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"Gone with the Wind": "All that passes away with the wind belongs to yesterday, and all that has survived the wind and rain is the future-oriented." ”
No one will always be unaware of mistakes, some mistakes can be found in time, and some mistakes need to appear after a certain result.
It is not terrible to make mistakes, it is terrible to know mistakes and make mistakes, and what is even more terrible is that after making mistakes, you will not repent or be overwhelmed, so it is difficult to stand on the basis of mistakes and start a better life.
Some mistakes in marriages are complicated, and there is more than one person who makes the mistakes. In this case, who knows the mistake and repents, who stops the loss in time, who is the final winner. As the sentence mentioned at the beginning said, focusing on the lessons you have learned from your mistakes, facing the future, and moving forward bravely, you will have good results.
Unfortunately, some people are unwilling to admit their mistakes, and some people know that they are wrong but do not repent, and this kind of person's life is most likely to get worse and worse, and it may even be old and helpless.
The problem with the woman's previous marriage is that all kinds of mistakes are intertwined, and let's take a look at what is going on.
Hello Mr. Donglin:
After two years of divorce, my mother-in-law who "supported my son's divorce and true love" finally ushered in retribution, and I felt that she deserved it. This is the result I had long expected, and I had reminded her that it was so sad that she did not listen to my advice.
She didn't look at me well from the beginning, because my ex-husband was still willing to stand by my side, and I felt that it was too cruel to leave him, so I didn't break up. I thought that since he dared to marry me despite his parents' objections, he must really love me.
It turns out that I was wrong, I don't know if he regretted it, changed his heart, or because he was privately instigated by his mother-in-law, in short, he fell in love with someone else, and then he had to "divorce and marry true love".
My mother-in-law played a role in this issue, supporting her son's divorce and marrying true love, while asking me to divorce her son: "What is the point of you not leaving?" My son does not love you, I do not like you, if you understand things, you should consciously quit, the beauty of adulthood, I wish my son can be happy after divorce and true love. ”
If I don't get divorced, they don't dare to do anything with me. But I'm not so stubborn, and I deliberately gamble not to get a divorce, which will only be bad for myself and won't do me any good. It is better to get out of the predicament of divorce and start over, and then use the state of "watching the fire from the other side" to wait for the wrongdoers to be punished.
Since I can't correct their "three views are not correct," then I will use a submissive way to indulge them in the "three views are not correct," and time will make them understand that people with incorrect three views will not have good results.
In fact, in the first year of my divorce, my ex-husband and mother-in-law had already ushered in retribution, because his remarried wife was not a good stubble child, and before marriage and after marriage, she was completely two faces, and after marriage, she began to be a mighty blessing, putting herself in the highest position, and shouting five or six to everyone in the in-laws.
If they stop the loss in time at this time, there is still room for maneuver in life. Unfortunately, they did not stop the loss in time, believing that the situation deteriorated further, and after the birth of the child, their tragedy can be said to be "fixed", and it is difficult to get rid of it.
I don't know if my mother-in-law's three views have affected my ex-husband, or if my ex-husband's three views have affected my mother-in-law, no matter what, they will not have a good life in the future, because they have been pinched, and all these tragedies are the disasters caused by their three views.
Donglin Xiting Emotional Advice:
Children's three views are not correct, often influenced by their parents, and the reverse is not established, because in contrast, the parents' three views are often deeply rooted, and they will be easily affected by their children, but they are easy to affect their children.
From this point of view, the reader's ex-husband's three views are not correct, and he must have been influenced by her mother-in-law.
From the perspective of their mother and son themselves, they may have thought that the mother and son would have a good life if they had the same three views. In fact, the "one breath" style of three views of the same, will only know the mistakes, make mistakes again and again, if the mistakes do not know repentance, do not know the timely stop loss, will eventually usher in tragedy.
The tragedy of the son is more serious than the tragedy of the mother. Combined with her ex-husband's marriage, his being held by his wife will break his mother's idea of "relying on her son to retire", which may leave her old and helpless.
This is an interlocking problem, starting from the three views of the parents. If the parents' three views are not correct, they may cause the son's three views to be incorrect, and if the son's three views are not correct, they may not be filial to their parents, or they will lose the opportunity to fulfill their filial piety because they have made mistakes, and in the end, it is often the parents who have the three views that are not correct at the beginning.
I hope that other parents can reflect on their own three views and correct problems in time; I also hope that other children can also reflect on their own three views, and at the same time judge whether the three views of their parents are correct, only by first correcting the three views, will they not be right from wrong, so that they will not be punished for making mistakes.