Text/Coriander
A girl wrote a letter, and the words were full of loss. She said she was 26 years old and had never been in a relationship, let alone entered into a marriage.
The girl said that she looks good, her personality is also good, and her job is a profession that many people like, but why is she not lucky? She feels like a "forgotten corner of love" and may have to live her life by herself.
Looking at this letter, I suddenly lost my smile. There was no other meaning, nor was it meant to make fun of her, but I felt that the girl was really anxious.
26-year-olds who have not been in love feel that they are forgotten corners of love, what about those who are in their 30s, 40s or even 50s who are not in love and married?
Fate is a really bad thing. Some people have a lot of peach blossom luck at a young age, and some people have exhausted their lives, and it is difficult to get a love care.
Therefore, fate is predestined, or it is not unreasonable.
What is in fate must be there, and there must be no demand in fate at any time.
This was said very early on. It's just that the human heart can never be so open-minded.
The heart of yearning and pursuit, everyone has.
As Qian Zhongshu said in "The Siege": People on the outside want to go in, and people on the inside want to come out.
This is people's yearning for future things, they always think it is beautiful, and they want to achieve it.
But I don't know, in fact, the reality is very cruel. The beauty you imagine is sometimes not beautiful. Of course, some things are not as bad as imagined.
Therefore, the "siege" of love and marriage will continue to have people coming in and out.
O girl, on your terms, the gates of the siege are open to you. You just haven't met the right person for you for a while.
Don't be in a hurry, don't panic, all that should come will come according to the times.
I understand that life without love is boring. But you know, this loneliness is also rare.
When you are alone, you are free, you can do whatever you want, you can eat when you want, you can sleep when you want to sleep, you can learn if you want to study, and you can walk when you want to travel.
But when you have another person by your side, your freedom is greatly reduced. In particular, when you enter marriage and have children, you know how much you miss being single at that time.
I have a female friend. Before marriage, it is a life of clothes to stretch out and food to open mouths. Even after having a man, she also feels that life is no different from before marriage. Even, after she became pregnant, we talked about how much trouble it was to have a child, and she didn't bother at all.
She felt that life would not be as complicated as we say, and that the child could be brought by her mother and had the same time to do what she wanted to do.
However, when her child was born, she did not say that again, because her child could not leave her for 24 hours. She herself changed her mind, wanting to take the child herself, unwilling to let her mother help bring it.
In this way, her time became fragmented. She wants to do her own thing, and she can only squeeze in time in all kinds. So, what you haven't experienced, imagining is always beautiful.
So girl, you should actually be glad that you still have the opportunity to be single. 26 is really not that big, not as old as you say.
A person's old age lies in the mentality, not at all in age. Only when the mentality is always young, people can have better pursuit and motivation for life and the future.
You are in such good condition that you don't have to worry about not having a fate at all. Or, tomorrow, fate will come. When it wants to come, you can't stop it.
So, don't rush. On the day when fate has not arrived, first enjoy the single life. When there is no love interference, first cultivate yourself, calm your heart, and make yourself more excellent.
Many times, love depends on a feeling, but marriage needs to be managed with heart. Or, on the day of singleness, you can first understand and learn the compulsory courses of love and marriage, so that you can be fully prepared when love comes.
Believe that love has not forgotten you, and you are not the corner where love has forgotten. Like the night sky, when the moon is full, the stars are dim; but when the moon is absent, the stars are shining.
Or, Heaven is preparing you for a better person, so those who don't match you, it automatically filters out for you.
Now, you are equivalent to being outside the siege, looking at the scenery inside the siege, yearning but not going in. But one day, when you go in, you can experience the taste of the siege.
Everyone needs to go through it. Only through experience can there be a say. But what I do know is that all experiences are laughter and crying, sweetness and pain side by side.
So, you must be prepared and don't just see the good. Sometimes, preparing for the worst is not a bad thing. You tell me?