Talk about | my gray marriage.

Wen | pig is a little troublesome

Public account| Pig Little Trouble (SWNZ520)

Note: The real experience of a female friend next to me, narrated in the first person.

01

Twenty years ago, I had a sad first love. It was a youthful campus emotion, and we had been in college for a few years, doing something romantic with the least amount of money, and I thought it was love.

However, the lover who had been in love for a few years changed his heart after graduating from college, and he married another woman and abandoned me like a.

At the time, I felt a little incredulous, and I was even more reluctant to accept such a fact.

The woman whom my first love married, apart from the family background of a father who was a leader in a public institution, was inferior to me in any way.

At that time, I was naïve and did not know that a person's mentality can change so quickly.

After that, I met another man, my ex-husband Li Linsen.

He was a young man with no background, just like me. Even, his family background is weaker than mine, because he is just a child from an ordinary peasant family, and my parents are dual workers in the city.

However, Li Linsen has a very talkative mouth, he is extremely accurate in my thoughts, after I lost love, he appeared in front of me in time, booing and warmly letting me out of the shadow of my first love and throwing myself into his arms.

I moved in with him two years later, married him naked when I was two months pregnant, and lived in the house my parents gave me.

I used to think that marrying Li Linsen was love and happiness.

Because in the pre-marriage relationship, he gave me a lot of beautiful depictions, he often called me a fool, and gave me a lot of future yearning and pursuit with a spoiled tone.

Unfortunately, the next married life is not what we planned.

A few months later, my daughter was born.

After the birth of my daughter, I temporarily lost my job.

Of course, it is not that I do not want to go to work, but that Li Linsen's rural mother cannot bring me children, and my parents have not yet retired, and I cannot free my hands.

02

When I was alone with my children to do housework, I was often tired and collapsed, especially at night, my daughter cried over and over again, and I couldn't sleep well.

At this time, Li Linsen seems to have changed as a person, not only does not help me with the child to do housework, but often intentionally or unintentionally accuses me of uselessness, such an age of women can not even bring children well.

At first, I ignored these statements from him, because the upbringing in my bones and the heavy work of taking my children to do housework every day made me have no intention and no ability to distinguish between right and wrong with him.

But gradually, my mood deteriorated because of these accusations, and I had a deep dislike for the life of a housewife. And his occasional accusations often irritated me, causing me to have an explosive counterattack.

After Li Linsen quarreled with me many times, his attitude towards me became more and more cold, often coming out early and returning late to say that it was socializing, leaving me alone to support the family.

When my daughter was two years old, I sent my daughter to nursery school and asked my newly retired mother to help take care of me and start my career again.

At that time, I was twenty-nine years old, a housewife for three years, and I no longer had any advantage in the workplace.

My job as a foreign trade salesman, these years of housewife life, let me learn foreign languages in the previous university, and the accumulation of customers in previous years almost zero, I had to re-learn, in preparation for the battle of the workplace.

When I returned to the workplace, I cherished the job in front of me, and worked hard with a group of young girls to compete for the opportunity to rise.

Just when I work and study every day, trying to seize every opportunity, hoping to be able to stand in the workplace again, my daughter, but a serious illness.

03

In a fortuitous cold, my two-year-old daughter was examined as a child with myasthenia gravis, and she was so weak that her crying was almost inaudible.

I was so frightened that I rushed to the major hospitals to treat my daughter. But my husband, Li Linsen, stood aside like an outsider at this time, coldly accusing me: It was because you didn't take good care of yourself in the first two years, and you only cared about yourself every day that you let your daughter get this disease.

I was hit by his words at the time, deep self-blame made me into depression and confusion, I kept asking myself, is it really that I did not try my best to take my daughter in the first two years, so that she suffered from the invasion of the disease?

When my mother heard this, she said to Li Linsen with indignation: How can you say such a thing, what did you do after you married my daughter? Is the child my daughter alone? Don't you, the father, have no responsibility?

When Li Linsen heard my mother say this, he didn't say a word, but between his attitudes, he was extremely cold.

After the child fell ill, my life was not only in the hospital, but also in the hospital, I had only one thought, I must make my daughter healthy and healthy, and I can't let her suffer from the pain of the disease.

But at this time, I also found that my daughter's medical expenses had also become a problem for me.

When my daughter was more than five years old, she had been sick for nearly three years, and at this time, I not only spent all my previous savings, but also spent a lot of my parents' pension money.

But my husband, Li Linsen, in addition to accusing me, has always been a cold-eyed outsider, and he is increasingly reluctant to give a penny to save his daughter.

04

When the hospital urged me to pay for the medical expenses again, I was penniless, so I had to reach out to him for money, he had a somber face, very reluctantly took out a little money, and then said, he has no money, such medical expenses can not be borne by anyone. Otherwise, take your daughter home, don't treat her in the hospital.

I was so angry that I burst into tears, he could be merciless to his daughter, but I could never give up on my daughter.

He couldn't pay for his daughter's medical expenses, and this burden could only be carried by me all the time.

I gritted my teeth and found a job in online foreign trade, taking care of my daughter while starting to work online to earn money.

Fortunately, my daughter became more and more sensible, and when she knew that her physique was different from others, she did not cry much, and often lay on the hospital bed to make me happy, and she was very obedient to the instructions of doctors and nurses.

My daughter's understanding and obedience made me very sad, and I firmly believed that she was an angel sent from Heaven, and although she had a short ordeal, she would definitely recover her health.

While caring for my daughter in the hospital, I worked hard to learn foreign languages and sales experience while she was resting.

Gradually, my online work became more and more smooth, and it was completely enough to pay for my daughter's medical expenses, and I no longer needed to use the money my parents gave me.

When my daughter was seven years old, her condition improved significantly, and except for the need to prepare unforeseen medications, most of the situation was no different from that of ordinary children.

I finally breathed a sigh of relief, and it was then that I remembered that I had a husband, and that husband had not given us a penny or any companionship for a long time.

In fact, it is not that I deliberately ignored Li Linsen, but that when he was unwilling to pay for his daughter's medical treatment, I was already there when he did not exist.

In the past two years, I vaguely knew that he had a little three outside, and they had been mixing together.

I didn't expose him before because I didn't have time to deal with the bad stuff.

But now, I'm not going to be a titular couple with him again.

I gathered evidence of his infidelity and handed over my daughter's medical bills over the years to the court, so that the court could give us a fair verdict.

After the trial, Li Linsen also had to argue that he had paid tribute to his daughter over the years. But when the court made a list of all our medical treatments, he was silent.

My daughter has spent more than 300,000 yuan over the years, and what he has given is only a mere 10,000 or 20,000 yuan.

The law gave me a fair verdict that before my daughter turned eighteen, he would have to pay not only two thousand yuan per month for living expenses, but also hundreds of thousand yuan for my daughter's previous medical expenses, and half of the medical expenses that my daughter would need later.

05

Now forty years old, I have been divorced for four years.

Some people say that a forty-year-old woman tofu scum is an age that will never meet love again.

However, I feel that now I am a good time to really live my own style.

In these four years, I have achieved the position of foreign trade manager in a company and no longer worry about the economy.

And my daughter also reached the age of thirteen, and her health was no different from ordinary people, and she became a beautiful girl.

I was surrounded by a number of suitors, many of whom were social elites and men a few years younger than me. Some people even expressed strong love for me, saying that they were willing to treat my daughter kindly and grow old with me.

However, after experiencing my ex-husband, I have a new interpretation of love, and I don't want to listen to the language of the touch, but to see the real action of the male.

Ex-husband Li Linsen also expressed his remorse to me many times, saying that he was afraid that his daughter's illness would not be good, so he did that and asked me for forgiveness.

But as far as I know, his repentance was because he had lost everything. Since the court judgment, his little three also quickly left him, after all, who wants to be with a man with no future, moreover, this man's past can be learned, who can guarantee that his life can be safe and worry-free?

Of course, everything about my ex-husband had nothing to do with me, and the language he spoke was just a little breeze blowing in my ears.

Today, I can still accept love and believe that I can have a better future. Because I have already understood that no matter what love is in this world, it is not just something expressed on the lips, it needs responsibility, obligation, commitment, and eternal companionship and sincerity.

END

About the Author:

Pig Little Trouble, Ten O'Clock Reading Contract Author, South Drift Inspirational Sister, Certified Emotional Master. Published collection "Your Efforts Are the Beginning of Everything"

Public number: Pig Little Trouble (SWNZ520)

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