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After a betrayed marriage, can it still go to the end?
Everyone's answers and choices are different about this question.
Some people feel that there are only 0 times and countless times of extramarital feelings, so as long as they are committed once, the marriage will come to an end.
And some people feel that people will inevitably make mistakes, as long as they know repentance, then they can forgive.
In short, in the face of the problem of extramarital feelings, everyone looks at the problem from a different perspective, and the choices made will be different.
Whether such a marriage can go to the end depends on three factors, which determine the outcome.
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The first factor: the attitude of the wrong party.
After the extramarital relationship is discovered, the attitude of the wrong party is strange.
Some people will cry and repent, make a look of remorse, and promise not to do it again. Some people even do things that kneel and slap themselves.
This attitude of admitting mistakes and promising not to do it again will often make the other half soft and choose to forgive. Although there are also some people with strong personalities or the kind of people with psychological purity who will firmly choose to divorce, most people will still choose to continue the marriage.
Although after this, the feelings between two people may not go back to the past, they will still choose to continue the marriage, regardless of the problem of love or not, marriage is not like love, there are too many things to weigh in marriage, and it is not so easy to end the marriage.
Therefore, many people will choose to live together after finding out that the other party has betrayed the marriage, and in the case of the other party's good attitude of admitting mistakes.
After all, the division of property, the problem of children, the problem of how to live after divorce, the problem of how to explain to parents, these need to be considered, in the case of so many problems disturbing people's minds, many people will still look at the other party is still still saving, put away the idea of divorce.
The above is what happens if the wrong party has a good attitude.
And there are some wrong parties, and the attitude is arrogant.
They will push the responsibility for this matter to the other half, may say that it is because the other party usually does not like to dress up, do not know how to care about the husband, so let him have an outward heart, may also say that it is because the other half is not home, every day knows that busy work, no time to accompany her, will let her make such a mistake.
In short, that means that if you make such a mistake yourself, it is the responsibility of the other half.
This is not the end, some of them do not think that this is a big deal, and they have not even thought of breaking contact with people outside, thinking that they can accept it, and if they can't accept it, they can't leave it.
With such an attitude, who can stand it with normal people? Definitely have to leave. This kind of marriage is doomed to go to the end.
Of course, there will be a small number of people who may not be able to make up their minds to divorce for various reasons, and will choose to continue to live with their anger. In the past, there were many such examples, but now, such examples are becoming less and less.
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The second factor: the emotional basis between the two parties.
Whether it is the past or the present, the combination of two people is not necessarily because of love, many people feel appropriate, and many people feel that they are old, and their parents have arranged it, then they will tie up, of course, most of them are still because of love.
Marriages that are bound together because of love will be more solid, because there is a deeper emotional foundation, and when problems are encountered, the emotional factors will prevail, so such a marriage has a strong ability to resist risks.
When such a couple with a relatively good emotional foundation encounters betrayal in marriage, although they will be greatly stimulated at the beginning and will feel unacceptable, in the end, there are still many examples of divorce that cannot be cruelly divorced.
After all, there is a foundation of feelings, so many years of feelings are not cultivated in vain, although the other party betrayed himself and made himself very painful, but as long as he thinks of leaving the other party, the other party will completely disappear from his own world, and he feels that the sky is going to collapse.
At this time, as long as the other party has a good attitude of admitting mistakes, then most people will still choose to forgive, because he knows that although no matter which one he chooses, it will make him miserable, but choosing to forgive will make him less painful.
He still understood the lesser of two evils.
This is a situation where there is a basis for feelings between the two parties.
What about couples who don't have much emotional foundation, marry directly after a blind date, or marry directly under the arrangement of their parents?
Couples who don't have much of an emotional foundation tend to be more decisive when they encounter betrayal.
In the absence of interference from other factors, most of them will simply and neatly choose to divorce.
Because there is not much emotional basis, they follow their inner thoughts and do not dwell too much. Even some couples who are really together may have a feeling of relief.
So, in a marriage, it is really important to have a relationship basis.
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The third factor: other family factors.
A marriage, after encountering betrayal, can not go to the end, in addition to the attitude of the wrong party and the emotional basis between the two parties, there are many other family factors that play a decisive role.
You know, when you are in love, love may be all, but as long as you enter marriage, then love is no longer all.
Marriage represents the union of two families, after marriage is two people together to form a new family, jointly raise children, and take care of the elderly together.
In such a situation, in a family, each person has to play a different role.
Therefore, in the case of betrayal of the marriage, if you want to divorce, there are more things to consider.
Originally, two people working together to keep everything running, but when this balance is broken and one person has to bear it, many people will feel that they can't do it at all.
This is not cowardice, but the survival of this society itself is very difficult, and many times when you want to carry so many responsibilities to continue to move forward, you need a comrade-in-arms who fights side by side.
After all, this society is still the majority of ordinary people, and how many people can make money, take care of their families, and even take care of their parents?
Most people still live their lives as a chicken feather, and in such a situation, many people will choose to continue to live when looking at the betrayal of marriage.
This is not because people are stupid, nor is it because they love each other too much, nor because they are not out of the ordinary, but after taking into account the real problems, after all kinds of thinking, they found that they can only continue this marriage, after all, the cost of ending this marriage is too high, and it may even affect the second half of their lives.
Of course, although this is a more realistic situation and represents the situation of most ordinary people, there are definitely still the kind of people who must leave no matter what, as long as they are betrayed. I believe that many people will still envy this kind of courage, and dare to love and hate people.
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In short, whether a marriage that has suffered betrayal can go to the end is unknown after all.
It's all about the individual.
However, to analyze it as a whole and from big data, it still depends on the above three factors.
The attitude of the wrong party, the basis of the relationship between the two parties, other family factors.
Therefore, when we face marriage, we must be cautious from the beginning.
Marriage still needs an emotional foundation, and a marriage with an emotional foundation can survive one twist and turn in a long life, resist all kinds of temptations along the way, and go to the end.
And if you really make a mistake in the middle of the marriage because of a momentary mistake, or because of a momentary impulse, you must recognize your mistakes in time and correct them in time, only in this way can you have a chance to turn back.
I believe that everyone must start with the heart to the end when starting a marriage, but in a long marriage, there are always people who can't stand the temptation and desert, at this time, they must ask themselves what they want most, think about their original intentions, and think about whether they can bear the consequences of marriage.
Therefore, those who are still trying to run a marriage and have not yet made mistakes should always be vigilant and not let themselves make such mistakes, while those who have already made mistakes must strive to correct their mistakes and run a good marriage.