George Bernard Shaw said: "If you want to get married, you can get married, if you want to be single, you will remain single, and you will regret it in the end anyway."
Marriage is actually like this, no one can keep it fresh forever. Usually people have been married for many years when they reach middle age, and family life has become as plain as water, making chai rice oil and salt mixed with boring and boring.
In the burnout period of marriage, many people are restless and eager to move, hoping to break this blandness and boredom. Our lives are full of temptations, and if we are not careful, we will lose our way.
In the chaotic life, along the way, we will meet many people, and we will rub shoulders with many people.
When people reach middle age, they have successfully passed through the ups and downs of those lives, but many people have lost on a "love" word.
At this time, when the opposite sex wants to break into your life and take the initiative to get closer to you, it may not be a good thing.
Especially when we have already started a family and are already living a peaceful and stable little life. At this time, the edge that appears next to you is a rotten peach blossom.
In the ordinary life of marriage, the sudden appearance of a opposite sex who takes the initiative to show kindness to you will make you complain more about marriage and dislike your pillow person more.
At the beginning of the development of all feelings, both people are trying to show their strengths and cover up their shortcomings, which is caused by human nature.
Therefore, many people say that the ambiguous period is the most beautiful, accompanied by the distribution of hormones, and the perfect person of the other party, it is easy to immerse people in it.
When you can't refuse, don't know how to keep your distance, and let this relationship develop, your relationship has deteriorated irretrievably.
When the gentleness and thoughtfulness of the other party allows you to sink, as the distance between you closes, the distance between you and the other half of the marriage is gradually pushing away.
In fact, there is no one in this world who will be good to you for no reason, and he always wants to try something.
What people are most afraid of is that they have lost their minds, lost their direction, and thought that they were doing the right thing, but in fact they were just a momentary impulse of hot minds.
If you want to continue this relationship, then you have to withdraw from your existing family. It takes enough courage and comes with a hurt to the other half of the marriage, as well as a shrinking economy.
But do you really know what you want? Are you sure you don't repeat the mistakes of the past when you rejoin a marriage?
For anyone, once they have a family, they must understand the sense of responsibility. The betrayal of marriage involves morality and the bottom line.
Everyone should have their own judgment and self-discipline, and if an adult loses these abilities, the family career will be intruded.
Many people think that when a person of the opposite sex appears in middle age, he will care about your life and express good feelings for you because he is very attractive.
Of course, people can have such self-confidence, but the premise is also to calmly think, what can you give to the other party? What does the other person want from you? And when your marriage is broken, what do you lose?
You think it's just yourself a little later and met the right person. But forget that in the adult world, it is more reality.
When people encounter the initiative of the opposite sex in middle age, it is robbery, not fate.
First of all, the time is not right
Only by meeting the right person at the right time can you have a perfect relationship.
And when you have a family and he shows up late, we have to accept it. Because many times the order of appearance determines the ending, this is the arrangement of time, it is irreversible.
No matter what age, we must keep our hearts and resist temptations in order to keep happiness.
The second purpose is impure
There is no good in this world for no reason, and there is no love for no reason. Many times, the good feelings between two people are nothing more than a sense of freshness and passion.
If you break your stable marriage for the sake of this moment of throbbing, and want to be with each other at all costs, then in the future you will definitely find that there are many problems and contradictions between two people.
One day it will repeat the blandness of the previous marriage, even more complicated and more consuming than the previous marriage.
Calm down and think about it, the other half of your marriage, between you was once beautiful, he also touched your heart.
Marriage can never be perfect, and there are no two perfect people in the world. Run-in and disagreement are inevitable, and this is the essence of marriage that you must know from the moment you step into marriage.
In fact, the reason why the marriage is flat is because you have a certainty that the other party already belongs to you. So I became tired, lost interest and desire to conquer.
You think what you don't get is the best, but you ignore that the best is already around you. To think about the past between two people, we must know how to look at our other half with an appreciative eye.
Mature people can very rationally avoid "love robbery". When the break is constantly subject to chaos, there are old and small, and we should master the distance and scale between us and the opposite sex.
Don't be lucky, paper can't cover the fire. Many things cannot be tried and made, and when you touch the bottom line of marriage, you will always pay a corresponding price.
Middle-aged our life has passed the halfway point, can not afford to spend, cherish their time, do not let the rotten peach blossoms entangled, can not break free.
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[Wen | Wei Wei'an: the pen has temperature, for the voice of emotion, an atypical writer who loves words, invites you to perceive life together]