No matter what stage one is in, one must remember: filial piety and not forgetting one's roots.
When two people are in love, they can export pure feelings without scruples, but when they face marriage, they need to face life down-to-earth.
Love is a matter for two people, and marriage is the union of two families.
Marriage is when both parties withdraw from each other's original family and form a new family with each other. If one party can't do it and continues to rely on the original family, then the relationship will be out of balance sooner or later.
"Stories From Fan Sharing"
One reader recounted his marriage experience, the 30-year-old who ended his marriage for less than a year despite his parents' objections. That day he packed up all the surnames Li and left the woman's house.
The ex-wife seems to have a chance to win, always feel that men will be soft, who knows that men said something that made her unexpected: "Your family just looks at my high education, not my diligence and hard work, although I am a rural person, the family is poor, but my parents can also provide me for study at a prestigious university until I find a job." They gave everything for me, and for me love can wait, but they can't afford to wait. ”
The moment when the man secretly received the divorce certificate from his family and his ex-wife and dragged his luggage home, his parents couldn't help but cry and said in a hoarse voice: "It's all our old uselessness, dragging you down..."
The man was born in a poor rural family, and because he had excellent grades in his undergraduate and master's degrees, he was selected by the unit before he graduated. After employment, he was appreciated and recommended by leaders, and it was this ordinary origin and outstanding achievements that made him a "potential stock" in other people.
At a party at the end of the year, the man met the woman at the party, the ex-wife, the standard city girl. The family is wealthy, the work is decent, and the looks are good, which is good in every way.
The man's heart moved at first sight of her, but he knew that his family situation was not worthy of her at all.
In the eyes of outsiders, although men are poor, they are strong and outstanding, and if they are deeply polished, they will certainly be able to achieve something.
Because my parents are too old, they have some physical problems. Even so, he has been providing for his son to study. Seeing that his son has come out on top, the old two are also solid in their hearts. Men know that their parents are not easy, filial piety he will send money to the family every month, even if the parents are determined, he still does not fall month by month.
At that time, the ex-wife was very appreciative of men, and the two had frequent contact and developed feelings, so they talked about love. The love for more than a year makes the man exhausted, because the girlfriend is generous and attaches great importance to the sense of ceremony, the man tries hard to coax her to be happy, and finally the two get a license to become a legal couple.
Because of the limited family conditions, there is no wedding or marriage room for the time being, and the woman's parents did not rebuke him, but let him move into the woman's home to reduce living expenses.
Not long after, the man's mother fell ill and needed to go to the city to see a doctor, because the work was too busy, he let his wife pick up his mother, but after returning home from work, he saw her and his mother-in-law watching TV, and after inquiring, he knew that his wife had booked a hotel, and the mother-in-law said with great emotion: "My daughter is afraid that your mother is not adaptable at home, so she booked a hotel for her." ”
The man didn't say anything, went straight to the hotel, saw the sick mother and said, "Mom, come home with me, there is a place to live at home." "After saying that, I took my mother back to the house."
Just arrived at home, the wife saw the man's mother frowning, said: "How inconvenient it is for the country people to live at home, I am also afraid of contradictions before booking the hotel, not to mention that I did not let her pay money." ”
The man's face was expressionless, and he was so angry that he trembled and said, "My parents are old, and now that I am sick, is it wrong for me to do filial piety?" ”
The wife said unforgivingly: "Your parents are not easy, my parents are easy?" Do you live in or not eat our house and live in our house? If you feel aggrieved you can get a divorce! ”
At this moment, the man's heart was like ashes, and he did not expect that the woman who lived with him originally looked down on himself and his parents, so he said: "When you married me, you originally valued my academic qualifications and ability, and it turned out that you looked down on my family so much, if you think I climbed high, you can get a divorce, but if the price of marriage is to give up my parents, then I would rather not get married." ”
After accompanying his mother to see a doctor, the man thought for a long time and took the initiative to file for divorce.
The original family will make people have deep-rooted thoughts, so it is necessary to go to each other's home before marriage and understand the living environment of the other half.
Marriage is not two people together can be happy, but also to consider each other's family situation, if not handled well, even if married will be restless.