In his later years, Mr. Hu Shi once said the following to his secretary:
"A wife who marries must be highly educated; a wife who has received a higher education has shortcomings in other aspects, but will certainly manage and raise her children well."
The mother has patience, the child does not teach well; the child does not teach well, that is the impatient relationship of the mother. ”
Perhaps in Mr. Hu's day, highly educated mothers were more patient.
But now we all know that patient mothers are not always highly educated, so the key word in the above paragraph is "patience" rather than "higher education".
My friend's mother was a teacher, and she grew up with her mother's harsh scolding voices, and even as an adult, she was often reprimanded.
Once after a big fight with her mother, she said with tears, I really envy others to have a gentle mother, and when I have children in the future, I will be patient with education, never loudly reprimand, and when I encounter anything, I must also discuss with my child in a calm tone.
Zheng Yuanjie, the king of fairy tales, said: The meaning of motherhood is influence, and the influence on children is both innate implantation and acquired penetration, and runs through every cell of the child's body.
With a patient mother, the child will have the ability to communicate intimately
Every time parents lose their temper, they are cutting off the child's in-depth communication with you and the possibility, and also losing the opportunity for the child to learn how to communicate intimately with others.
Mr. Yang Dai wrote in "Remembering My Mother":
My mother was loyal and honest and never agile. If you are bullied, you never think about it, and soon you forget it. She has a big heart and does not miss the old evil, so she can get along with anyone and has not had a wrongdoer in her life.
Mothers are gentle with others, and they are equally peaceful with their children.
Her mother's good mood also affected Mr. Yang Dai, who was still at ease after suffering, spoiled and not shocked, and accompanied Mr. Qian Zhongshu with bright optimism to educate excellent children.
Truly perfect and powerful parents are not how outstanding achievements are, but have enough tolerance, trust, freedom for their children, and the patience and calmness of learning to let go, learning to show weakness, and waiting for flowers to bloom.
With patient mothers, the children who are educated will be more active
Patience means more peace, more calm, the child grows up in such an atmosphere, receives more positive energy, in his little head, the world is more sunny, he treats life, the attitude towards things will be more positive.
On the contrary, often losing your temper with your child can easily lead to your child getting farther and farther away from you, resulting in estrangement. And the child's mind is still very fragile, if the parents often lose their temper with the child, it is easy to cause the child's inferiority psychology, so they are unwilling to communicate with you, and even remember revenge.
Psychologist Rogers defines love as a deep understanding and acceptance.
If parents achieve true understanding and acceptance of their children, rather than imposing their own will on their children, this is true love.
Sixty parents are the best state, leaving a little blank, maybe there will be new opportunities, but also let the child in the process of growing up, there are more possibilities.
The mother is the mirror of the child, and the child is the shadow of the mother.
Chen Mo, a well-known psychological expert, said: "The more stable the mother's mood, the more peaceful the child's heart, the better the book is read, and the more harmonious the home." ”
A mother who is at peace with her heart and good at managing emotions is the best luck for her children. Emotional management is a compulsory course for every mother's life.
Finally, to quote a sentence from Mr. Hu Shi:
"I have been alone in this vast sea of people for more than twenty years, and no one has ever disciplined me. If I can learn the slightest good temper, if I can learn a little kindness to others, if I can forgive and understand people, I have to thank my loving mother. ”
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