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The fundamental reason why mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can't get along is that they can't understand each other.
Once the two women in the family have friction, the most difficult thing is the man.
The hero in the next case, in the contradiction between his mother and daughter-in-law, decisively chose to protect his wife.
Since Xiao Ling married into the old Wang family, her heart was still quite satisfied.
Her husband Wang Peng not only has a stable job but also hurts her very much, although the marriage house has a mortgage, but she willingly helps repay the loan.
The mother-in-law's old house is in the countryside in the suburbs, because the environmental pollution has become more and more serious in recent years, so after Wang Peng got married, he moved in together.
The old lady thought that Xiaoling would oppose living together, but she did not expect that the daughter-in-law was very supportive of living together, and said that filial piety to the elderly was the duty of the younger generation.
On the day of picking up the old lady, Xiaoling personally went to pick up, and she said while helping with her luggage that the old house was really not suitable for living.
After the mother-in-law moved into the house, the family lived a relatively harmonious life.
The old lady will make the meal before the little two leave work, and Xiaoling will also buy some gifts from time to time to honor her mother-in-law.
Over time, when the neighbors saw Xiaoling's mother-in-law, they praised her for her blessings, saying that her daughter-in-law was both filial and hurtful.
As she spoke, several old ladies began to complain about their daughters-in-law. Say that they either love to talk back or throw their faces, or Xiaoling's mother-in-law is blessed.
This made XiaoLing's mother-in-law suddenly float up, and that night at home, she talked to Xiaoling and put up a shelf.
In the past, Xiaoling would take the initiative to ask for the dishes to be washed after eating, but the mother-in-law never let her.
Today, before XiaoLing could speak, her mother-in-law said, "Xiaoling, you went to wash the dishes and chopsticks." The kitchen was also cleaned up, and I'd go downstairs for a while. ”
Although the tone is plain, there is some disdain in it.
Xiao Ling, who has a meek personality, did not think much about it, and responded to her mother-in-law in a sloppy manner, and immediately got up to clean up.
The mother-in-law was very proud of this temptation, and took a coat and went out lazily.
In the rest area downstairs, she also deliberately went to a crowded place, hoping that the old sisters would know that her daughter-in-law was at her disposal.
With this experience, the mother-in-law slowly became bolder for Xiaoling.
Once after the son went out, they were left at home, and the mother-in-law said unhappily as soon as she saw that there was still water under the bathroom: "Xiaoling, you come to see, you see that the water under the ground should be dried in time, otherwise this smell is so bad." ”
Xiao Ling's first reaction was that she had done something wrong, and while saying that she was fine, she brought a tissue to dry.
But the mother-in-law immediately took away the tissue after seeing it, not only saying that it was too wasteful, but also counting that Xiaoling would not live a life.
After saying that, he threw a rag to XiaoLing and asked her to wipe it clean quickly.
After the mother-in-law turned to leave, Xiao Ling's heart suddenly felt uncomfortable.
Just the mother-in-law's reaction, obviously is very annoying her look, thinking of this Xiaoling is a little aggrieved.
She didn't know where she had offended her mother-in-law, and when she thought about it carefully, she found that her mother-in-law seemed to be targeting her recently.
Although she wanted to talk to her husband about her heart, she was afraid that talking too much would cause greater family conflicts.
Finally thinking about it, Xiao Ling was still ready to swallow her grievances.
But Na Cheng thought that the mother-in-law had concluded that Xiao Ling's personality was weak, and in her heart she also looked down on her daughter-in-law more and more.
Once, when she was eating dinner, the old lady was particularly attentive to her son's vegetables, and said that it was not easy for Wang Peng to go to work to buy this house.
After saying no, he turned his head to Xiao Ling and said, "You should also care more about Wang Peng, the burden of the family is on him." ”
Wang Peng listened to his mother say this and quickly advised: "Mom, you see what you said, this mortgage Xiaoling is borne with me, I am embarrassed that you said so, I have no ability to let Xiaoling live a rich life." ”
Xiao Ling did not say a word, but the mother-in-law's face was white and white after hearing these words, and she did not go downstairs for a walk at night.
At night, Xiaoling couldn't sleep over and over again, and her husband Wang Peng gently asked her: "Is there anything on your mind, I look at the night that you and your mother are a little wrong." ”
Xiao Ling quickly said that it was okay, and asked him not to ask, not to affect the work tomorrow.
Although Xiaoling did not say, Wang Peng could still hear her mother's complaints sometimes.
It's just that I don't want to hurt the family and anger for this matter.
Therefore, he could only be better and considerate to his wife in private, and did not want to let XiaoLing chill.
Only recently, after the mother-in-law gained momentum, she frequently called her daughter to the house for dinner.
Because Wang Peng's sister lived a normal life after getting married, she and her husband were both laid off recently.
Therefore, the mother-in-law took it upon herself to call her daughter over to eat, and Xiaoling saw that the eldest sister was coming and could not say anything, so she could only politely entertain.
But a few times down, the mother and daughter actually regarded this as their own home, openly arousing Xiao Ling.
Later, the eldest sister not only came empty-handed when she left, but also took a large bag when she left.
Once, the bag that Xiaoling had just bought was shunned away, but Xiaoling just asked a question, and she was told by the eldest sister and mother-in-law.
One will say that she is stingy, and the other will say that everything in the family is Wang Peng's.
The combination of the mother-in-law and the eldest sister made Xiaoling a little overwhelmed, and she hid in the bathroom several times and secretly cried.
Once Wang Peng wanted to go to the toilet, but saw Xiao Ling come out with red eyes, and he suddenly said loudly: "Lingzi, what are you crying!" Whoever makes you unhappy will her!
He had deliberately said this to his mother and sister, who had thought they would converge, but it was useless to think of it.
That day, the eldest sister came to the house to rub rice, and the mother-in-law also stared at Xiaoling early and made a lot of delicious food.
Before she could take a few bites, the eldest sister shook her head and said, "Oh Xiaoling is not a sister who said you, you are taking care of my mother and my brother in your cooking skills." ”
The mother-in-law was not salty and said lightly: "Why, your brother is this life, just eat it like this, who can blame the daughter-in-law you are looking for." ”
Xiao Ling looked at her mother-in-law and eldest sister singing and hurting her, and for a while she couldn't hold back the tears.
Wang Peng also listened to the fire, and finally angrily directly lifted the table and shouted: "If it is not delicious, don't eat, eat the restaurant later, AA system!"
After saying that, he drove away his sister, and before leaving, he asked her not to come to his house in the future.
Two days later, he rented a house for his mother and let her move in.
Although Xiaoling also advised her husband to stop at the right time, she still could not stop her husband's determination to protect her...
In the case, Wang Peng finally chose to protect his wife and stay away from his unreasonable mother and sister.
This not only tells us that we can't be inching forward, but also makes us understand the following two truths.
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One: In family relationships, irresponsible men do not protect their wives.
As a woman, happiness after marriage is given by the husband.
So a responsible husband is a woman's greatest asset.
Know that the bitterness and lack of life can be seen everywhere, and the complex relationships in the family can also make you miserable at any time.
But as long as the husband can shoulder the responsibility and stand up when the wife is wronged and difficult, it will give the lover hope and courage again.
The husband in the case is undoubtedly responsible and responsible, and after understanding the wife's grievances, he dares to turn his face to the unreasonable family.
Such a true disposition can be described as rare in life.
More often, it may be that the husband turns a blind eye to his wife's grievances, or even does not help his relatives, making his wife more discouraged.
Such a husband is undoubtedly unfortunate for a woman.
Because only men who have no responsibility and responsibility will not even be able to protect their lovers.
Whether it's a lack of courage or a lack of emotional intelligence, it's just as disappointing.
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Second: Smart mother-in-law knows how to "respect each other like guests" with her daughter-in-law.
All people and things in this world have two sides.
Some people are naturally intelligent, and they are convincing and respectable in their behavior and deeds.
And some people are stupid, unrepentant, and can only stay away.
These two very different personalities naturally create different destinies.
In fact, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the same, and the smart mother-in-law knows how to live in harmony with her daughter-in-law.
Because she knows that if she offends her daughter-in-law, she will suffer from her son and her own family.
But the confused mother-in-law prefers to stir up trouble, afraid that the daughter-in-law will live a peaceful day.
This kind of darkness and the psychology of small citizens have infinitely plunged such mothers-in-law into more embarrassing situations.
Therefore, to respect your daughter-in-law as a guest is actually to forgive yourself and bless yourself.
Don't make your own path narrower and narrower, and don't let your children be embarrassed day and night.
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In fact, every mother-in-law and daughter-in-law can respect each other as guests.
It's just that many times, we forget what happiness looks like.
It wasn't until the relationship between the two sides was broken and destroyed that he found that he regretted it so much.
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