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Ancient Yun: "Near Zhu is red, near ink is black." ”
It is difficult for people to live in the world, walk thousands of paths, and make friends with thousands of people, and it is difficult not to be influenced by others.
Meng Mu moved three times to escape from the bad living environment, and Tao Yuanming's retreat was to preserve the silt without staining.
If it weren't for the fear of environmental influence, they wouldn't have to.
Each of us lives in a different circle and is affected differently.
For men, the influence mainly comes from family and work, and the biggest impact for women is girlfriends.
Success is also a girlfriend, and defeat is also a girlfriend
Girlfriends are a double-edged sword for every woman.
When you are lonely and need someone to accompany you, she will be at your side.
You can go shopping together, watch movies together, and talk to each other about your grievances.
With the existence of such a person, you will not feel lonely, because she can both bring you companionship and become the reliance of your soul.
But people are different after all, some girlfriends are lifelong friendships, and some girlfriends are plastic sisters.
She will walk into your world, play a very complex role in it, and finally give you a fatal blow.
The people who can really destroy you are often the people closest to you.
Most girlfriends have a very strange mentality: "I want you to be good, but I don't want you to be better than me." ”
She hurts you when you're having a bad time, and she's jealous of you when you're having a bad time.
It can be seen that the influence of girlfriends can be divided into two sides, one side is positive and the other is negative.
How warm the positive impact is, how strong the negative impact is.
Beware of the negative impact of girlfriends on your marriage
First, it affects you to enter the palace of marriage
Many women have been single, and even in their 30s, they have not yet entered the palace of marriage, which is completely affected by their girlfriends.
1, she is not married, and she does not want you to marry
Because she has always been single, she wants to have someone by her side.
This kind of companionship is not limited to simple eating and drinking, it also contains the meaning of "blocking the gun" together.
As long as you are single, she is not the only single woman in the circle.
With your presence, she will feel much better in both her situation and her heart.
So before she takes off the list, she really doesn't want you to take off the list.
If there is a peach blossom coming at you, she will block it for you.
There's a good chance you'll miss out on this and it will be difficult to step into marriage.
2, marriage is unhappy, sending negative emotions makes you afraid of marriage
Because of her unhappy marriage, she treats you like a trash can for catharsis.
She complains to you about your husband's lack of affection and in-laws, which makes you fear marriage.
Because of her influence, your attitude towards marriage is negative, and you even think that marriages all over the world are like this.
Second, be jealous and deliberately destroy your happiness
Women's jealousy is very strong, and once the flame of jealousy burns, a disaster is not spared.
1. Deliberately provoke your husband and wife relationship
If you are a husband and wife, a father and a filial son, and have been living a happy life, she is likely to provoke your husband and wife feelings because of jealousy.
There are very few feelings in this world that can stand up to provocation, especially the people you know best, who know all too well which words and actions work best for you.
The so-called girlfriend is a person who knows you very well, and it is easy for her to provoke your life.
On top of that, there's a good chance you'll never notice her intentions.
2, behind the hands, bring you trouble and disaster
If one day you are framed by someone else, then this person is most likely your sidekick.
It's hard for unfamiliar people to inflict fatal damage on you because they don't know you well enough, and you'll be wary of them.
Only those closest to you have the best chance of harming you and delivering a fatal blow to you.
These are naked examples of real life.
A woman who is overwhelmed by jealousy can do anything, and its danger is far beyond everyone's imagination.
Third, the comparison heart inspired by girlfriends
Because the girlfriend is too good, which stimulates your heart to compare.
You are obviously very happy, but because of the existence of your girlfriend, you are extremely dissatisfied with your current life, and then you lose yourself in the comparison.
You criticize your husband, dislike him for not being romantic enough, not earning high enough, and then ruin the couple's relationship.
You want to live like a girlfriend, so you follow up buying luxury goods, but your financial ability can't afford your expenses, so your life is in crisis.
Your girlfriend didn't do anything, there was nothing wrong with it, it was just yourself who was wrong.
How to eliminate the negative effects of girlfriends?
1. Know people clearly
Women's friendships come and go quickly.
A cup of milk tea, a shopping trip, two women who were not familiar with the original may become girlfriends.
It is precisely because the threshold of girlfriends is too low that there are so many plastic sisters.
It is your fault to have an intimate relationship with the other person and pluck out your heart and lungs before you fully understand the other person's situation, and it is no wonder that others cannot blame them.
Be cautious about friendship, strengthen the ability to recognize people, and then deeply communicate after fully understanding each other's personalities, so as to minimize the risk.
The word friend is expensive and takes time to verify, not to confirm it with a few meals.
2. Have an opinion and not be easily shaken by others
Why are many girls susceptible to girlfriends? One of the most fundamental reasons is that they lack opinions and are easily confused by the words of others.
If you want to fundamentally solve this matter, you must strengthen your concentration, use a rational attitude to deal with everything, as long as it is something you insist on, you will not easily waver.
3. Contentment and happiness, self-elimination of comparison and jealousy
It's not your girlfriend's fault, it's your fault, it's your fault because your girlfriend is living too well and making a mess of your life, so you need to change yourself.
Jealousy is the darkest side of human nature, and a woman who wants to be happy must understand the truth of being happy.
Don't compare ourselves to others, because each of us has a different life.
Girlfriends have the happiness of girlfriends, and you have your happiness.
Only by knowing how to cherish the present can you get a truly happy life.