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After Fang Yinuo remarried, Xiao Lu also remarried, marrying a gentle and gentle girl with a very cute personality, Dong Fan.
Compared with the first marriage, Xiao Lu, who married for the second time, seems to be more reliable, he knows more about the responsibilities of marriage and how to be considerate of his wife, and he has learned to take care of his wife.
He will go shopping with Dong Fan, buy the things they need to get married, prepare the wedding with Dong Fan, he will prepare breakfast for Dong Fan after getting up in the morning, he will learn how to cook turtle soup, he will not fight so hard at work, and leave more time to accompany Dong Fan, so that he is simply a good husband of twenty-four filial pieties.
Think about when he was with Fang Yinuo, it was really irritating, there was no sense of family responsibility at all, and what happened in the family was always a shrunken-headed turtle, escaping to the company, escaping into the car, preferring to sleep in the car rather than go home.
He will always work, never be considerate of his wife, never think about taking the initiative to take care of the children, and never give time to his family.
In this way, Xiao Lu really changed a lot, the second marriage of him became a very responsible husband, the new wife enjoyed the good that his ex-wife could not enjoy, if he was so reliable in the first marriage, then his marriage would not break up.
But there is no if in this world, these changes in his are the growth after experiencing it, and it is Fang Yinuo who leaves to let him grow. His reliability is mainly for these reasons.
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The first reason is that he and Dong Fan have no children.
He and Dong Fan married, in fact, they discussed at the beginning, do not want children, the reason why he does not want children, is not because he already has a child, afraid that having another child will have a bad impact on the first child, because Hehe does not know that he is his father, there is no such reason, but he knows what it means to have a child.
After experiencing a marriage with children, he knew that having children meant chickens flying and dogs jumping, and there was no safe life from then on. When he was with Yinuo, of course, they were also very sweet, and there was love between them.
His marriage to Yinuo, before the birth of the child, everything was sweet and sweet, but the arrival of the child made a drastic change in his life.
His home is always like a chicken flying dog jumping, he has never been clean for a moment, after the birth of the child, the wife will also change because of the arrival of the child. Yinuo is like this, her spirit is always tense, always highly nervous.
He felt that it was good for dong fan and Dong Fan to live in peace with the two of them, and there was no need to have children. If you want to have children, then there will inevitably be changes between husband and wife, just like Fang Yinuo in the beginning.
Besides, he didn't have much trust in himself as a qualified father, and he felt that he couldn't be a good father, so why should he bring a small life into this world to suffer?
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The second reason is that he is learning how to be a good husband.
In the marriage with Yinuo, there is no doubt that he is not a qualified husband, not only unqualified but also a husband with a very low score, who only wants to make money and nothing else.
For not becoming a good husband in that marriage, he actually felt guilty about Yinuo, because he did not love Yinuo at the beginning, but because he was really ignorant.
Getting married is often the same as doing something else, once born and two times, the first time you may not know what to do, do not know how to do better.
The first time you fail, these failures will become valuable experiences, and when you have the first experience, you will know what to do.
In the failure of his first marriage, he learned how to become a reliable husband, how to be good to his wife, and what his wife valued more.
In the first marriage, he always felt that as long as he earned enough money to spend for his wife, then he did his greatest responsibility, and later he learned that having money alone is actually not enough, and women pay more attention to companionship.
So later he was willing to spend more time with his new wife and learn how to take care of it, so he had such a reliable and good husband that we saw.
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It can be said that the change of Xiao Lu is entirely because of Fang Yinuo, and it is Fang Yinuo who has changed Xiao Lu.
Fang Yinuo used his own practical actions to tell him that if he could not be a qualified husband, then it would be useless for such a husband to stay.
So the second time he got married, he learned to restrain himself, put away those unreliable things, and become a reliable person. If it weren't for Fang Yinuo leaving, he wouldn't have changed.
If they hadn't divorced, he wouldn't have become a reliable husband, because everything about them hadn't changed, and they would still continue the same pattern as before.
As the saying goes, some people appear just to teach you a lesson. Fang Yinuo was the one who taught Xiao Lu a lesson, and after she taught him a lesson, she transformed into a reliable and good husband.
Of course, not all men have experienced marriage changes like Xiao Lu, so they have become a reliable man, and xiao Lu is a minority.
More people are even if they are married for the second time and married three times, whether they should be unreliable or continue to be unreliable, and whether they should hurt their wives or hurt their wives. So don't think that if he goes through a marriage, he will get better.
Otherwise it will only become a second party promise.
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Article illustration | Stills from "Dear Little Child"