Colleague Xiaomei gave birth to a baby last year, Xiaomei's husband is an only child, for this baby, the husband's family is like it, Xiaomei is pregnant, she lives alone with her husband, the mother-in-law bought a lot of supplements for Xiaomei, and repeatedly told Xiaomei to take care of herself and the child.
After giving birth to a child, the mother-in-law and the father-in-law are not at ease with the two families with children, so they travel thousands of miles from their hometown to take care of the children, the mother-in-law's idea of taking care of the children is very conservative, and the scientific parenting concept of Xiaomei is very different, So Xiaomei and the mother-in-law have a lot of contradictions, and Xiaomei's husband is also stuck in the middle.
Two days ago, Xiaomei and her mother-in-law quarreled because of the matter of drinking milk powder for the child, she really couldn't stand it, said, hoping that the mother-in-law would go home quickly, for taking care of the child, the mother-in-law paid some money on the line, no need for the mother-in-law to contribute, Xiaomei's complaint got a lot of female colleagues to respond, everyone's words, almost all have dissatisfaction with the mother-in-law with the child.
Xiaomei's thing makes Xiao C can't help but think that there was such a topic on the Internet: After giving birth, do you want your mother-in-law to pay or contribute?
Chinese concept, the child was born with the in-laws' family name, but also belongs to the in-laws, so after the birth of the child, the mother-in-law to pay and contribute is the right thing to do, many families also do this, after the birth of the child, the son and daughter-in-law go to work, the mother-in-law and the father-in-law are responsible for taking care of the child, but the daughter-in-law and the mother-in-law will inevitably have contradictions after getting along for a long time, and they will not be accustomed to each other's practices, and the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the most difficult relationship in the world to deal with.
In the comment area, the answers of the post-90s netizens are very consistent, choosing "I prefer my in-laws to pay", and their answers also present the relationship between contemporary mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
@ On the mountain to fight the tiger: I am 91 years, a son and a daughter, the mother-in-law pays for it, but at home is also relatively strong, sometimes feel that I am quite wronged, if you can choose, she pays for it, I am more looking forward to separating.
@ Hunan chili sauce: the mother-in-law can pay for it, the child I can bring myself or ask the nanny to bring, with the mother-in-law will only have more contradictions.
There are also mothers-in-law who commented on this topic:
@ Haruko: It is not easy to raise children to grow up, do not want to bring children for them, do not want to give money, this is not the obligation of parents.
@ Qiu Yinong: I am a mother-in-law, I think that today's young people are too self-reliant, when they get married, their parents have tried their best, but after marriage, they will continue to be exploited, and I will not bring children to my son in the future, nor will I give money.
Is it right for a daughter-in-law to give birth to a child and for in-laws to contribute money?
The answer is definitely not right, many in-laws are willing to help their daughters-in-law with children because they feel that the children work hard and are stressed, and they want to share some pressure for the children, and they also want to reduce the burden of raising children for two children, which is not their obligation, but some of their intentions for the children, they hope that the children can live better.
Therefore, the daughter-in-law should not morally kidnap the in-laws, the children are small husband and wife, the legal guardian is also the husband and wife, not the children of the in-laws, whether they help to take the children, do not complain about them, there are many dissatisfaction with them.
At the same time, we must also understand the two old people, sometimes, they are also more than enough and insufficient, after old age, they have limited energy, take care of children with painstaking efforts, their physical fitness may be fundamental, and their ability to make money has declined, and there is no money.
Parents all hope that their children are doing well, they help to take care of their children, and they also hope that the daughter-in-law can understand them more, after all, it is not a person of the times, there will always be a generation gap, understand their difficulties, tolerate them more, you can also communicate with them well, communicate with them as their parents, as long as it is for the sake of the baby's good, presumably they are very willing to do it.
Learn to be grateful to the in-laws, thank them for their efforts, everything they do is not taken for granted, they are not obliged to take care of the children for you, more tolerance for them, more gratitude, thank them for their silent efforts, for the contributions they have made to the whole family.