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When in love, women are often blind, always feel that love is better than everything, as long as two people love each other, those two people will be able to be happy for a lifetime.
When in love, you can think of it simply, as long as you enjoy the time of love, but when two people want to enter marriage, you can no longer be so simple, if you continue to be so simple, then you may usher in an unhappy married life after marriage.
Therefore, before marriage, you must first confirm whether your boyfriend is suitable for being your husband, and the standards of boyfriend and husband are not the same.
Before marriage, as long as the other party is good to themselves, as long as two people love each other, then any problem is not a problem. Because when in love, there are not so many interference factors, the feelings between two people are very simple, as long as you have an appointment every day and talk about a relationship.
But marriage is different, and there will be many problems after marriage. Two people are no longer in a simple romantic relationship, two people need to be responsible for each other, and even for the upcoming child, the life of two people is no longer only love, two people have to face a trivial life.
Many girls do not care whether men are poor or not before marriage, nor do they care whether men have the ability, and always feel that two people work together and life can always be good. But after marriage, their ideas will change dramatically, because the burden on their shoulders is heavy, and they still have to raise children, so women after marriage begin to become realistic, and this change, in the eyes of men, is that women become urban servants.
Therefore, women must be cautious in the issue of marriage, do not marry themselves out of thin air, then after marriage you will lose all your simplicity, and even lose the love you value most. Therefore, before a woman decides to get married, she must first do three things with her boyfriend, which is related to the happiness after marriage.
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First thing: Take an unplanned long trip.
When in love, the time two people have together is limited after all, and it is difficult to fully understand each other. But after marriage, two people have become a husband and wife relationship, it is definitely going to get along day and night, when the time comes, all kinds of problems on the other party will be exposed in front of your eyes, maybe a certain point in the other party, you will feel really unbearable, this situation is very common.
A couple of lovers who originally had a good relationship, not long after marriage, chose to divorce because they could not stand a certain point in each other. There are many such examples.
Therefore, before marriage, you must understand all the advantages and disadvantages of each other, and also test whether two people are suitable for long-term expectations together.
After you have figured this out, you have to ask yourself, can you put up with those problems in the other person, if you are together for a long time, will you feel intolerable, will you feel suffocated?
If you can accept that none of these questions will shake your determination to marry him, then it's okay that you won't at least not argue about this kind of thing after marriage.
But how do you figure these questions out? The easiest way to do this is to take an unplanned long trip with the other person.
This is the most effective and easiest way. Two people traveling long distances together, that time, two people need to be together all the time, two people need to plan and make choices for everything on the journey. In this process, we can definitely see whether the two people are in tune with each other, and in the seamless relationship, we can also clearly see the problems that exist in each other's body, and we can also see the way the other party deals with contradictions and problems.
When you understand all these questions, you will be able to judge whether you are suitable for marriage or not.
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Second thing: deal with a few things together.
When in love, the relationship between men and women is purely hormonal attraction, and the problem of whether two people are suitable or not is considered at all. But if you are considering marriage, these issues must be considered.
If you don't think about anything and choose to get married directly after a hit on the head, you may really face various problems after marriage, and in the process, you may also have a dislike for your husband.
You know, marriage is not about love, after marriage two people are going to live a life, there is no simple life, that is two people facing various problems in life together, in this process two people will definitely feel bored, at this time the test is a person's character and quality. Some people will be furious, shift the responsibility to the other party, and completely pick and choose, while some people will try to restrain their emotions, try to find a solution, and try to soothe their wives' emotions.
If you meet a man who only shirks his responsibilities and picks from time to time, then the quality of your marriage can be imagined. But if you meet a man who will think about his wife and find a way to solve the problem, then your marriage should be happy.
Therefore, before deciding to get married, women must first deal with several things with their boyfriends, and this kind of thing must be the kind of thing that is not easy to handle, as long as this way, you can know your boyfriend's ability to deal with problems, you can also know his real character and quality, and you can also predict the days you will live in the future.
After that, you can probably judge whether your boyfriend is suitable for your husband.
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The third thing: the money thing should be discussed well.
Many women are particularly simple and completely material before marriage, always feel that it is enough to love each other between two people, and always say with confidence that their boyfriends are definitely potential stocks.
Whether it is a potential stock or not, no one can say for sure, only time can give you the answer.
And the time you are waiting for him to develop is destined to be particularly depressed. Women must not feel that they have enough to drink, it is possible before marriage, both people have jobs, there is no burden, as long as they can afford to pay rent, can afford to eat is enough.
But after marriage, you have to face the pressure of the house, the pressure of parenting, and even the pressure from your parents. When the time comes, in the face of so much pressure, are you sure you will still be able to maintain a normal mind? At that time, what you have in mind is no longer what love and love, at that time, in the face of various pressures, what you think in your heart is money.
So don't make your life so miserable because of the simplicity and ignorance of your youth. Before marriage, we must understand each other's economic situation, the money thing must be discussed well, do not wait until after the marriage, in the face of various ups and downs in life, regret again, what is the use of regret at that time.
Women don't think that talking about money is vulgar, this is not vulgar at all, this is a manifestation of intelligence, a person's smartest performance, is to be able to make plans for their own life.
You can choose to grow up with a man who has nothing, but you must be prepared to suffer all kinds of hardships in the world, of course, you must also be prepared to wait for others to grow up and be kicked away. After all, not all men have a conscience.
Therefore, before deciding to get married, women must first talk to their boyfriends about money, and if they feel that it is not possible, they should break up as soon as possible.
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Marriage is the second reincarnation for a woman, and whether you can reincarnate into a good family or not really depends on yourself. If you are smart, know how to choose, know how to judge a person, then your married life, to a large extent, may be happy.
But if you don't even have the basic ability to judge, and you marry yourself out of thin air, then the probability of your rebirth into a good family is definitely very low.
Therefore, women must learn to be smart, and must learn to judge whether a person is suitable for marriage or not, and whether it is suitable to live with you for a lifetime.
If you want to live happily after marriage, then your marriage partner must be compatible with you, in the face of various problems in life, you must be calm and calm to solve the problem, and your married life must be guaranteed, the other party does not necessarily really want to be rich and expensive, but the other party must be able to provide basic life security, only in this way, your married life can be happy.
Therefore, before deciding to get married, women must first do the three things mentioned above with their boyfriends, only in this way can you judge whether the other party is suitable for becoming your husband. This is the key to happiness after marriage.