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Yesterday I wrote an article analyzing xiao lu's remarriage and became distressed about his wife, no longer working as hard as in the past, and learning to spend time taking care of and accompanying his wife, because he had been married once and had experience.
On the surface, his marriage with Dong Fan is quite happy, they can understand each other, understand each other, tolerate each other, Dong Fan get such a husband, also very happy, will make money, looks good, will take care of people, know how to be considerate.
But in fact, the marriage between the two of them is obviously Dong Fan paying more, and she is the one who compromises more. She is too sensible, and as soon as she appeared on the scene, netizens called her so sensible.
She is very gentle in nature, never with Xiao Lu's urgent red eyes, everything is a good voice to discuss with Xiao Lu, and she is also very good at coaxing Xiao Lu's family to be happy, whether it is with her mother-in-law or little uncle, they all mingle.
With her mother-in-law, I really treat her as my own mother, tolerate some of her shortcomings, and even treat my brother-in-law as a friend, team up with him to play games, and take the initiative to care about his affairs. Who wants to be as sensible as she is.
There was a scene, that day was Xiao Lu's father's death day, his mother was busy at home alone, the two sons were not at home, Dong Fan came back to help after work, and intimately set the flowers for the sacrifice, the mother-in-law also really accepted this daughter-in-law through this matter, and hid the family portrait taken by Xiao Lufang Yinuo, which was very conspicuous at home, into the drawer.
Dong Fan saw it, and he actually took it out very angrily, saying don't do this, you can swing it if you want, as if I was stingy. Seeing this, netizens can hurt Dong Fan and think that she is really too sensible.
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Of course, if there is no follow-up, such Dong Fan and Xiao Lu are very happy with each other, after all, these are not considered to be big things.
I think this is Dong Fan's idea, I think that two people live a life, there is no need to worry so much, tolerance and generosity in small things, mutual joy, marriage can be happier.
From the perspective of Dong Fan's original family, her parents are very knowledgeable and reasonable people, and she naturally became such a person, in the marriage with Xiao Lu, more willing to be reasonable, rather than through quarrels to solve problems.
This is doomed, in their marriage, it is easy to become the person who is not considered, small things may be able to endure, big things are difficult to say.
Xiao Lu did not consult with her on major matters, his brother Xiao Xu was making trouble outside, Xiao Lu did not say anything and directly gave him money to let him settle this matter. Tens of thousands of dollars is not much, and it is not much to say less.
But he didn't say a word to Dong Fan, and Dong Fan knew that he was a little upset in his heart, but he didn't argue, but he reasoned with him, saying that helping him in this way might hurt him. Xiao Lu didn't listen at all.
Later, when Hehe fell ill, Dong Fan told him very intimately that the plan to go out to travel was canceled first, otherwise he would not have the heart to go out to play at this time. It can be seen that Dong Fan is really very sensible and has made a lot of concessions.
However, Xiao Lu was not only not grateful, but also wanted to return the house they had set to buy, and not buy it first, because in the later stage, Hehe might need a lot of money to see a doctor.
Small things can be compromised, but buying a house is a big thing, he said that if he doesn't buy it, he won't buy it, and he doesn't consider Dong Fan's feelings at all, Dong Fan didn't answer the call, because she is naturally unwilling.
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Dong Fan is too sensible, so Xiao Lu will break through her bottom line step by step.
Buying a house is not a trivial matter, of course, in the case of a child's illness, buying a house is not a big deal, but for Dong Fan, buying a house is a very important thing, it is the home of the two of them, it is their shelter.
Xiao Lu is quite shrewd, directly throwing the problem to Dong Fan, making it difficult for her to ride the tiger, if she does not agree, then in the end it will become that she does not understand things, if she agrees, it will violate her core interests.
According to Dong Fan's nature, it is highly likely that she will eventually agree to him doing so, because she loves Xiao Lu and is willing to make sacrifices and benefits for their marriage.
But after letting go, letting go means that she will become the one who has been wronged.
In this kind of major event, even if you are generous, it is inevitable that you will not feel wronged in your heart, not to mention that people are all mortal flesh, have hearts, and their hearts will hurt. It was her understanding that led to today's situation.
This is also the reason why netizens are distressed about Dong Fan's understanding, her understanding has been exchanged for superficial peace, and the warmth of interpersonal relations, but behind this is her countless grievances.
And her grievances will not be understood, no one will understand, her husband will not understand her, her mother-in-law will not understand her, and she can only digest it by herself.
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In the poster officially released by "Dear Child", the posters of Fang Yinuo and Dong Fan both shed tears, perhaps this poster indicates that the two women who are with Xiao Lu will not be happy.
When Fang Yinuo was with him, her pain was superficial, everyone could see her pain, and they all knew that she was not easy, because if you want to compare with Dong Fan, Yinuo is indeed not a sensible woman.
But she spoke out about her pain, and everyone else would help her, and she didn't have to suffer such grievances in silence.
Dong Fan's pain is invisible and silent. The husband did not consult with her directly to Xiao Xu, she and her mother-in-law went to the hospital to see Hehe, he came to shake his face, after Hehe fell ill, he was fully devoted to Hehe.
She disappeared little by little in the marriage, she kept compromising, constantly paying for her own understanding, in exchange for countless grievances and pain.
It is said that a woman who is too sensible will be very bitter in her heart, Dong Fan is like this, she is a little ignorant, learn to fight for her rights and interests, and will not live so depressed in marriage.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Dear Child"