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A set of data was seen on the Internet: According to the data released by the relevant departments, by the end of last year, a total of 2.139 million couples across the country had completed divorce registration procedures.
Compared with the previous year's data, it has dropped by nearly 40%. Most of the data is due to the introduction of the 'divorce cooling-off period'.
After experiencing a 30-day cooling-off period for divorce, many people still choose to continue to maintain this married life.
1. Do you believe in love again?
Once heard the story of a friend, she and her other half married for more than 3 years, the two people originally chose to get married in order not to be urged to get married.
From the realization to enter the temple of marriage, a total of less than a year. However, the first two years of working from home made their already fragile marriage even more precarious.
For boys, his living habit is to get up every afternoon and rest in the early morning, while girls are a morning party, getting up at five o'clock every day, which is a natural living habit.
Whereas in the past they didn't have much time to spend with each other because they would go out to work, now they have to face each other every day.
In such an environment, they can't adapt to each other's rhythm of life, and they hate that their own rhythm of life is interfered with by each other, so they argue many times.
In fact, this matter is also a norm for many contemporary couples who marry for the sake of marriage, because they do not have a strong emotional foundation themselves.
Everyone is originally living together in order to live together, so for each other's accommodation and understanding, it will naturally become weak, and the number of quarrels will increase.
Compared with those who marry because of love, these couples are more likely to choose divorce. Although they do not have any problems with themselves.
Therefore, the cooling-off period for divorce is actually not suitable for all people, and those who cannot go together will not necessarily be able to accommodate each other and choose to live because they are married.
2. People don't dare to get married anymore
Someone said: "The decline in divorce data does not mean anything, just look at the number of marriage registrations in the past." ”
Indeed, according to the data, the population of people registering marriages in the mainland in 2021 is about 7.636 million pairs, compared with 10 million pairs in 2019, which is the third time that it has fallen below, and the data has reached less than 8 million pairs.
The significance of this data itself is that the current marriageable population, in fact, more people do not believe in marriage and love, they are more willing to enjoy their own lives.
In fact, the reason why modern people do not marry is nothing more than two aspects, on the one hand, they feel that their current income and various situations are not enough to be responsible for others;
On the other hand, after watching a lot of other people's experiences and trying them yourself, I have been discouraged about marriage.
Contemporary people's concept of marriage and love is actually like the speech of a woman who lived alone:
"I think I'm a very lazy person, I hate endless quarrels, I hate dealing with mother-in-law relationships, and I hate coming home with countless chores waiting for me to complete, so I don't fall in love, I don't get married, at least, it makes me very happy at the moment." 」
Indeed, some people will consider that if they do not get married, then after a hundred years of their parents, a person is doomed to become very miserable, but there is no perfect life in this world.
Just because you choose marriage doesn't mean you'll be happy, and likewise, you don't choose to fall in love and get married, and you don't have to be unhappy.
Any path is a double-edged sword, and since you want to choose, you have to accept everything you will face in the future.
3. Don't get married for the sake of getting married
The movie "The Leftovers Are King" did not have a high rating, but the words said by the father played by Jin Shijie in it poked a lot of people.
Marriage has never been for your parents, for relatives, for friends, but for yourself, and you have chosen your life behind you.
That person, who can be not tall or handsome, can be very ordinary in the crowd, but hopefully he can be sparkling in your eyes.
You can lead this person to your parents with pride and pride, and say, "This is the person I identify." I can't do it without him! ”
It has nothing to do with time, it has nothing to do with who it is, it has nothing to do with your choices, it has to do with your certainty. Because, what you are about to live, is your next life.
Whether it opens up in your 20s, 30s, or older, at least, if you're happy, fulfilled, and make a decision for yourself.
Just like when you applied for your favorite college, you got the job opportunity you wanted the most, and you hope that your love is not decided by others for you.
Never, don't get married for the sake of getting married, don't fall in love with someone for the sake of making it up. Love is very nihilistic, but finding someone and holding his hand can really resist a lot of unknown possibilities.
4. In life, we must learn to stop losses in time
There are always people on the road at the beginning, because of a hot head to choose the wrong road, it does not matter, there will be the next exit on the elevated road.
Marriage is sometimes like a car on a highway, and if it's not going in the right direction, there's nothing wrong with leaving.
If your life is even up to you, then no one can help you.
In order not to regret the future, please learn to stop the loss in time.
Above all, I wish you a good dream and good night.