I have a tea seller friend who often talks to me about customers who buy tea.
There are some people who love to drink tea, often sit in their place for half a day, drink tea, talk about life, and talk about parents.
Once, a man told her about his troubles, saying that there was a girl who had been with him for four or five years since she was 18 years old, and the girl really loved him, never wanted his money, nor did she want a house and a car, and the two had a good relationship.
But in the past two years, the girl's parents knew about the two people, began to provoke the girl to call him a divorce, asked him to give the girl a name, the girl every time she came back from her mother's house, she had to make trouble with him, either to buy a house and a car, or to ask him to divorce, he was overwhelmed with annoyance, he felt that the girl's parents were too bad, and he could not help but provoke the feelings of the two, and teach a good girl to be vain and greedy.
A friend asked him: People have followed you for so many years, they really should give people an explanation, since you don't love your wife, then get divorced, you hurt two women like this.
The man said angrily: How could I divorce my wife, who followed me when I had nothing, and gave me three more children, I am in my forties, it is impossible to toss and rebuild a family.
In a word, the selfishness and narrow-mindedness of an out-of-marriage man.
If this 18-year-old girl has a lot of life experience, she does not know how to distinguish the sinister and selfish nature of human nature, but her parents' approach is really disgraceful, the daughter took the wrong road at a young age, did not help her to correct it in time, and also wanted to use this relationship to climb the magnate, but the man's mentality clearly told the parents that the daughter's final end will be the price of both money and wealth.
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The reality of men is often hidden in the bones, they are always rational in their treatment of feelings, they are very clear that women outside of marriage will only consume his time and money, and the wife of the chaff is the one who helps him in life.
Just like Dazhuang in "Golden Marriage", he spent his whole life and has always been disgusted with Zhuang Sister-in-law, but his money and things sent in the factory will only be given to Zhuang Sister-in-law, Tong Zhi laughed at him, "I thought your money was spent on those little ladies." ”
Dazhuang said dismissively: I will spend money on them, dream!
Among all the scumbags, Dazhuang is the most "sloppy" I have ever seen, the most "real" one, Zhuang sister-in-law can fully tolerate his flowers, because she knows the reality and selfishness in his bones, from the moment he marries her, she knows that he thinks she looks bumpy, but he likes to live a life, he likes to take advantage of the girl, but he will not let the girl take advantage of him.
Married men's love has never been so simple, their "sincerity" is generally only reflected in the mouth, once it involves money or touches his family interests, he will not hesitate to choose to abandon you.
This mentality of Dazhuang also sounded an alarm bell for all women who were still caught in the sugar-coated shells of married men: women, do not intervene in the marriage of married men in order to climb the rich, because in the end, you may end up with two personal wealth.
Just like Dai Xiaoyu in "North and South", she followed Peng Pan for five years, dedicated the most brilliant youth in a woman's life to him, and even severed ties with her parents for him.
Dai Xiaoyu is a person with a particularly strong sense of purpose, she fully understands her advantages, she just wants to exchange her youthful beauty for her half-life wealth, she feels that with her full talent and appearance, she should marry a rich person like Peng Pan and live the life of a rich and rich wife.
Therefore, since she followed Peng Pan, she has relied on him to raise, five years without work, and she does not want to struggle, just want to be a rice worm who does not need to struggle at all.
Peng Pan has a successful career and looks good, and in the years they were together, Peng Pan also gave her enough romance and tenderness that she wanted, except for marriage.
02
Dai Xiaoyu has been waiting for Peng Pan to divorce and marry her, and when Peng Pan was critically ill and hospitalized, Dai Xiaoyu also behaved like a considerate wife, busy for him, and took care of him day and night.
But after Peng Pan was ready, the first thing he did was to make a will, in which Peng Pan left 90% of the inheritance to his daughter and the remaining 10% to his wife.
As for Dai Xiaoyu, her five years of youth have only exchanged for the "love" on Peng Pan's mouth.
Dai Xiaoyu has always thought that with her youthful beauty, she can eat Peng Pan to death, sooner or later, she will get his people and money, but she does not know that men are selfish in their bones, far more cruel than she imagined.
Peng Pan said that he did not love his wife, but he was willing to let his ex-wife have children, when Dai Xiaoyu wanted to have children, he kept persuading her to give up; Peng Pan said that he had no feelings for his wives and daughters, and he had always been indifferent to them, but in the end, he left all his property to them.
To put it bluntly, he just wants to find a young and beautiful girl to accompany him to be dashing and happy, and at the same time he wants to enjoy the warmth of returning home after a tiring day outside.
Schopenhauer said: "Life is a lump of desire, desire can not be satisfied to suffer, satisfied is boring, life is oscillating between pain and boredom." ”
Marriage is like this, husband and wife together for a long time, they will feel empty and bored, seeing young and beautiful girls will inevitably be foolish, but this stimulation will always be succumbed to his interests.
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The feelings of middle-aged men are more of a trade-off in terms of interests, and they will never give up their families for the so-called extramarital feelings, because that family has his blood and affection, and there is a family model that has long been accustomed to a fixed family and a beautiful family, which is the most precious for a middle-aged man with a successful career.
A little favor, he feels that he can afford to give, he will give you, if you lion open your mouth, want his money and marriage, he will instantly restore his sanity, choose a path that is most beneficial to him, and that road is by no means love outside of marriage.
Therefore, as a woman, do not involve in other people's marriages without a bottom line because of greed for wealth and pleasure.
A man's money is generally reserved for three people: his parents and relatives; his wife who has suffered with him; and his children.
They come to you either for spiritual stimulation or just for a moment of freshness, even if he is willing to spend money on you, it is at most a deal, if you touch his family interests, he will not hesitate to abandon you.
If you meet a man outside of marriage who speaks cleverly to you, I hope that you can also have a pair of eyes, can see through his selfishness and greed, and truly love the person, he will respect you, respect your feelings, respect your wishes, rather than treating you as a "prey" and clearly marking the price.
Finally, I also hope that all young girls can cherish their youth and struggle well when they are young, rather than putting the future on some unrealistic people.