, but also to reserve two thousand people for socializing and raising a car.
Therefore, only 2,000 yuan can reach Yanni every month, and Yanni's mortgage can only rely on the support of her parents. As for the cost of children, most of them also nibble on the parents' old books.
02, "Your parents 3 suites, send a set to my parents for the elderly"
Yan Ni advised Qiu Yang to send less money or not to send money to her in-laws for the time being, after all, her in-laws were in her hometown, and there was no big cost. But Qiu Yang refused, saying that his parents had raised him so hard for so many years, and it was hard to look forward to the end, and he could not let his parents suffer anymore.
For Qiu Yang's foolish filial piety, Yan Ni could only accept it more often. Because every time it involved his in-laws, Qiu Yang was irrational and completely foolish, and no one was allowed to interfere with his filial piety.
Forced to make a living, Yanni had to give her children to her parents to take with her, and she found a job herself. Although the salary is not high, the good guys can also afford to support themselves and their children.
At this time, Qiu Yang once again proposed to buy a house for his in-laws nearby to facilitate the care of his in-laws. For Qiu Yang's filial piety, Yan Ni could not refute it. But she offered to let Qiu Yang take out the down payment, but he still couldn't get it.
Yan Ni advised him to dispel his thoughts, after all, the poor couple Pepsi mourned, they themselves rely on the subsidies of Yan Ni's parents to live a life, where is the spare strength to help the in-laws buy a house for the elderly? However, Qiu Yang refused to give up, he couldn't get the down payment, and he started to twist his mind.
Qiu Yang said boldly, "We can't get a down payment, but your parents have 3 suites, send a set to my parents for the elderly, anyway, you are an only child, these 3 suites will be left to us sooner or later." Since the house has to be given sooner or later, it is better to give it now, and save us from buying a house again, in one fell swoop. ”
Yan Ni was surprised by her husband's request. She knew that her husband was filial, but she didn't know that her husband was so filial. Where the in-laws lack a house to live in, it is basically the little uncle who wants to prepare a marriage room to get married. The in-laws could not afford to buy a house, so they had to squeeze the eldest son.
Thinking of her husband's self-righteous filial piety, but in the end, she may just make a wedding dress for someone, and Yanni will no longer theorize with him. Yanni refused, and resolutely proposed a divorce with him.
She admires men with love and filial piety, but she looks down on the foolish filial piety man who is obviously incompetent but still wants to punch a swollen face and be fat. But Qiu Yang has all occupied it, is it still necessary to maintain this marriage?
03, do not habitually do not condone foolish filial piety
Between husband and wife, the most important thing is trust and understanding. But some men's filial piety is too much of a test of their wives' patience and tolerance.
Even if a man is filial to his parents, he should be within his own ability. If you are not strong enough, then there is no need to punch the swollen face and be fat, and act as a great filial piety in front of your parents.
Therefore, when encountering such a foolish filial man, women should not be accustomed to indulgence. Only if the man's backyard is on fire, perhaps he will understand how much the woman has silently paid behind his back for his foolish filial piety.
Today's Topic:
Do you think women are obligated to meet the requirements of a man's filial piety?