"Golden Marriage" Chinese Li and Tong Zhi divorced for a long time, and even finally separated, still did not leave. Is it because of the mother-in-law's last words?
Many people think that the mother-in-law's last words not to let her son and daughter-in-law divorce are moral kidnapping Wen Li. The mother-in-law is still a mother-in-law after all, or towards her own son. But the fact is that the divorce is proposed by Tong Zhi, if the two divorce, Tong Zhi can turn around and find Li Tianjiao, while Wen Li is alone, according to Tong Zhi's irresponsible attitude, maybe he will not care about the children, and Wen Li is with a few children, continue to work, whether economically or mentally no one shares.
The truth is also ah, when the mother-in-law is gone, Wen Li is still immersed in the double sadness of being betrayed by her husband and the death of her mother-in-law, Tong Zhi is blindly immersed in the loss of Li Tianjiao's departure and will not come back. Even his mother's departure was not as sad as Li Tianjiao's departure. Originally it was a handshake, and there was a reason to ignore the child. As for Wen Li, no matter how cruel her mouth is, every child complains about her, but she still has to worry about every child.
If Wen Li and Tong Zhi really divorced at this time, would Tong Zhi take care of several children? No! Men who have not conceived in October are ultimately more ruthless than women. Especially a selfish man like Tong Zhi, who only has himself in his heart. The responsibility of the wife's sacrifice of children is not as important as that of a shameless woman who knows three or three. When people are gone, his world collapses. As Wen Li said, the people took his heart and left her with an empty shell of the walking dead.
But it is such an empty shell, Wen Li can't give up, sad and lamentable!
Wen Li loves beauty and loves cute points, all because the conditions in the family are OK from childhood, and she is old and young, and some people are spoiled and used to it, not that she herself is a vain person. On the contrary, she is a kind of little woman with a hot kiln head for her husband and children, and she does not have a strong sense of enterprise. Although at first she liked to compare herself with Zhuang Sister-in-law, it was because she looked down on Zhuang Sister-in-law in her heart, and she was even more weak-minded, thinking that she did not have a country woman who would live a life. But no matter how much Wen Li was short of money and borrowed everywhere, she never complained about Tong Zhi, saying that he earned less, did not work, and his family was poor.
The one who loves deeply between men and women is always a loss. But the one who suffered even more was the one who never paid attention to it. Tong Zhi can fiercely throw four children and a sick old man to Wen Li, pursue his career, pursue ideals at the same time, but without any sense of boundaries, he is ambiguous with female colleagues, and he is not grateful for his wife's efforts.
Even the mother-in-law said that Wen Li suddenly changed people after Tong Zhi went to the third line. They were only happy with Wen Li's change, but they had never experienced her heartache. Why did she suddenly become so powerful, from a little woman who couldn't cook to being able to keep the house organized, and not full-time, but outside of work. Because she has no dependence, there are old and young, and the man is gone, she should be the pillar of this family.
The most shameful thing in the world is not that the man cheats, but that he rightly says after he cheats because you become strange, sloppy, and can't keep up with his rhythm. Yes, she has changed, from beautiful as a flower to a sloppy aunt, from a wind flower and snow moon to chai rice oil and salt, from a bird to an aggressive person, only to care about disgust and only to change her heart, but never think about how she became like this. Why is it that other people's wives are getting better and better, is it just the reason for other people's wives?
We also don't know why Wen Li finally walked with Tong Zhi, maybe there is no love and affection between them, maybe decades of day and night together, has long regarded each other as an inseparable person in life... Whatever the reason, it is cruel for the victim. After all, no matter what kind of mood Wen Li used to accept Tong Zhi, she was wholehearted. And Tong Zhi only retreated to wen li because Li Tianjiao left and could not be together.
As long as you think of Li Tianjiao coming back again, Tong Zhi's happiness, because Li Tianjiao ignored his unconvinced energy, re-reunited in the Western restaurant to remember the scene of the first coffee drink, across the screen was Tong Zhi's slag to the lungs, admiring this kind of man who has a person in his heart, but can live with another person in peace. More wenli's compromise laments it.
In real life, it seems that once a man does not love, he says to leave, and the children and the elderly seem to be the responsibility of women. But the woman did not love, was hurt, looked at the crying child, and instantly forgot the grievances she had suffered. It seems that no matter how much identity a man is given, he is always himself, can attach an identity, and can also leave at any time. But a woman, once she becomes a mother, there is no longer the word willful in her world. She never lived for herself again for the rest of her life.
I remember tong Zhi said to Dazhuang when he divorced and moved out, "I lived for others for the first fifty years, and I wanted to live for myself in the last fifty years" I wanted to ask, who did he live for in the first fifty years, in his eyes, wives, children, and mothers, are all others? Isn't that his responsibility? He wanted to live for himself while ever wondering when his wife would be able to live for herself?
"Have you ever slept with her" "No"
"Ever thought about sleeping with her" "No"
When we heard Tong Zhi answer two "no", Wen Li smiled like a flower, but we in front of the TV set felt that the smile was even uglier than crying. Don't you already know that your man has another woman in his heart, it is left to you a soulless shell, why do you still ask such stupid questions, and still believe such a wrong lie. What the hell are you after in this life, just keep this man's person? A lifetime of begging for a lifetime, just to get a lie?
Being injured to the skin can continue to be together, being disappointed in a lifetime a lie can be healed, living like that can also hold a golden wedding, Wen Li compromised again and again, telling the sadness of many victims in marriage!
If you were Wen Li, how would you choose?