Wen Li and Li Tianjiao had a brief and incendiary encounter.
At that time, wen li and Tong Zhi's relationship had just warmed up a little, but Li Tianjiao suddenly parachuted in and became the new director of Tong Zhi's factory, and her appearance made the marriage between the two of them that was difficult to warm up also appeared in crisis again.
Wen Li was heartbroken, crying and drying her tears, and was advised by Wen Xiu and Wen Hui not to always work against Tong Zhi, but to use the Huairou policy, in their words: "Whoever lets the young bully come to you, that will make him always hold you, and now you have to die and hold people," this is called retribution."
Although Wen Li was unwilling, but in the end still listened to the words of her sisters, this day, she thought of giving Tong Zhi a chance to "perform", increase the feelings of the husband and wife, she "carried the oil drum, carried the apple, carried the fish" to find him in the factory, who knew that the office door opened, but suddenly bumped into Li Tianjiao and Tong Zhizheng looking up at her with embarrassment.
When the love enemy meets, it is inevitable that there will be a war of words, sneering, taunting Li Tianjiao, Wen Li "has a domineering look in her eyes that dominates the scene" and let Tong Zhi take something home together.
Li Tianjiao wanted to be polite and help take it, but Wen Li said pointedly:
You can't, be careful that this fish is stained with fishy hands, can't be washed off, and has a fishy smell for a week.
When Li Tianjiao heard this, he subconsciously let go of his hand. Wen Li said meaningfully: This life is a real knife and gun work, but it is not a trick.
Wen Li's words made Li Tianjiao stunned in embarrassment, and she looked at the back of Tong Zhi and Wen Li leaving, and her expression was unprecedentedly embarrassed.
In the original work, the author used "the domineering spirit that dominates the scene" to describe Wen Li's aura of "originally matching Hao tore green tea", and there was not a word of rude words in the whole scene, but Li Tianjiao was dumbfounded, which made people see both hatred and anger.
Although the first time the two met, Wen Li gave Li Tianjiao a complete dismount, but in Wen Li's words, she hid how many grievances she had nowhere to tell, and how many married women's heartaches were hidden.
Li Tianjiao lost to Wen Li in the battle of words, but she won Wen Li in life for a lifetime.
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Wen Li is right, living is a real knife and gun work, Li Tianjiao will not bury himself in the crumble of chai rice oil and salt, will not let his hands be stained with fish, and will not give up a good future for a man, buried in fireworks to take care of the elderly and children, and turn himself into a yellow-faced woman without compromise.
She put all her thoughts on her career, when Wen Li plunged into marriage and dedicated her life to her husband, children, and mother-in-law, she opened up all the way in her career and lived into the appearance of Tong Zhigao.
Wen Li is proud when talking about the family, she is proud that she has four children, proud of her youth for marriage, and has become a yellow-faced woman for the family, all of which Li Tianjiao can't do with this "three", but her pride is permeated with helplessness and sadness.
When Wen Li was young, she was also like Li Tianjiao, she had a beautiful yearning for love, unlimited expectations for marriage, she liked to read Soviet novels, liked to drink coffee, and her face was always full of youthful vitality and enthusiasm.
Like the young Li Tianjiao, she is strong, decent, pays attention to the quality of life, and is also pretentious.
Such a beautiful woman, after marriage, but from a ten-fingered spring water, can not cook and do not know how to save the girl, to wash and cook with a baby to take care of the elderly one-stop middle-aged women, she perfectly interpreted the role of a girl to a wife.
In this process, she slowly became mature, became frugal, became a virtuous wife who could pick up and tidy up, wash and cook, and also became a nagging and unforgiving yellow-faced woman in Tong Zhi's eyes.
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Li Tianjiao appeared at this time, she took the playfulness and delicacy of a little girl, and made Tong Zhi, who was oppressed by life and marriage, feel like a spring breeze.
They talk about life and ideals, sing little songs, drink coffee, and talk about love like young people.
Compared with the shortness of parents, the illness of the mother-in-law, and the children's growth worries, Tong Zhi felt a moment of relaxation and pleasure in Li Tianjiao's body.
But he never thought that it was Wen Li who took care of the sick Tong mother day and night, shouldering the responsibility he should shoulder, and he had the time to drink coffee leisurely with Li Tianjiao; it was Wen Li who grabbed the child with one hand and the housework with the other hand, and supported the whole family, so that he had time to see the tenderness of other women.
The first half of Wen Li's life, just like Li Tianjiao's arbitrary willfulness, she is the princess of the mother's family from small to large, is the protagonist who shines everywhere, is the queen of Tong Zhi's pet in the heartache to the bone, is a small woman who makes a meal and washes a dish and will make Tong Zhi's hands thicker, is a "jealous woman" who wears a Braji spit on the waist of the Zhuang sister-in-law's bucket and follows the wind, and is a little daughter-in-law who is afraid to live with her mother-in-law.
When did she stop buying Braji and learned to make careful calculations for the sake of a family of seven; she stopped paying attention to the thickening of her hands, but skillfully washing and cooking; she was no longer picky about her mother-in-law, but did her best to take care of her as a biological mother.
When she learned that Tong Zhi "did not touch Li Tianjiao's person, but touched her heart", she no longer made any noise or making trouble, but like a ostrich, she turned a blind eye.
When she saw Tong Zhi quit smoking, Yan Ni said, "My father was transformed by someone", she only replied lightly, "Take care of yourself, don't mess with it." ”
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The second half of Wen Li's life was spent in suffocation, pain and forbearance, just like the first time she confronted Li Tianjiao, the "domineering spirit that dominated the scene" made Li Tianjiao dumb and speechless, the surface seemed to tear domineering and painful, and the heartache and pain after turning around were swallowed by her alone.
Living a life is real work, rice, oil and salt, fireworks in the world, the elderly and children, mortgages and car loans, no matter how many sores and holes there are between husband and wife, still for a complete home and endure.
In real marriage, there are many women like Wen Li.
Two days ago also brushed a video, there is a man said that the wife does not care about the family, every day to go out to eat and drink every day after ten o'clock will come home, he has to cook alone and take the child to bathe and sleep, the day is miserable, that day the wife did not return until more than ten o'clock, he threw his wife out of the house in a huff.
The wife said that her husband had never cared about the family before, the two had been married for six years to wash and cook with their children, and every time the two quarreled, the husband would let her roll, and she had been kicked out by her husband many times.
The reason why she is so desperate to make money is to be able to afford to live in a hotel when she is driven out, her current job has not been done for long, she is a store manager, usually the off-duty time is ninety o'clock, sometimes occasionally with the company's employees to dinner, the husband who is used to throwing hands and treasurers is bored after a few days of children, that day is directly let her hold the child out of the house.
Considering that the child was still young, although she was thrown out of the house by her husband at every turn, the wife still compromised every time.
There is a saying that when people reach middle-aged marriage, they have thought about it badly, and they want to be inseparable, probably because of this, just like Wen Li, for responsibility, for the family, for the children, for those parents and relatives who are worried about you, bear with it, and a lifetime will pass.
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"Golden Marriage" tells the touching story of husband and wife from love to flatness, and then to hand in hand to old age, and the tiredness, complaints, coldness and forbearance in those marriages in the story are our real lives.
Wen Li's life seems to be complete, but in the middle, she hides her inexhaustible grievances, and also hides the heartache of countless married women.
They give up their ideals so that men can pursue their careers without distraction; for the sake of their children, they take care of the big and small things in the family without complaint or regret.
A man can be seen in front of people because there is a woman who has settled the backyard.
But she does not complain, does not mean that she is not wronged; she does not ask, does not mean that she does not have desire, she just sacrificed herself, completed the harmony of the family, she willingly became a "yellow-faced woman", with fishy hands to support the whole family, because in this family, there are people she loves!
Therefore, I hope that every husband can understand the wife who silently pays for the family, do not dislike her nagging, do not dislike her body deformation, and do not let her pretend to be strong and "domineering" to bear the storms and rain you bring to her from the outside world.
Those warmth and happiness in the marriage are exchanged for the recognition and love between the husband and wife, and I hope that all couples can survive the blandness of middle age, survive the temptations of the outside world, survive all the way through the wind and rain, and work together to go to the happy golden marriage.