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As a girl, whether on the Internet or in life, I believe that you must have seen or heard about what others have conveyed to you.
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A measure of whether a man truly loves you.
And these standards may be varied, each with its own reasons.
Of course, to some extent, these standards are correct, because these are their own experiences. But at the same time, you also have to understand that these standards may be completely incorrect.
Because the love of the two of you is not necessarily the same as that of others.
The love thing is that the pony crosses the river, only you really enter the water, and you know the depth.
Otherwise, no matter how many theories you have, they will end up being just paper talk, and the experience of others may not apply to you.
To use the simplest analogy, I once had a friend tell me that the best way to eat a man is to judge whether he really loves you, just to see if he is willing to spend money on you. Of course, this friend said so because she had been with her boyfriend for more than two years, she was all kinds of considerations for boys, distressed about the situation in his family, reluctant to spend his money, and finally was let down, and it was still she who was betrayed.
She didn't take the initiative to ask, the boy really didn't send her a bouquet of flowers, sometimes two people went out to dinner, and they also had to AA.
Later, after the boy and other girls were together, she bought a large bouquet of flowers for the other party when the official announcement was made, and she only felt full of irony when she saw it, and the two years that were originally together were not worthy of these after all.
Therefore, after that, when she encounters love again, she will not be as silly and pure as before.
She will judge his love by the criteria by which the boy is willing to spend money on himself
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Depth.
But, then I soon discovered that it was practical
Money
To measure love, it is really full of one-sidedness.
Because everyone's situation is different, some boys give him bad conditions
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Spending money is more reluctant, but if some boys have generous economic conditions, he may prefer to spend money in this way to buy a worry-free, so as not to spend more energy on their own.
In a similar situation, I also have a friend around me, the boy is very willing to spend money on her to buy things, and in ordinary life, there is also a sense of ceremony. She thought that the boy loved herself very much, and when she was finally broken up, she was also untouchable. That's how she knew
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There were quite a few dissatisfactions with her, but he did not say it, but constantly piled up these dissatisfactions in his heart, and when he finally couldn't stand it, he proposed to break up.
And during this period, he didn't look anything out of the ordinary.
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As a girlfriend, she is still generous and patient.
So someone went on to say,
If a man really loves himself, he will definitely be willing to marry himself and go home.
This conclusion was also told to me by a girl. She once loved a boy deeply, and the boy also said that he loved her, but in the end he did not marry her, and when they were still together, the boy listened to the advice of his parents at home and quietly went out on a blind date to see if there was a more suitable girl.
The boy is not satisfied with the main place, mainly her family situation, think that she comes from the countryside, her parents do not have a pension, and there is a younger brother below, and the boy's parents are dual workers, old and do not have to worry about children, and he is also the only son in the family, his parents hope that he will find a person who is the right person, and he finally obeys his parents.
In fact, this is also the true voice of his own heart.
Therefore, she thinks that boys do not love themselves, although the process of their love has always been very sweet, but when it comes to marriage, she can never be the only one for him.
Marrying herself home is, in her opinion, the highest state of a boy's expression of love, and only his girlfriend who loves him deeply will be willing to marry her.
But the truth, is it really what?
To put it bluntly, not necessarily.
If you go to life to observe more, you will find that some people's marriages really do not necessarily start with love, but are purely appropriate, and when they are old, in order to give an explanation to their parents at home, in order to make themselves seem less out of place, what kind of things to do at what age, so choose the most suitable person and enter the palace of marriage.
Is the pillow person that every man marries his sweetheart? If this question were asked, I think it would be answered with a lot of sadness and regret.
Yes, even if a man marries you, it does not necessarily mean that he is eaten by you, it means that he loves you deeply.
Of course, in addition to these two performances, I have also heard some details told by many people, such as: if a man really loves you, he will think about you, have enough responsibility in front of you, and will try to solve things when encountering things, rather than cold violence against you...
But, eventually you'll also find:
Some people, even if they once loved you like life, wrote you into their future, regarded you as more important than themselves, and this affection can only be counted at certain moments. No matter how deep the love is, it may not be eternal later. The word love, although it will never wither, but it may shift.
So, if you're too extravagant with a person to get a certain result, it will most likely disappoint you in the end.
When you are afraid of losing someone, you are often bound to lose that person.
So, no matter what identity you appear in this intimate relationship, the best way to really eat a man is always four words:
Improve yourself.
When you have enough confidence and ability, you have no more than that
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When you are not afraid of losing anyone, your happiness is often able to firmly grasp in your own hands.
Regardless of the past, the love of the other person may not be eternal, and no one has an answer until the future comes. But what you own is property that no one can take away, and as long as these things exist, you will always have your own capital and the courage to start all over again.
In the final analysis, the reason why some people are particularly afraid of losing someone, in fact, if you really want to analyze it carefully, is not because of how much you love, but this person, at present, is their best choice, if you lose, you are worried that you will never meet such a good person in the future.
In other words, your own ability is not enough, and you are worried that this person who is climbed high by yourself will eventually leave yourself, because you have always been looking up. You just focus on how to keep him.
But forget that the really solid love is not because of how good you are to him, but how attractive you are to the other party and let him voluntarily compromise for you.
This is the most critical place to eat a person.
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