Around us, as long as parents and children have conflicts, contradictions, or quarrels between elders and juniors, basically it will be considered to be the problem of children and juniors. It is because of the relationship between generations that preconceived notions, thinking that parents and elders are for the good of their children. But in fact, there are many things that cannot only be superficial, nor can they be preconceived. The so-called fatherly kindness and filial piety, brotherhood and brotherhood, do not express that the emotional relationship is mutual. Graph network.
Parents love their children and give them a good education, and their children are also reasonable and know how to take care of their parents in their old age; older brothers and sisters take care of their younger siblings, which naturally can also be exchanged for the respect and fraternity of younger siblings. On the contrary, parents and elders have not played a good exemplary role, eccentric eyes, unclear, how can you ask the younger generations to have a sincere return to you? As a daughter-in-law, Li Juan was divorced because she did not take care of her mother-in-law who was paralyzed in bed.
Many people said that under the circumstances at that time, it was indeed Li Juan who was the most suitable to take care of her mother-in-law. And as a daughter-in-law, she also has the obligation to assist her husband in filial piety to her in-laws. But these are all superficial phenomena, Li Juan is unwilling to take care of her mother-in-law, to put it bluntly, she is chilled by her mother-in-law and her husband. In Li Juan's own words: "If you do the first year, I can only do fifteen, and everyone has to bear the consequences for their choices." ”
Li Juan was born in an ordinary family, she also has a younger brother, but her parents do not value sons over daughters, her life is actually OK. It's just that her father is grumpy and scolds his wife at every turn, which makes Li Juan very afraid. Under the influence of her father, she did not like people with loud voices, talking and doing things.
She and her husband Zhao Qiang are blind dates, Zhao Qiang personality Wooden, it can be said that three sticks can not beat a fart. Maybe in the blind date market, the personality of boys is not likable. But it just happened to be in Li Juan's eyes, after all, Li Juan was looking for a loyal and honest person with a good temper, and she didn't want to live such a life as her mother. However, Li Juan did not realize at that time that some people were loyal and honest, had a good temper, and indeed did not like to talk, but they could carry it clearly, reasoned, and knew it in their hearts.
Some people have a good temper because the strong parents on the stall are used to obedience, so they don't like to talk. Such loyalty and honesty are most likely unclear and filial piety to parents. Unfortunately, Zhao Qiang belongs to the latter kind. Because both men and women have a good impression of each other, and the families of both sides can be regarded as door-to-door, the marriage between the two was quickly fixed. In fact, some people have also advised Li Juan, saying that Zhao Qiang also has a younger brother, a family of two brothers, who has no real skills, and really needs to think about it carefully.
But Li Juan felt that the big guys were worried, after all, she also had a younger brother, and her parents were just as good to the two children. Not to mention that Zhao Qiang is two brothers, and neither of them has the possibility of preferring sons to daughters. Because her parents did not favor herself and her brother, Li Juan could not understand that there are indeed parents in this world who treat their children with eccentric eyes, or unreasonable eccentric eyes. But soon after the marriage, Li Juan understood.
Married life and love talk are not the same, pay attention to a chai rice oil salt sauce vinegar tea, but not in love in love with sentient drinking water. Soon after the marriage, Li Juan became pregnant, and at first her mother-in-law promised to come and take care of Li Juan's confinement. Because of this commitment, Zhao Qiang asked Li Juan to know how to be grateful more than once during pregnancy, and not to think about why her wedding was much worse than her sister-in-law's wedding. But after Li Juan gave birth to a child, her mother-in-law pushed that the eldest grandson was sick and needed to be taken care of, and she couldn't leave, so she let Li Juan survive the confinement alone.
Later, Li Juan learned that her sister-in-law's child was just ordinary diarrhea, full of calculations, three days is good, and the mother-in-law is actually unwilling to come. And because he said good to his mother-in-law early, saying that his mother-in-law would take care of his confinement, he could only report good news and not worry, and did not let his mother-in-law's parents know their situation. Li Juan's heart has actually begun to be cold since this time, but if there is no follow-up, in fact, in the end, she will not turn a blind eye to her mother-in-law.
Li Juan had a job before she became pregnant and gave birth, and her salary was not bad, but after the maternity leave, the child was not taken with her. The mother-in-law is willing to help the eldest son's family to do things, but she is not willing to help Li Juan, the little daughter-in-law, with children. There was no way, Li Juan could only resign and become a full-time mother. But in this way, Li Juan had no salary, and when her savings ran out, she reached out and asked Zhao Qiang for money. Her mother-in-law's dissatisfaction with her began to intensify, saying that she didn't make money, she knew how to spend money.
More times, Zhao Qiang also began to be dissatisfied, thinking that his mother was not wrong, he worked so hard to make money, but the family could not save money. The brother's family is said to be able to save a lot of money every month, so he also began to complain about Li Juan, who had the same face as his mother. But he forgot that the reason why his brother's family was able to save money was because there was a mother who took money to subsidize it, a mother with a child, took care of the housework, and the husband and wife just had to go to work to make money.
If the same conditions were put on Li Juan, the family could not have no savings. In the face of her husband's dissatisfaction, a strong comparison between herself and her sister-in-law, thinking that Li Juan is not virtuous and cannot control money. Li Juan is also discouraged, sometimes, completely destroying a person's hope, in fact, there is no need to do it, the sarcasm of words is enough. Since the child was 3 years old, Li Juan and Zhao Qiang, there is not much to say, after she found a part-time job, less times to ask for money, Li Juan is more reluctant to talk to Zhao Qiang.
If it were not for the fact that the children had a complete family, Li Juan would have filed for divorce long ago. But now, she only hopes to live a "polite" life for the sake of her children. But unfortunately, life did not make her wish. When the son was 8 years old, the two were married for 10 years, and the mother-in-law suffered a small stroke and was paralyzed. Probably in terms of treatment, there is no problem, both sons are willing to pay. But who will take care of the mother-in-law after being discharged from the hospital has become a problem.
Everyone has to go to work, only Li Juan because she has to take care of the children, just part-time part-time work, in terms of time, it is indeed Li Juan is more suitable. So everyone pinned their hopes on Li Juan, and the eldest brother proposed that if Li Juan was not happy, he could pay 1,000 yuan per month. But Li Juan refused, her reason is very simple, the feelings are mutual, how my mother-in-law treated me at the beginning, I did what I did to her. I will not settle down for 1,000 yuan, to take care of an elder who is difficult for me and targets me.
This pressure has reached Zhao Qiang's side, in order to give an explanation to his mother and brother, in order not to disappoint his mother. He wanted to be a good son who was filial piety, so he threatened Li Juan with divorce: "I refuse to pay you to take care of your mother-in-law, and I don't want to divorce if I don't want to pass." Li Juan happily agreed, and Zhao Qiang, for the sake of face, pretended that it didn't matter, and happily signed the divorce. But he soon regretted it, because the family was a mess without Li Juan, and he didn't even have to wear clean clothes, let alone have ready-made hot dishes and hot rice to eat.
Coupled with the fact that he and his brother took turns taking care of their mother, he finally realized that Li Juan's difficulties were not easy. But it is too late to regret it, after the divorce of Li Juan, life only needs to take care of herself and her children. When the child is older, she can also find a formal job, life is very comfortable, no matter how Zhao Qiang apologizes, she is not willing to turn back and remarry.
Whether Li Qian's mother-in-law has regrets, we don't know. But when she treats her two daughters-in-law with one preference, she actually puts her eggs in a basket, so she can only accept the final result. It may be a little realistic to say this, but in fact, between the mother-in-law and daughter-in-law who are not related by blood, is it not that you respect me a foot, and I still have a foot? Coupled with the fact that the son who is a bond is not clear, and follows his mother to his wife, then this daughter-in-law does not even have the last love that can be pinned on, so what kind of "unfilial" choice to make can actually be understood.