As the old saying goes, there is a difficult scripture in the family, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult to read in this "family scripture". If you think about it carefully, it is indeed this theory, in a normal family, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is very noisy, not to mention the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law of a single-parent family.
Some time ago, a netizen confided with me that she and her husband had been married for more than a year, and had been looking forward to a happy life after marriage before marriage, and as a result, all expectations were shattered by the arrival of her mother-in-law.
Because the mother-in-law has been widowed for many years, she has paid a lot for her son. So not long after the marriage, her husband and she proposed to take her mother-in-law to live with her.
She didn't think much of it at the time and agreed, but since her mother-in-law moved in, their sweet married life has changed completely.
Every day before dawn, the mother-in-law would knock on their door, call her to get up and make breakfast, and say that if she became a daughter-in-law, she must be diligent and capable.
After eating, her husband was distressed that she wanted to help her wash the dishes, and her mother-in-law would stop her from saying that there were big men doing housework.
At first, she had been putting up with it, but then her mother-in-law became more and more excessive, and even when she watched TV, she put her head on her husband's shoulder, and her mother-in-law was unwilling, saying that she was not a system.
Later, she finally couldn't stand it, and collided with her mother-in-law, and as a result, the two had a big fight, and the mother-in-law cried and made trouble to pack up her things and leave.
For this matter, her husband also quarreled with her, saying that even if the old man was wrong again, she should not talk back to the old man.
Less than a year after their marriage, their marriage had become a mess, and she was sad and aggrieved, not knowing what to do with it.
In order to alleviate this situation, she returned to her mother's house on the grounds that her father's leg sprain needed to be taken care of, but this was not a common thing after all, she could not live in her mother's house for a lifetime, but if she went back, how should she face her mother-in-law? She really didn't know what to do.
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As this netizen said, single-parent families are more likely to cause conflicts, why do you say so? There are several reasons for this.
First, mother and son of single-parent families have a deep sense of dependence on each other.
A single mother who raises her son to adulthood with hard work will have worries in her heart, afraid that her son will marry his daughter-in-law and forget his wife in the future.
Therefore, the mother of this special family is more likely to eat the vinegar of the daughter-in-law, plus for so many years, she is accustomed to taking care of her son, and she will often be angry with the daughter-in-law, afraid that she will not be able to take good care of her son.
In addition, a son who grows up in a single-parent family will generally be particularly filial to his mother, so when there is a contradiction between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law, even if the mother is wrong, he will also blame his wife to his mother.
Second, in the heart of the mother-in-law of a single-parent family, the daughter-in-law is the aggressor between the son and himself.
For the mother-in-law of a single-parent family, this son in this life is his only sustenance, and the appearance of his daughter-in-law is undoubtedly a roadblock between his son and himself.
Her son, who she had worked so hard to raise, was fascinated by another woman in the blink of an eye, and her son's care for herself was also robbed of half by another woman, and she was naturally very disappointed in her heart.
Therefore, many mothers-in-law of single-parent families will be dissatisfied with their daughter-in-law.
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Is it that a single-parent family cannot marry? Of course not, as long as you can make your mother-in-law feel through hard work, you marry into this family is just one more person filial piety to her, not to share her son's love for her, she will naturally reduce her hostility to you.
Although it is difficult for the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law relationship of a single-parent family to get along harmoniously, as long as you learn the following getting along skills, all problems can be solved.
First, show affection with your husband less in front of your mother-in-law, and keep a certain distance from your husband.
Mothers of single-parent families are more sensitive to the relationship between their sons and daughters-in-law, and they are also prone to jealousy, so in front of their mother-in-law, the daughter-in-law should keep a certain distance from her husband and do not have too much affection in front of her mother-in-law.
In layman's terms, it is to let you be reserved in front of your mother-in-law, and do not have intimate behaviors in front of your mother-in-law, such as: feeding each other something to eat; letting your husband bring you tea and pour water; watching TV when the two are greasy and crooked.
If you want to have a good life, you must play this drama in front of your mother-in-law, anyway, close the door, you want to and your husband how tired and crooked, no one can stop it, right?
Second, do nothing, don't forget your mother-in-law, don't leave your mother-in-law aside.
The mother-in-law of a single-parent family raised her son alone, and must have suffered a lot during this period. Although she looks very strong on the surface, her heart is actually very fragile.
The long-term single life has made her endure a lot of suffering, and it is difficult to wait until her son is married, and she will continue to endure the mental torture of her son being snatched away by another woman, then she must resist.
Therefore, if your mother-in-law lives with you after marriage, you must remember that you should not forget your mother-in-law in everything you do, and think of her in everything.
For example, going out to eat on weekends; a family going to a park for a picnic; going out on a long holiday to travel, etc., don't forget to bring your mother-in-law with you, so that you can not only make your mother-in-law happy, but also make the family's relationship more harmonious, why not enjoy it?
Third, when the time is right, persuade the mother-in-law to find a wife.
Mothers of single-parent families are actually more eager for love and care, when they were young, they were widowed for many years for their sons, and when their sons started a family, their hearts will be very lost, especially when they see their sons and families happy, they are not happy.
We often say that heart disease also needs a heart medicine doctor, and the best heart medicine for the mother-in-law of a single-parent family is to find a suitable old partner.
As a son and daughter-in-law, you should think more about your mother-in-law and encourage your mother-in-law to find and accept a new partner, so that her later life is no longer so lonely.
Most importantly, when the mother-in-law shifts her attention to the new wife, she naturally will not find things every day, stare at her son, and eat the daughter-in-law's dry vinegar.
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If you choose a husband from a single-parent family, don't be too nervous, as long as you give your mother-in-law more respect and love, I believe that your mother-in-law will understand your intentions.
After all, if she doesn't hit the smiley face person, even if her heart is hard, she will be touched by your care and love, are you right?