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There are too many things and relationships in marriage that we need to deal with, and in the process of slowly becoming familiar with these things, we learn to grow.
In all relationships, the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is particularly important, and if it is not handled well, marital happiness cannot be discussed. The two women that men love the most: one is the mother who gives birth to himself, and the other is the wife who gives birth to his own children, if they do not get along well, the man's heart is hanging, and there is no peace.
The most difficult time for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law is the years before and after the birth of the child, the pregnancy period of the daughter-in-law, the confinement period, and the growth period of the child, which are the most sensitive times for the relationship between mother-in-law and daughter-in-law.
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Xiao Su's relationship with her mother-in-law has always been good, because she did not live with her mother-in-law after marriage, and she spent less time together, even if there were any differences, it would pass and never be remembered.
After 3 years of marriage, Xiao Su became pregnant and gave birth to her first baby, and coincidentally, the sister-in-law also gave birth to a baby at about the same time. There are two choices before the mother-in-law: to take care of the daughter-in-law, or to take care of her own daughter.
The mother-in-law had already arranged for her daughter-in-law to take care of her mother, and she herself took care of her sister-in-law. According to her, "mother-in-law care will be more intimate."
After the confinement of the child, Xiao Su's mother should also go back, after all, everyone in the family needs a woman to take care of.
Xiao Su wanted to go back to work and proposed to let her mother-in-law come over during the day to take the child from Monday to Friday, and when she got off work, she could bring it herself. Who knew that she was rejected by her mother-in-law, who said that it was inconvenient to walk around, and that she had things at home. In fact, she can't let go of her hobby of playing cards, and she has to go square dancing in the evening.
The mother-in-law refuses to help with the grandson, Xiao Su is a little disappointed in her heart, but she does not blame the mother-in-law, after all, everyone has their own way of life; the children they give birth to, with the children is their own responsibility. As a mother-in-law willing to take the best, unwilling to bring, will not blame her.
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Xiao Su is a woman with a career heart, she will not accept to be a housewife, she wants to go out to work, so she discussed with her husband to ask a nanny to come to the house to take the children, and the husband agreed.
Because the child is small, it is very expensive to hire an experienced good nanny, especially for children who have just reached the full moon, they need 6,000 yuan per month, and the price will be lower after the child is older.
Xiao Su's own salary is a little more than 6,000, but she can accumulate work experience when she goes out to work, which is still quite cost-effective.
When the husband finished reporting this to her mother-in-law, the mother-in-law immediately jumped out to oppose it; ran to Xiao Su's house and said: "Daughter-in-law, you spend 6,000 to ask for a nanny, it is better to invite me!" Xiao Su was stunned, she thought about it, and could not accept such behavior of her mother-in-law. When she didn't have any money, she said she was busy and didn't have time to take the children; now that she heard that there were 6,000 yuan for a nanny, she said she would bring it. Didn't she just come for the money? Xiao Su smiled and said to her mother-in-law: "Mom, you still go back to your hometown to rest!" The mother-in-law left with a look of displeasure.
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I think Xiao Su is a very qualified daughter-in-law, she has not had a direct conflict with her mother-in-law under any circumstances, and her mother-in-law has no complaints even if she does not help herself. She took responsibility for her own life, lived her own life, and never thought of relying on her in-laws at home, because she had no expectations for her mother-in-law, so she could not say that she was disappointed.
I think this mother-in-law's approach is a bit excessive, although it is not an obligation for a mother-in-law to bring her grandchildren, but as a grandmother, it is also common for people to take care of it occasionally. From the behavior of her later behavior of wanting to take care of her grandson for money, it can be seen that this mother-in-law is more selfish and selfish, and everything is making plans for herself. At this critical moment, the family should help each other, the son and daughter-in-law want to go out to work hard, as a mother-in-law, how can she bear to stand by the side?
Topic: What is the relationship between your mother-in-law and daughter-in-law in your family, do you think Xiao Su's mother-in-law is a good mother-in-law?