Life is half fireworks, half joy; life is half sober, half relieved.
01
"What can touch people's hearts is never words, but actions, and what can be consistent is never hypocritical enthusiasm, but sincere giving." Any relationship, you give me distance, I give you a measure, you give me cherish, I will pay you back, this is the minimum respect between people. ”
I once saw a topic: "What kind of measure is needed between people?" ”
Someone replied, "When I am silent, it is the beginning of my estrangement, don't ask any more questions." ”
In life, there are always people who forget that people need to keep a distance between people, maintain the most basic measure, do not forcibly disturb the lives of others, everyone has their own way of doing things, some people like to enter the door and cut off contact with the outside world, do not like neighbors to visit suddenly, do not like the excessive enthusiasm of neighbors. But some people like to go to the neighbor's house to visit the door, to put it bluntly, it is nothing more than to inquire into the privacy of other people's homes.
Especially for a kind of person, as soon as they enter someone else's house, they look around and look around, which is really uncomfortable.
In life, personal feelings are still maintaining a certain social distance from neighbors, there is no need to be too hot, too hot, others will cross the line.
Not just between neighbors. Colleagues also need to be measured, and even friends, classmates, and even relatives need to be measured, don't start by saying "Just by virtue of our relationship..." at the beginning, people will not be able to catch the words below you.
Life is a reverse journey, we can't be the lord of time, youth can't be repeated again, and every day of the rest of life is very precious. Don't waste your time on people who don't have a measure, you say?
02
"I never regret being good to anyone, even if I look at the wrong person, even if I am let down, even if I hit the south wall, because my kindness to you does not mean how good you are, just because I am good." 」
I was good to you, but at the time I felt that you were worthy, did not ask you to reciprocate, once I felt that you were not worthy, immediately stopped being good to you, and would not regret being good to you in the first place.
As Mr. Yang Dai said, when we were young, we always hit the south wall again and again, and hit the south wall at work, it didn't matter, we got up and started again. Emotionally hit the south wall, sometimes can not put down, so constantly torture themselves, do not understand why they have paid 100% love, but can not exchange the other party's sincerity? Why do you invest too much emotion, and when you break up, you are so sad that you have to live, but the other party can do it lightly?
In fact, Mr. Yang Dai's words have been said very clearly, we all have to look at the wrong person, if you look away, it doesn't matter, you can stop the loss in time, don't drill the tip of the bull's horn.
Love is originally a two-way rush, you take ninety-nine steps forward, if the other party is not even bothered to take the last step, even if you get such a feeling, what is the meaning?
At this time, only timely stop loss is the most mature approach. There is no need to regret, a relationship ends in a "timely stop loss" way, it is really not how good the other party is, but our own is not bad at all.
Only by ending a relationship can you start a new relationship.
03
"There is no one in this world who is not hurt, no matter when, you must believe that the only person who can really heal you is yourself, do not complain, are not afraid of loneliness, work hard to precipitate, the world is bitter, only self-transit." Life is half fireworks, half joy; life is half sober, half relieved. ”
When we were young, we always liked to write joy and anger on our faces, and when we grew up, we all learned to put away our emotions and carry them silently.
In front of people, we try our best to keep ourselves elegant, even if we can't be safe inside. When you encounter a hurdle that can't be passed, complaining, it is useless, then bury your head in hard work and accumulate strength.
When we were children, we all had a lot of friends who talked about everything.
At that time, the candlelight night talk now seems to exist like in the movie. As we get older, as our work experiences and life experiences gradually change, our former best friends become estranged, and it is difficult for each other to understand each other's state of mind.
Sometimes, we even go through the phone book and can't find someone to talk to. Sometimes, standing at a crossroads and looking at the vast sea of people, I am overwhelmed.
In the adult world, we must learn to endure sudden loneliness.
In the adult world, we must strive to learn to precipitate ourselves and give up impetuousness when we are lonely.
Adults should understand that loneliness is not bitter, that is a precious gift from time and experience.
What Mr. Yang Dai said is very much: life is half fireworks, half is happy, life is half sober, and half is relieved.
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