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With the development of Internet technology, network technology has entered thousands of households, and people's channels for receiving information have become more extensive, which has led to many children being too precocious.
They prematurely accept information that is not what they should know at their age, including a lot of bad information, which means that the adolescence of modern children will come sooner.
Coupled with the gradual maturity of physiological characteristics and the emergence of secondary sexual characteristics, children's psychological conditions will also change accordingly.
In 2021, a hot network news, I believe that everyone still has the impression that a 20-year-old woman and a 16-year-old boyfriend first tasted the forbidden fruit, but gave birth to a son but was tragically abandoned, the news once it appeared on the whole network, and caused the majority of netizens to talk about it.
The name of the girl involved is Tingting, and her 16-year-old boyfriend Ah Hao met through the Internet dating app, the two chatted hot on the Internet, felt that they had a heart to heart, and quickly decided to run.
Tingting did not go to school at a very young age and entered the society early, so she is more mature psychologically than her 16-year-old boyfriend.
Sometimes she also feels that it is wrong for her to do this, how can a child who is not yet an adult have a good future with herself?
Tingting informed her boyfriend of her concerns, but the boyfriend strongly opposed Tingting's request to break up. It turned out that this 16-year-old boy had lacked the love from the family since he was a child, and in the process of getting along with Tingting, he felt the happiness of being loved, and naturally regarded Tingting as a harbor of love.
After that, he also solemnly promised Tingting: "I will definitely make good money in the future, and I will definitely give Tingting a complete and happy family." ”
It was precisely because of his solemn promise and affectionate confession that Tingting chose to believe and accepted Ah Hao again. The two are immersed in the happiness of love, and soon Tingting is pregnant with Ah Hao's child.
At first, when he first learned the news of Tingting's pregnancy, Ah Hao was very happy and seemed to dare to take responsibility. However, when Tingting gave birth to the child, the boyfriend disappeared without a trace and could not be contacted.
Through many inquiries and contacts, Tingting found her boyfriend again, and when she saw her boyfriend again, he seemed to have completely changed as a person, and his attitude towards Tingting was very cold, and he refused to admit the love relationship between the two.
Out of helplessness, Tingting had to go to her boyfriend's parents, hoping to get an explanation, but she did not expect that her parents said that they had seduced their son.
Self-defense mechanism
In fact, the discerning person can see that the relationship between the two of them is destined to end in a tragedy. Tingting left school prematurely to enter the society, and did not get enough love and care from her parents, so most of the three views and thinking modes were affected by complex social environments.
If individuals do not get the care they deserve in their original families, they will gradually become extreme in the process of growing up, and even have a serious inferiority complex.
Therefore, such people will always deny themselves in the process of social interaction, and when facing intimate relationships, they will also show avoidance behavior. Because such people have determined in their hearts that no one in this world will truly love themselves.
It is precisely because of this self-defense mechanism that it is too obvious that such people rarely establish intimate relationships with others in society, but once they establish intimate relationships, it is easy to lose themselves in them.
Wrong cognitive thinking
Individuals do not get enough love from their parents in early childhood, which will cause them to be in a long-term state of lack of love, but in their hearts, they firmly believe in the existence of love.
So when they grow up, they will get rid of their original family in a variety of ways, such as by building their own family. This is the case with Tingting in the above news.
Tingting's boyfriend Ah Hao just turned 16 years old, his mind is not yet mature, and he also regarded Tingting as a life-saving straw for him to escape from his original family. Wrong cognitive thinking patterns lead them together.
Who will save precocious teenagers
The personality development of 16-year-old children is still stuck in the conflict between self-identity and role confusion. Although it seems that they have grown up, their hearts have not yet reached the stage of maturity and they do not have the ability to take any responsibility.
At the end of this farce, Tingting did not ask for child support. The reason for this farce is that both sides are too eager to find a sense of security in society and have lost the ability to think rationally.
Although in the process of growing up, we can not completely get rid of the influence of the original family on ourselves, but we still have to learn how to love ourselves, the most difficult thing in the society we live in is to make ourselves feel enough security through the love of others.
Parents are the guides in their life journey, precocious teenagers are mostly from the crippled family environment, which is undoubtedly a wake-up call to countless parents, children's thinking is not rational, parents should stop in time, parents' love and teaching can make this group of teenagers get lost.
Women are even more so, and only those who know how to love themselves are entitled to be loved.
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Author | Tommida
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Reference: Jean Piaget Biographie. (2020, January 29).