Dazhuang read countless women, spent a lifetime, and could see the scenes of him flirting with women wherever he went, but only Fang Hongbing and Li Tianjiao were women he did not dare to provoke casually.
For Li Tianjiao, he commented on "unusual women", and he also advised the married Tong Zhi many times, "If you want to have a good time, you can help you, and now the little girl has a woman like Li Tianjiao, absolutely can not be touched." ”
For another woman, Fang Hongbing, whom he did not dare to provoke, his evaluation was "a woman who cannot do without men."
Although Da Zhuang is careful, in his eyes, there is also a difference between women and women, and his principle of seducing women is "not looking for big girls, but looking for little daughters-in-law".
Fang Hongbing and Li Tianjiao are the same women he defines as untouchable, but his evaluation and attitude towards the two are very different.
Fang Hongbing can't touch it because if she touches her, she can't shake it off like a dog skin plaster; while Li Tianjiao can't touch it because she deserves to be respected, not the kind of woman who can be "played" by others.
Dazhuang's vision of women is absolutely poisonous, in the play, he has always been extremely disdainful of women, but Li Tianjiao has always been looked up to by him, he will never casually make jokes about her, and never dare to despise her.
From Dazhuang's attitude towards Li Tianjiao, it can be seen that in the eyes of men, whether women deserve their respect and high regard, in fact, they have clear boundaries in their hearts.
Li Tianjiao also told us with practical actions that women who can make the opposite sex look high often have these three characteristics.
01 Feelings are not casual
The most wrong thing Li Tianjiao did in his life was probably to fall in love with Tong Zhi.
At that time, she was still young, she had been trained by her parents since she was a child, and she suddenly felt the warmth of fatherly love in Tong Zhi that she had never felt before, and from that moment on, Li Tianjiao fell in love with this man with a family.
She is also very straightforward about love, and when she loves, she boldly chases after it, whether you have a family or not, as long as you dare to accept it, I dare to love.
It is this kind of Li Tianjiao that makes Tong Zhi want to love, but he does not dare to indulge his feelings, because he cannot bear the responsibility.
Li Tianjiao's attitude toward feelings also made Dazhuang respect her, because he knew that women like Li Tianjiao "will not easily move their feelings, and if they move, they will have results."
Compared with Li Tianjiao, Fang Hongbing is much more casual emotionally, and in the case of her own family, she has also confessed to Tong Zhi many times.
Dazhuang once talked to Tong Zhi about her "bed matter" behind her back, and when Dazhuang said to Tong Zhi solemnly, "I advise you to stay away from her."
Tong Zhi laughed at him for not looking for a daughter-in-law, Fang Hongbing was completely in line with his dishes, why would this persuade him.
Dazhuang said:
I am a flawed person, and the more the woman is, the more inseparable from the man.
Roughly speaking, a woman like Fang Hongbing is too casual about feelings, and there will never be a shortage of men around her, and once it is stained, it may be difficult to get out.
A woman, only if she knows how to love herself, will she be loved, know how to respect herself and love herself, and can win the respect of others.
02 Personality is independent and not dependent on others
Every appearance of Li Tianjiao is accompanied by her rise in career.
Whether in personality or career, she has an absolutely independent mind and decisive execution.
When she was rejected by Tong Zhi, she did not cry and cry, nor did she do more entanglement, but decisively chose to stay away, giving Tong Zhi and herself enough space to digest this relationship, but Providence made people, and the two still had several opportunities to meet because of their work relationship.
But every bud of affection accompanied her departure without a problem.
Years later, she got married and started a new life, and when she learned that her husband had another new love, she decisively chose to divorce.
After experiencing two failed relationships, Li Tianjiao began to focus on her career, and she also became the happiest and most successful woman in the whole play.
Writer Liang Wendao said:
A woman must have the ability to live her own life, and it is very important to have things that others cannot take away.
A woman's greatest confidence is that she never needs to be attached to others, and she has the ability to control her own life in any environment.
Some women, she only has the ability to survive independently, but does not have independent personality thoughts, so after encountering feelings, she will always be led by the nose.
A woman's greatest charm is not how beautiful she looks, but comes from her aura emanating from the inside out, which is her independence and self-confidence.
Such women can win the respect of the opposite sex, they dare not be frivolous in front of you, nor will they make fun of you at will, they will always maintain a humble side in front of you, respect you, admire you, and look up to you.
03 Have a clear head and know what you want
Li Tianjiao is a person with a particularly strong purpose in life, and when she talks about love, she ignores moral constraints and blindly pursues love.
When she was fighting for her career, she devoted herself to her career, when her husband went to work abroad and asked her to accompany her, she resolutely refused for the sake of her career.
Her classmate Xiao Liang chased after her unsuccessfully, and once humiliated her in front of everyone: "She is the most outstanding of all the students in the class, and in this life, in addition to climbing up, what else can I think."
From Xiao Liang's words, it can be seen that Li Tianjiao is a career-oriented woman, for her, nothing can be more reliable than career, so she desperately climbed up, from an ordinary female staff, to a section chief, to a unique technical director.
In the case of Tong Zhi, perhaps she walked the most wrong part of the road when she was young.
But in the treatment of life, she has always had a clear goal, what she wants is directly to the goal, what others say, how to see is not important, the important thing is whether her goal has been achieved.
Li Tianjiao's last appearance, with the ability and composure of a successful person and the relief of the past, faded a green body, although people reach middle age, the charm does not diminish that year.
It is precisely because of her independence from childhood to adulthood that she understood early on that everything has to rely on herself, so she has never pinned her life on others, and has always relied on her own efforts to firmly go in the direction she planned, and it is her sober mind that makes her have a brilliant life, and thus won the applause and respect of the people around her.
04 Conclusion
Li Tianjiao's life is brilliant, she has been brave, regretted, fought, her every appearance, with its own light, the author uses "the stars and the moon" to describe her, it can be seen that she has always been around her people who like her, but she has always been self-respecting and self-loving, unlike those in Dazhuang's mouth who indulge for selfish desires, and even paste the "little daughter-in-law and little widow" upside down.
I hope that every woman has Li Tianjiao's sobriety and independence, of course, emotionally I do not recommend that women intervene in the marriage of married men, even if you love again, you must adhere to the moral bottom line.
Yishu said that being a woman should be like a painting, not a piece of clothing. If you make a dress, it is tried and tried, and it is old, it is worthless, even if it looks beautiful on the surface, it is not worth much.
A woman who knows self-esteem and self-love, knows how to maintain an independent personality and thought at all times, does not depend on others, and lives out of herself, in order to be respected by the opposite sex and calmly live her own life.