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Every woman who is in love hopes to be able to reconcile with her boyfriend and become legally the closest person.
The thin piece of paper, which seems to be very strong, contains all the women's yearning for marriage and the future of the two. Even if this future may not be as good as they imagined, it is a memory that belongs to the two of them.
The problem is that not every woman's wishes come true.
For example, Dai Xiaoyu in "North and South".
In order to be able to be with her boyfriend, she ignored her parents' objections and came to a foreign country with him. Give the best comfort when he's sad; give the most appropriate encouragement when he's depressed. Arguably, she regarded him as the most important person in her life.
And she had only one request for him, and that was to marry her. However, he repeatedly shirked her proposal.
If it weren't for Dai Xiaoyu's accidental discovery, she wouldn't even know that he and his wife had not yet dissolved their marital relationship, and even the distribution of the inheritance would not have her existence. Admittedly, she was in love with him, not for his money, but what he did really chilled her, so she quickly packed her bags and flew back to China.
The crowd only saw her dashing, but they could not see her embarrassment. Years of effort have ended up like this.
But not every man is surging forward. As the saying goes, when a man is married, a woman should be married, and at a certain age, not only women want to marry, men also want to marry their wives, but in the face of marriage, men are relatively calm.
For women, marriage is enough as long as there is love. But for men, there will be more to consider.
To this end, they will show shrinking in the face of marriage, only promises. But if you have these three keys, then his doubts will be dispelled a lot. In this case, he is also more willing to go to the temple of marriage with you.
01 Whether it is comfortable to get along with you
Love will make a couple of men and women the most intimate existence, but it cannot change the three views of two people, the way of doing things, etc., so even the best lovers will encounter disputes.
This is the most common thing, but if the number of times is too much, it is bound to affect the feelings of the two people. So smart women will know how to reduce the number of arguments.
For example, Mr. Yang Dai.
When they were young, they had a quarrel on a steamship because of a pronunciation in French. Later, it turned out that Mr. Yang Dai was right. But instead of accusing Mr. Qian Zhongshu of not being like the women who quarreled, she reflected on the process of their quarrel. During this time, they used all kinds of ways to persuade each other, and finally found that there was not much help except to make the two more angry.
She won, but she felt bored, and when she told Mr. Qian Zhongshu of her feelings, the latter said that she was not happy either. This discomfort inspired them to know that their relationship was the first priority, and that they didn't have to care about the trivial matters.
In the future together, they also had arguments, but most of them were gentle conversations, not like ordinary couples.
Mr. Qian Zhongshu later described their quarrel as follows: Husband and wife quarrel is the most lovely war in the world, like a two-leaf blade of a pair of scissors, you see them slashing and killing each other, but they will never hurt each other, and after three hundred rounds of the big war, they are at peace.
Even quarrels can be so interesting, and it is no wonder that Qian Zhongshu said that he never regretted marrying Mr. Yang Dai.
In this life, people will inevitably encounter uncomfortable things. It would be nice to be able to talk to a lover and then have a smile and continue to move forward. In the end, men want nothing more than a warm companionship. If she could do it, he would naturally be willing to marry her.
02 Whether it can give him the right freedom
Mr. Qian Zhongshu once used a siege to describe marriage, saying that marriage is a besieged city, and the people trapped in it want to come out, but there is no way to do it, so they can only struggle again and again. Why did you come up with it? There are many reasons, but most of them have to do with freedom.
I once heard a passage that women who have no money will choose to get married, and men who do not have money will choose divorce. If you think about it, this will be the case. As the pillar of the family, men are more sober in the face of marriage. Although he also wants to give the kind of care that the female population has, love without economic foundation is like building a tower on the sand, and if you are not careful, it will disappear without a trace.
In order to keep love, in order to protect his family from the wind and rain, he must go out and face life with a strong attitude.
The problem is that man is not a superman, he will be tired, he will be tired, he will want to have a place to rest, he will want to have a moment to live for himself, to pursue that invisible but untouchable but incomparably desirable freedom, even if it is only for a short moment.
Smart women don't revolve around men, and they don't repeatedly crush men's free space. She will run herself well and will stand closest to him. He wanted to be free, so he was alone; he wanted companionship, and he could reach her as soon as he reached out.
For such an interesting woman, I believe that every man is willing to marry home.
03 Whether it is independent enough
Independence here includes not only the economic aspect, but also the psychological aspect.
Sen Yu in "Ancient Dust" resolutely gave up on her after seeing the true face of the fox demon Xiao Li and followed the footsteps of the demon Chang Qin.
During this period, Chang Qin said many times that it was impossible between them, and he did not give up. In addition to the love he still has for Chang Qin in his heart, more reason is that Chang Qin is an independent woman. When he went to war, she helped him take care of his father and take care of all the affairs of the demon clan.
For this reason, her reputation among the demon clan was higher than his. Such a woman usually talks to him and makes love, and when she is in danger, even if she can't save him, she can at least save the demon she cherishes.
How could he be willing to leave?
Marriage is like a small boat in the ocean, if you want to keep the clouds open and see the moon, you not only need to have love between the two people, you can put aside your complaints about each other and work together; you also need two people to have a high driving ability, so that you can avoid the stones in the water, seaweed, etc., and tend to normal operation.
And the more independent a woman is, the stronger her ability to control, for this, it is no wonder that men want to marry home.
Women need to know that the key to getting a man to decide to marry you is: is it comfortable to be with you? Can you give him the right freedom? Are you independent enough? If you occupy one of them, so many halves will become a unique existence in his heart, and from then on he will not be afraid of wind and rain, not afraid of mountains, and will hold your hand tightly and compose a gorgeous song with you that belongs to you alone.
May all women reap happiness in their marriage.
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