Author | cherry
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The famous psychologist Maslow said:
Mentality changes, attitudes change; attitudes change, habits change;
Habits change, personality changes; personality changes, life changes.
It is more powerful than wisdom, and what kind of mentality you have, what kind of life you have.
As the saying goes: "The heart is one inch wide, and the illness retreats one inch." ”
A person's physical condition is closely related to the state of mind.
The disease starts from the heart, your mentality is not right, and the disease comes.
If you relax your mind and remove the stone pressed on your heart, your body will naturally be fine.
Zeng Guofan, who is known as the "first perfect person in the ages", also had times when he was tortured by heart disease.
Zeng Guofan single-handedly founded the Xiang Army, fought bloody battles for the imperial court, and suppressed the Taiping Heavenly Kingdom Movement.
However, he was ostracized by the Xianfeng Emperor and ostracized by his colleagues, deprived of military power, and returned to his hometown to worry.
Zeng Guofan couldn't figure out why he had ended up like this, he was angry, unwilling, grumpy, and couldn't come out.
As a result, insomnia began to persist, and from time to time there was tinnitus, dizziness, shortness of breath, and a serious illness.
Later, after being ordered by a reclusive Taoist monk, Zeng Guofan suddenly woke up and retired from illness.
He also left a sobering saying: "The past is not in love, the present is not complicated, and the future is not welcome." ”
Tell us that we don't have to dwell on the past, don't worry about the future, we have to live in the present and live in the present.
There is a saying: "The heart is generous and self-prolonging." ”
In fact, the source of many diseases is your heart.
When you let go of a thought, the heavens and the earth are wide, and the body and mind are at peace.
You are your best doctor, and your heart is the best medicine.
Relax your mind, be open-minded, be at peace with your heart, and your body will naturally be fine.
Su Shi wrote in the Title Xi Lin Bi:
Horizontally, it is a peak on the side of the ridge, and the height of the distance is different.
In other words, different perspectives present different landscapes.
It's like the same half a glass of water, someone sees the remaining half, someone sees the lost half.
It can be seen that the quality of things does not lie in the things themselves, but in the mentality of people.
The mentality is adjusted, and things will go smoothly.
Once, a person who went to Beijing to take the exam had two dreams in the inn.
Confused, he went to the fortune teller to interpret the dream.
Who knows the other side opened his mouth and said:
You go back, this time it's definitely not going to be high school. The first dream, planting cabbage on a high wall, was in vain. The second dream, wearing a bucket hat and holding an umbrella on a rainy day, is not a superfluous move.
After listening to the people, it was inevitable that they would be discouraged and sadly walked back to the inn to prepare for their hometown.
The lady boss looked at him with a wrong face and asked him why, who knew that she smiled and said after listening to it:
Planting cabbage on a high wall means you will be in high school; wearing a bucket hat and an umbrella on a rainy day shows that you are prepared.
The person pondered for a while, felt very reasonable, was overjoyed in his heart, and concentrated on preparing for the test, and then he really made a name for himself.
As the saying goes, "Things turn with the heart, and the state is created by the heart." ”
If you are negative and pessimistic, you will only be trapped in negative emotions and panic for a long time.
Adjust your mindset, full of sunshine, positive optimism, success and happiness will come uninvited.
In short, the mentality is not good, and everywhere there are walls; if the mentality is good, everything is smooth.
Lin Qingxuan said: "Life is not satisfactory. ”
Life is in the world, bumps and tribulations emerge in an endless stream, whether you can step through, the mentality is the most important.
Many times, things are not serious in themselves, and if you mess up, you will only collapse.
Only by stabilizing the mentality can we use a sober mind to calmly face the disturbances of the world.
This is the most level of handling when encountering things, and it is also the top emotional intelligence of a person.
When Yang Dai was teaching at Tsinghua University, he was once pushed to the cusp of the storm in full view of the public.
A female student suddenly stood up and hysterically accused Yang Dai of "going to class to talk about love" and "married women should also fall in love." ”
Yang Dai looked at the strange eyes around him, very indignant, and did not understand why he was so vilified.
But she knew in her heart that anger and confrontation would only make things worse, and she stabilized herself, ignored them, and continued to attend class.
The next day, she still went out to class in a generous way and meditated on learning.
Even if the matter was reported, Yang Dai still did not speak, in her words:
"People who know me know anyway, and if they don't know, let them go as they please."
Originally, Yang Dai thought that after being accused of this and publishing in the newspaper, her teaching career was at an end.
But unexpectedly, the next semester, more students took her course.
As the saying goes: "Calm and calm, Hundred Blessings set themselves." ”
One thing, whether it is a curse or a blessing, the key lies in whether you can stabilize your mentality.
When you are not flustered, stabilize your mentality, do not be insulted, and face everything calmly.
You will find that most of the problems in life have long been solved, and your blessings are getting deeper and deeper.
Click "watching", may you and I have a good attitude, do not get involved in negative emotions, and live every day healthily, optimistically and calmly.
Author | cherry
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